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ENFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFPs in Love

In relationships, the ENFP is warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.

ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back. They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular. On the rare occasion that they object to a mate's behavior, it's likely to be because their values have been violated.

Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings. They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion. ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads. They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.

ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads. They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need. The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.

ENFPs as Parents

As parents, ENFPs are creative and devoted. They enjoy creating new experiences for their families and want to inspire their children to grow as individuals. Although they can be very passionate in their ideas about correct behavior, they are not often strong disciplinarians; they value close relationships above all else and may avoid discipline for fear that it will distance them from their children.

ENFPs deeply value their role as parents. However, they tire quickly when subjected to mundane chores and demands from their children. They get the most joy out of parenting when they are connecting emotionally with their children and joining them to explore possibilities for the future.

ENFP Communication Style

ENFPs are enthusiastic, collaborative communicators who love exploring possibilites for people. They often enjoy getting to know other people and understanding what inspires them, and they are insightful about solutions to personal problems. Highly empathic, the ENFP can find something to identify with in almost every person they meet, and enjoys encouraging other people to develop and grow. ENFPs are typically optimistic and like to talk about opportunities for the future, motivating others to join them in their vision.

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Jack JPJ (not verified) says...

So I'm in my second last year of "high school" in Ireland, and with the whole pandemic thing going on I've been given a lot of time to reflect on what course I should aim for. I had my mind set on Biomedical Sciences but the more i thought of being in a lab day in day out (not hating on it, just not for me), the more I realised i'd hate it. I've been considering taking the Politics and International Relations route to aim to be a diplomat, their jobs seem diverse and travel in a job is something i'd really benefit from. I know I'd really enjoy experiencing different cultures, even if it may be in less than desirable conditions as a diplomat possibly working in war torn or impoverished countries. The only thing that I worry about a little bit is the salary, one of my main concerns is that I can live comfortabe and progress and I don't know if that's  big possibility with diplomacy - I haven't really got anyone to speak to about that I won't lie! I really don't think lab sciences would be for me, even though i really enjoy learning about the science. If anyone has any recommendations, any jobs similar to diplomacy or maybe even a different kind of job that still involves biomed but allows for more flexibility in terms of what work you do, please let me know! I might have left something out, but I think thats everything! Thanks :) 

Merrill s (not verified) says...

Perhaps something in the biomedical sales arena.  Travel possibilities, being with people and science could be a part of this career path.  Best of luck

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Ashley !!! (not verified) says...

Hi Jack JPJ! I stood in the exact same shoes as yourself, several years ago. As a student who recently wrapped up their undergraduate degree, I went in with the goal of studying biomedical sciences, and my heart was absolutely set on it. When applying to universities, I had applied to quite a few but the only program I really set myself up for was biomedical sciences. In time, I did study what I loved but what I loved was a biomedical science-type program with the flexibility for a good handful of electives. As a person who tends to have a lot of interests, albeit ones that can conflict (like the natural sciences and the field of communications), those electives did me a service that I will forever be thankful for. Instead of boxing myself off in terms of career paths, I found psychology which I absolutely loved. Some people hate PSYCH 101 courses, but I loved mine. I found a real niche in developmental and social psych, and in trying to combine all of my interests into a career pursuit, I found genetic counselling! It could be a good way to combine your interests, too, if psychology and being with people, that type of interpersonal work, really speaks to you! The profession is really picking up, too, with the increasing predominance of genetic testing being out there.  I wish you all the best in your pursuits and hope you find what makes your heart sing!

AcoraFla (not verified) says...

Hey Jack, funny I actually started studying biomedical sciences but then the course got cancelled while I was on it (fun times) so I then switched to Chemistry and completed my masters in Medicinal Chemistry. One problem, I really did not enjoy working in a lab day in day out. I found it far too repetitive, boring and honestly I much prefer working with people. I also love to travel and for the last 3 years have been working for a charity all around Europe and Asia working with refugees/ many other things and loved the diversity of work and people. I was ready for the next challenge and am now working in Business (management/ supply chain/ marketing etc..).

I guess, what I'm trying to say is don't worry about trying to figure it all out right now.. Pick a subject that you enjoy and that gives you transferable skills, work hard, take risks, explore your options and along the way you'll find the job that is right for you. And if you then wanna try something else - do it..most people don't end up staying in the same job as what they studied for anyway. I found that for me Chemistry gave me that flexiblitiy as it looked good to a number of different professions but honestly I didn't know that at uni and I don't think the actual degree mattered that much. 

Hope that helps in some way & good luck with everything!

Cora

Pratyusha says...

Why can't ENFPs be dentists???

Rune Norderhaug (not verified) says...

I would imagine that it may be the percieved lack of connections as well as percieved possible monotony. Remember many of these may be more releated to how we are likely to think about those jobs rather than if we would actually be good at those jobs.

For example, ny fellow ENFP might enjoy  computer science releated positions that are suggested aganist more if they had previousily participated in stuff like attending hackathons more since that is a very social event.

I know personally one of the ones on the list chemists; I had my own feelings aganist doing because though I was good at it, the work seemed very boring and overly methodological compared to fields I enjoyed more such as Biology(though even since I was a child, I desired to be a biologist) or Psychology even though I knew knowledge for those would require knowledge from chemistry too.

 

Dr.dee (not verified) says...

Oh please I'm an enfp and a dentist. Yes I get bored out easily but dentistry isn't boring. In fact the learning period has more opportunity to express your artistic side than any other professional course available. Yes at times my non clinical work gets mundane, but that's not my regular job, when there's a challenging case and a well executed treatment and outcome, I feel very alive. It is never the same procedure. I did pg in periodontics which is a surgical department so i don't do regular cavity fillings. Prosthodontics and orthodontics are other departments that bring out ur cretative And analytical side. And I'm still looking to expand my horizons by attending workshops and doing fellowships. I'm looking to do an implant course to make my work more diverse. I don't like working for someone and so I'm looking to set up my own clinic soon. What's more u get to meet a lot of new people everyday in your practise. Please go for it. I love my job. 

Dr.dee (not verified) says...

Also, nothing to look down upon regular cavity fillings. Every cavity is different, in size, shape and severity and requires different techniques and materials sometimes more than one the same teeth. It's extremely technique sensitive and artistic in nature. I can forget the whole world and time just flies if I have some composite cement in hand. Trust me, dentistry is anything but boring. U need to work hard. U can do it only if u r passionate. And enfps are naturally passionate towards artistic and creative handwork and can turn out to be the best candidate for dentistry. 

WBN (not verified) says...

I'd say a dentist would be so boring! Plus..it's mundane. Same ol' cavity to fill. Or just another root canal to perform. Can't really think outside the box. Methods are what they are. Not much creativity needed to work on teeth! 😂

Marylou Martin Del Campo (not verified) says...

Coming from someone who was a dental assistant for a SHORT time, I can say with confidence that dentistry is not good for us. It is as repetitive as it gets and I got burned out so quickly. I was only a dental assistant for about 6 months and it was the longest 6 months of my life. It felt like 2 years.

Sophiasworld_x3 (not verified) says...

I was also a dentist assistant and it was actually really interesting but at the same time I thought it would make much more fun being the dentist than the assistant cause that was really repetetive and got boring real quick. In the end I had to quit that job after 3 month bc of health issues and psycological issues that came from the people that worked at that place and all in all it was just a really bad time for me but job as a dentist (from what I saw first hand) seemed really interesting and fun

J E (not verified) says...

They can -- I am. I like to think it's not so much about the career itself, rather how you approach it. Being an ENFP means you're very personable -- I think that's a fantastic trait for a dentist to have (especially one that works with children, as I do). I enjoy my job and the work I do, and what I do to help other people, and I enjoy connecting with others in that way. Anyone who says that someone of a particular MBTI type can't have a particular career just plain doesn't know what they're talking about. People within the same profession have different approaches to dealing with problems, people and situations -- and all types of people can bring something to the table in any career they're passionate about. 

Masso (not verified) says...

I been searching for programs to learn. Every program I read about sounded good with its pros and cons. I have always thought of pilot in grade 10 for the travel purpose then moved to psyhcology and socicology to shape and coop with indivivuals thoughts process to now criminology to understand where criminals came from and reason for committed crime. Every program I convinced myself I was doing fell from the restricted four year program that gave opitions of five jobs in the same field. I don't like being in the same place for years. I took a personilaty quiz to find I'm a Champion, which lead me to this site which made me realize why I choose to do the things I do. I'm good at giving my friends realization to see the bigger picture, which why I feel some sort of social work would be good for me. But I crave to do the unexpreienced till expreienced. I love trying new things, cause I get bored of the same old. Hope somebody who understands me as much I relate to all you, can help me with my choice of programs cause I'd been learning every damn program if I could. Also steady income would be nice but also love a challenage. Maybe some advice cause being a young male champion is hard, tried to change but reading this made me only want to embace it.

MJ Farina (not verified) says...

Ha. I completely understand. There was a running joke in my family that I was working up the alphabet in terms of careers. I started off in an Aeronuatics program, then went to beauty school, then studied criminal justice and became a cop, tried being an executive secretary (good lord, that was the absolute WORST for our personality type, lol)...then  made a big alphabet jump and became a nurse...where I worked as a floor nurse, than a dialysis nurse, then a nurse educator, than a clinical support specialist which means I do a lot of teaching...a lot of re evaluating of plans and coming up with a new ones on a dime when necessary. I love that. Im good at it. You probably are too.  I finally settled in the CSS role BECAUSE....every week is different....I travel somewhere different each week as well...I meet lots of people all the time but at the end of the day, I retreat to the quiet of my hotel room so I can recharge. I need that. So I hear you...and I told you all of this to get you thinking. I know the feeling of wanting to try so many different things and at some point, annoyingly , you have to settle on something!!! So think about a profession that dosent keep you cooped up in one place. But if it does, the people you deal with should change pretty consistently. Think about careers that value thinking outside of the box for solutions...something very detail oriented isnt likely to work out for you.  Something that allows you to be creative, and I dont necessarily mean artsy...just interesting ways to look at or do something. My resume may make me look so flighty but Im not. Every job change was something that added to my skills and experiene and made me more marketable till I finally found this dream job that roped me in for the last 14 years. I make a great salary too. The difference between me and many other nurses lets say, like you ,  I looked for  WHAT ELSE I could do in the field. And I think you should trust your intial instict and follow that. For instance...with criminal justice you can become a cop...which means you can become a recruiter...or a detective....or a police academy instructor...or a fire arms range instructor,...or a comunity affairs specialist...the opportunities are endless. Same for a nurse...you can be a floor nurse...or a charge nurse....or a manager....or an educator....or a health promotion specialist....or informatics specialist. Again, endless opportunities. The hard part is at some point you need to pick something and go with it . Go with what can maybe also cross into other occupations altogether. You also need to consider how much schooling you are willing to do. Psychology is great but you have to get the Phd to have max opportunity which is tough, but glorious when you are done because then there will be SO many cool things you can  do !! If I hadnt become inpatient, I would have gone that route. Heck if you like criminology, major in forensic psych , get your Phd and maybe you can become a profiler! How cool would THAT be??? Ugggg....on second thought...maybe another ENFP isnt the best peson to help you with this paticular issues, lol. Anyway, at least I hope you feel understood. Everyone always thought I was a flighty and flakey person and it woudl make me feel bad about myself until I learned I was an ENFP and EVERYTHING made sense. You're not flightly...you are smart and have an imaginative and creative mind... Im always reminded of a song that says "after all it was a great big world, with lots of places to run to!"....thats like the ENFP anthem, lol. I get you. We get you. Maybe what you have to come to terms with is that whatever you decide on in school you will HAVE to find a way to get thru the monotony of some classes or chapters or things that require detail. Those are the things that can frustrate you and think forget it , this is NOT what I want to do!! Just keep looking at the BIGGER pictue to get you thru the parts of schooling that are especially challenging for an ENFP.   Figure out what one profession offers the most diverse opportunity and also feeds your passion amd see the program to the end. You can do this.  I wish I could catch up with you in a few years and hear where your journey eventually led you. Good luck!    

Emma_Diamond (not verified) says...

I NEEDED this, thank you so much. I feel less alone and silly already! I hope you're well.

Wizzard Lately (not verified) says...

Farina - that was one of the best comments I have read in years of reading online. Its simple but bursting with understanding and energy. I too am an ENFP and I've lived a life on a roller-coaster that's taken me from one job to the next. From one explosion of cerebral ectasy to the next that dragged me through the pits of depression hell. I've had jobs that have left me so exhausted I couldn't speak properly when it was complete because I had exhausted myself and loved every minute. Another job I gave so much I had a mild stroke, but I wouldn't swap the experience for the world teaching students English in the ME. The job that gave me the biggest buzz was in the British military. I was trained and worked in Special Ops. It was the best - but once I'd passed all the hard parts I jacked it in and went looking for the next challenge. Put simply I couldn't keep a job for more than a couple of years. A tell tale sign would be when I would find myself looking out the window of an office or some such when I should have been working. I suppose when a final conclusion is reached I'm a variety addict and there ain't no cure. FYI I bunked off most of my last year in school. Why? Because it had become so excruciatingly boring. Have a great day.

Ayodele Fiyinfoluwa Esther (not verified) says...

OMGG.. why do i think this may be my story soon😂. Cheers

Masso (not verified) says...

I been searching for programs to learn. Every program I read about sounded good with its pros and cons. I have always thought of pilot in grade 10 for the travel purpose then moved to psyhcology and socicology to shape and coop with indivivuals thoughts process to now criminology to understand where criminals came from and reason for committed crime. Every program I convinced myself I was doing fell from the restricted four year program that gave opitions of five jobs in the same field. I don't like being in the same place for years, I've already have had 5 different part-time jobs since 2017 with many volentenerrting experiences. I just took a personilaty quiz to find I'm a Champion, which lead me to this site which made me realize why I choose to do the things I do. I'm good at giving my friends realization to see the bigger picture, which why I feel some sort of social work would be good for me. But I crave to do the unexpreienced till expreienced. I love trying new things, cause I get bored of the same old. Hope somebody who understands me as much I relate to all you, can help me with my choice of programs cause I'd been learning every damn program if I could. Also steady income would be nice but also love a challenage. Maybe some advice cause being a young male champion is hard, tried to change but reading this made me only want to embace it.

Cal Carter says...

I can agree with most of the results except I didn't see anything about being physically active and the enjoyment of being out in nature. I love art and can appreciate it but if my life depended on drawing a stick man i would not be long for this world. I am a teacher and I have had to make myself be organized, it is a challenge because I just want to reach my kids and see them reach their full potential, and get them through this difficult life of high school.

Someguy (not verified) says...

This fits me perfectly except... Im Inteoverted extroverted, so basicly im shy but i love to socialise with close friends.

Threeletterman says...

When is your birthday?

Sandra says...

Are you gonna ckaculate the birth chart 😂😂 I feel like this and astrology are the two sides of a penny

Calem Hefley (not verified) says...

damn, i think i just found my soulmate

Curtis (not verified) says...

I agree with this, and with that as a fellow enfp with autism i respect the peace for enfps and how they work... huh, i just realized how rare autistic enfps are bc male enfos are only 8% and one in every 42 men are autistic. I also wonder how i work differently than normal enfps plus, im an aquarius 

Kellyb says...

My son has autism.  Interesting that you are an ENFP! I am and ENFP plus an aquarian.  What do you do for a living,  Curtis? 

 

Joe Rogogo (not verified) says...

I do get fed up of comments about the ENFP which make us appear to be inconsistent, distractive or scatty  airheads. Nothing could be further from the truth and I am sure it's the jealousy of the other types who do not have the range of vision and creativity, or the capability we have of turning our hands skilfully to anything we can dream is possible. We have confidence, charisma and foresight. We are exceptional at making people feel comfortable (even the stuffy, overly suspicious types who can drive us bananas). We are exceptional at language(s) including body language and nuance which makes us good comedians (observers and comic timing) . 

Contrary to some comments from other MBTI types (and you can tell I am re-setting the scoreboard here) we can indeed have huge persistance once committed or passionate to an idea. We can be in for the longhaul AND we finish what we start if it's our project, but we do it in a sporadic, haphazard way, which is how creativity works. BUT, what we find utterly boring is the process, the details, the interminable steps you need to arrive at the grand vision. We can invent anything but we might lack the scientific/practical mindset to put it into effect quickly enough for our kaleidoscopic minds. That's when defeat or boredom sets in. Not that we would call a wasted project "defeat," but rather "disappointment" that nobody else could see what a winning opportunity has gone by.  We see the future - what could be - and we want to bring it to humanity now. 

Let's take an example such as film making, or screen writing, one of the best mediums for ENFPs. We just want to see our vision translated on screen and find the unnecessary obstacles of the money men, financiers and intermediary agents a nightmare to deal with. "Why can't the actor see the screenplay? Who are you to decide for them?  Where's your enthusiam and passion? What do you mean it's far-fetched: it's the future genre! What excel spreadsheet figures? No, of course I don't know what the returns will be.Why is all this taking so long?"  You see, we've seen the big picture and the small detailed steps are infuriating. Maybe it is this that other types see as scattered behaviour, because we want to try everything; to travel everywhere, to understand the connections. So we believe that life should encompass being an aerial trapeze artist, a flight attendant, a comic book artist, a singer or actor in a grand movie, an interpreter with the UN, a skydiver or parkour runner., a teacher of philosophy, or a dare-devil horseback rider. Everything needs to be an adventure and there's not enough time in this lifetime to do it all. More like several lives at once.

What stops us? One of the major things an ENFP hates is rules. A new game is discovered and then, all of a sudden, the rule merchants want to create rules and regulations of play; you can't become proficient if you haven't studied or practiced and have not been awarded a piece of paper which tells you you've been certfied as competent. (Try telling that to famous golfers or comedians who try new things and are recognised as such because they broke the rule books that the scared and insecure types have created.) What's spontaneous about any of that?  Chaos reigns in the ENFP head because we believe chaos is how the Universe operates in a splendidly creative order. There that;s off my chest and  I rambling on like an ENFP...?.......Ok, who wants to go surfing?

MJ Farina (not verified) says...

Lol, LOVE this!! I agree 100% Surfing? Never tried it, sounds cool, LETS GO!! Tee hee

Mark Hipps-Figgs (not verified) says...

 All I am hearing from your commenst are the following  "ENFPs sometimes let their imaginations run wild and often perceive bad intentions that don’t really exist. Being hyper-alert and aware helps ENFPs improve their social comprehension, but reading between the lines only works when something is actually hidden there. If it isn’t, misunderstandings can occur and hurt feelings can damage good relationships. " LOL

 

Iserena C (not verified) says...

I love you!!!! You have said everything I have ever thought in my heart. So sad that I let the feelings of being scattered, overwhelm me for years and feel unaccomplished thought I have a masters degree and let people talk me out of my PHD program because I haven't even worked with my MBA! But I can do all the things I feel happy about without being stuck at a 9-5 everyday doing the same thing.. But that changes now. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! but I'll pass on the surfing, can't swim :)

Tw2020052096 (not verified) says...

This was beautifuly stated and inspiring as well! Goodness gracious have mercy on me Joe. Couldnt be any more accurate!

winifer skattebol (not verified) says...

What you say is so true! And it helps if you're a Gemini as well.

Sandra says...

Wow you're so impressive, what's your zodiac sign ?

Georgia (not verified) says...

Brilliantly said Joe, I couldn't agree more! We do what is important and has meaning. And creativity, chaos and order are all inextricably linked - Einstein would agree! 

CortneyGo (not verified) says...

Hallelujah!!! Thank you Joe! One other thought to add.... maybe, just maybe, sometimes we ENFP's don't finish those projects or meet those deadlines because our assistance/knowledge/creativity is needed by others around us whether at work, home, play....

GeoffreyR (not verified) says...

Well said! Other people always focus on "ENFPs can't commit to something" or " they're scattered" and that is such an overgeneralization! We're always the "flighty one", but can be insanely committed to seeing something through to the end. We just tend to get bored with all the minutae of rules and red tape from point A to point B.  At work, I'm very meticulous and detail oriented, but I also know that life is too short to fuss about things that don't really matter. 

Kathy (not verified) says...

I completely agree.  Once I completely set my ENFP mind to getting something done that I know NEEDS to be done,  I'm insanely committed to seeing it through. I may hate the details, but if those are what it takes to get it done, I will get them finished in order to proceed.  My doctor boss used the phrase "task oriented" to describe me.  My INTP hubby just uses "Anal Retentive"!😂 I am not flakey, scattered, or flighty...and I hate generalizations!  Haha!  

Tmoonchaser says...

I love your description! It's SO true and scattered, all at the same time! lol

coconut---------------------- (not verified) says...

...I agree though, i am a inconsistent, distractive and scatty airhead

Gueno (not verified) says...

I love it! 💛🎈💛🎈🎈🎈💛💛. It’s me. I’m an ENFP biiiiig time. It feels that I’ve had 100 lives already. Very hard to follow for people who don’t embrace systemic thinking, who don’t connect the dots. I’ve already studied art, been a real estate agent and now I’m a doctor in management, leading sustainability at a university level, painting and writing at home and having the best fun diners and parties at my place even with a double fractured leg. I married (now divorced) someone who was clearly far away from my type. It drove me totally nuts, impatient, infuriated. And it drove him nuts too. 

When we tried playing board games he wanted to read all the rules into details while I wanted to know the main goal and get started (for god sake), and see how it goes and figure it out on the way. Haha! 

I love our kids because they are super creative and this is fun. I believe that we are to put it simple: in touch with our soul, with our emotions, with the natural beauty of life. And we love to help others because we care deeply. We’re a force for good. Trying to inspire other’s to be their better self. Reach their full potential.  my life aim is to help other’s be happy, be mindful and conscious, in touch with their deep nature and with Mother Nature. Everyday I try to contribute to that so that we stop damaging our unique planet, so that we take care of ourselves, be kind to ourselves. So that we reach our most positive and loving human potential: Kind love. 

MJ Farina (not verified) says...

Lol, I love your description!! I have also had many careers....beautiican, cop, secretary, nurse. Ive gone to school for aircraft  maintanence, counseling, advanced practicenursing  and now Im about to start a Health Educators program. There are just so many cool things to do and so little time! I learned play guitar about a year ago, I joined aband, I quit a band, Ive done open mics, I write my own songs, I joined another band. All within a year time, lol. I love life. I love trying different thigs. I cant stand details. Your former maritial experience soudns exactly like mine! We drove each other crazy! I had to seriously laugh out loud when you talked about playing a board game! Exactly the same!!! I love being an ENFP and I love my fellow ENFP's. We rock!  

Sasha Boskovic (not verified) says...

Hey MJ! 

Looking for advice. Im 23 and im learning more about myself every day. The people pleasing attribute totally takes over my ability to make decisions and because I have a million ideas I don't know what to commit to and rebel for! What helped you find the right career? I'm worried I will spend a million years investing in the wrong direction! 

Wishing a fellow ENFP all the best! 

Jonny Richard (not verified) says...

Sasha - it's a curious thing about us, ENFP's. We often look outside of ourselves for guidance, advice and direction that actually resides within us. Usually we don't trust ourselves - which makes sense considering our expansive minds and our tendancy to judge our wide variety of interests as "flighty", "non-committal" or "scattered". In addition to judging ourselves (or falling prey to the judgments of others who don't understand us), we can easily distract ourselves from embracing the discomfort of focus, the awareness of the present moment or boredom by redirecting our energy towards something new, something exciting and something that feels better. Often times that something is outside of us - even when it comes to personal development, we seek books, podcasts, videos, and other "experts" that will help give us the keys to what we want.

To provide some additional context to your excellent question "What helped you find the right career?" - I would invite you to let go of the belief that there is just one "right" career for you and simply be open to the possibility of creating your own career path as you continue to discover and learn about yourself every day. If you're an ENFP, you already naturally think about how to help others, so Trust in that energy, be curious about what you enjoy doing and then explore how to bring those two things together with ease and flow (just by being more of who you already are). There's a famous quote by Zig Ziglar that might be appropriate here: "You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want".

Good luck to you and thank you for inspiring me to articulate my perspective regarding your question!

Hugs & high fives,
Jonny Richard - Conflict Resolution Coach with Cause & Effect

LdyGamer Twitter (not verified) says...

THIS!!! Joe, you are indeed a kindred spirit, pun intended. I just loved your *ahem* discussion on the wild, wily, witty and wonderful ENFP. I am one myself, of course, and I completely related to your uhh, comment! I probably would have made a similarily lengthy one but whyever for? You said it all my friend :D Well met and well said!

Khalsa (not verified) says...

you really nailed it with this description Joe.  Thank you for this.

AnINTJ (not verified) says...

This INTJ loves your type, but find this incorrect self evaluation infuriating.  What you have described here is a child, not a personality type.

Grow up, accept your weaknesses, and let others help you make the decisions you cannot.   Such is the human condition.

 

Jonny Richard (not verified) says...

It's curious to me that you love our type AND you are infuriated with our perspective of enjoying life and appreciating all of its variety. I prefer feeling good to being right. That said, you are absolutely correct in your assessment of our type. Spot on, my friend. You're the expert of your life experience and you have plenty of evidence to support your perspective that our personality type should "grow up, accept (our) weaknesses and let others help you make the decisions you cannot." 

I married an INTJ and we both found ways to love and accept one another without requiring a behavior or personality change. We help each other uncover the blind spots that our personality types block. It makes for fun & engaging (if not challenging and sometimes stressful) conversations!

If you have it all figured out - "the human condition" - why, then, do you need us to change? We'll be more than happy to allow you to be "right" and infuriated while we'll be over here being "incorrect" and happy...like so many beautiful children of this world (and aren't we all God's children anyway?). 

Sounds like a WIN-WIN, right?

:)

Hugs & high fives,
Jonny Richard - Conflict Resolution Coach with Cause & Effect

INFP (not verified) says...

I'm an INFP who is hooked on the ENFP type- you guys/girls rock! This response totally gave me joy. I just wonder if I can be in a romantic relationship with an ENFP. I adore them, but I may not be "S" enough to balance out all of his NP. As my mother puts it- "who will take care of all the concrete things like paying the bills and insurance?" But too much J and T I think can drive me crazy. Anyone has thoughts on the matter?

KiwiJulie (not verified) says...

Thankyou!

i have no desire to "grow up". 

if I can travel through this life and maintain the genuine wonderment and awe of a child - I will die happy. 

Mabel Monroe (not verified) says...

You nailed it.  Scary how much this described me and now I don't have to blame myself for being the way I am....thanks.

Tanner Bourne (not verified) says...

The way you describe us as ENFP's is the best description I've ever read. Thank you so much for this.

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