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ENFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFPs in Love

In relationships, the ENFP is warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.

ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back. They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular. On the rare occasion that they object to a mate's behavior, it's likely to be because their values have been violated.

Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings. They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion. ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads. They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.

ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads. They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need. The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.

ENFPs as Parents

As parents, ENFPs are creative and devoted. They enjoy creating new experiences for their families and want to inspire their children to grow as individuals. Although they can be very passionate in their ideas about correct behavior, they are not often strong disciplinarians; they value close relationships above all else and may avoid discipline for fear that it will distance them from their children.

ENFPs deeply value their role as parents. However, they tire quickly when subjected to mundane chores and demands from their children. They get the most joy out of parenting when they are connecting emotionally with their children and joining them to explore possibilities for the future.

ENFP Communication Style

ENFPs are enthusiastic, collaborative communicators who love exploring possibilites for people. They often enjoy getting to know other people and understanding what inspires them, and they are insightful about solutions to personal problems. Highly empathic, the ENFP can find something to identify with in almost every person they meet, and enjoys encouraging other people to develop and grow. ENFPs are typically optimistic and like to talk about opportunities for the future, motivating others to join them in their vision.

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Tmoonchaser says...

I love your description! It's SO true and scattered, all at the same time! lol

coconut---------------------- (not verified) says...

...I agree though, i am a inconsistent, distractive and scatty airhead

Gueno (not verified) says...

I love it! 💛🎈💛🎈🎈🎈💛💛. It’s me. I’m an ENFP biiiiig time. It feels that I’ve had 100 lives already. Very hard to follow for people who don’t embrace systemic thinking, who don’t connect the dots. I’ve already studied art, been a real estate agent and now I’m a doctor in management, leading sustainability at a university level, painting and writing at home and having the best fun diners and parties at my place even with a double fractured leg. I married (now divorced) someone who was clearly far away from my type. It drove me totally nuts, impatient, infuriated. And it drove him nuts too. 

When we tried playing board games he wanted to read all the rules into details while I wanted to know the main goal and get started (for god sake), and see how it goes and figure it out on the way. Haha! 

I love our kids because they are super creative and this is fun. I believe that we are to put it simple: in touch with our soul, with our emotions, with the natural beauty of life. And we love to help others because we care deeply. We’re a force for good. Trying to inspire other’s to be their better self. Reach their full potential.  my life aim is to help other’s be happy, be mindful and conscious, in touch with their deep nature and with Mother Nature. Everyday I try to contribute to that so that we stop damaging our unique planet, so that we take care of ourselves, be kind to ourselves. So that we reach our most positive and loving human potential: Kind love. 

MJ Farina (not verified) says...

Lol, I love your description!! I have also had many careers....beautiican, cop, secretary, nurse. Ive gone to school for aircraft  maintanence, counseling, advanced practicenursing  and now Im about to start a Health Educators program. There are just so many cool things to do and so little time! I learned play guitar about a year ago, I joined aband, I quit a band, Ive done open mics, I write my own songs, I joined another band. All within a year time, lol. I love life. I love trying different thigs. I cant stand details. Your former maritial experience soudns exactly like mine! We drove each other crazy! I had to seriously laugh out loud when you talked about playing a board game! Exactly the same!!! I love being an ENFP and I love my fellow ENFP's. We rock!  

Sasha Boskovic (not verified) says...

Hey MJ! 

Looking for advice. Im 23 and im learning more about myself every day. The people pleasing attribute totally takes over my ability to make decisions and because I have a million ideas I don't know what to commit to and rebel for! What helped you find the right career? I'm worried I will spend a million years investing in the wrong direction! 

Wishing a fellow ENFP all the best! 

Jonny Richard (not verified) says...

Sasha - it's a curious thing about us, ENFP's. We often look outside of ourselves for guidance, advice and direction that actually resides within us. Usually we don't trust ourselves - which makes sense considering our expansive minds and our tendancy to judge our wide variety of interests as "flighty", "non-committal" or "scattered". In addition to judging ourselves (or falling prey to the judgments of others who don't understand us), we can easily distract ourselves from embracing the discomfort of focus, the awareness of the present moment or boredom by redirecting our energy towards something new, something exciting and something that feels better. Often times that something is outside of us - even when it comes to personal development, we seek books, podcasts, videos, and other "experts" that will help give us the keys to what we want.

To provide some additional context to your excellent question "What helped you find the right career?" - I would invite you to let go of the belief that there is just one "right" career for you and simply be open to the possibility of creating your own career path as you continue to discover and learn about yourself every day. If you're an ENFP, you already naturally think about how to help others, so Trust in that energy, be curious about what you enjoy doing and then explore how to bring those two things together with ease and flow (just by being more of who you already are). There's a famous quote by Zig Ziglar that might be appropriate here: "You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want".

Good luck to you and thank you for inspiring me to articulate my perspective regarding your question!

Hugs & high fives,
Jonny Richard - Conflict Resolution Coach with Cause & Effect

LdyGamer Twitter (not verified) says...

THIS!!! Joe, you are indeed a kindred spirit, pun intended. I just loved your *ahem* discussion on the wild, wily, witty and wonderful ENFP. I am one myself, of course, and I completely related to your uhh, comment! I probably would have made a similarily lengthy one but whyever for? You said it all my friend :D Well met and well said!

Khalsa (not verified) says...

you really nailed it with this description Joe.  Thank you for this.

AnINTJ (not verified) says...

This INTJ loves your type, but find this incorrect self evaluation infuriating.  What you have described here is a child, not a personality type.

Grow up, accept your weaknesses, and let others help you make the decisions you cannot.   Such is the human condition.

 

Jonny Richard (not verified) says...

It's curious to me that you love our type AND you are infuriated with our perspective of enjoying life and appreciating all of its variety. I prefer feeling good to being right. That said, you are absolutely correct in your assessment of our type. Spot on, my friend. You're the expert of your life experience and you have plenty of evidence to support your perspective that our personality type should "grow up, accept (our) weaknesses and let others help you make the decisions you cannot." 

I married an INTJ and we both found ways to love and accept one another without requiring a behavior or personality change. We help each other uncover the blind spots that our personality types block. It makes for fun & engaging (if not challenging and sometimes stressful) conversations!

If you have it all figured out - "the human condition" - why, then, do you need us to change? We'll be more than happy to allow you to be "right" and infuriated while we'll be over here being "incorrect" and happy...like so many beautiful children of this world (and aren't we all God's children anyway?). 

Sounds like a WIN-WIN, right?

:)

Hugs & high fives,
Jonny Richard - Conflict Resolution Coach with Cause & Effect

KiwiJulie (not verified) says...

Thankyou!

i have no desire to "grow up". 

if I can travel through this life and maintain the genuine wonderment and awe of a child - I will die happy. 

Mabel Monroe (not verified) says...

You nailed it.  Scary how much this described me and now I don't have to blame myself for being the way I am....thanks.

Tanner Bourne (not verified) says...

The way you describe us as ENFP's is the best description I've ever read. Thank you so much for this.

Marie Ch (not verified) says...

I agree! I hate rules, they are so fucking annoying. My family breathes Though rules and tradition and proven methods its been so hard to live with them. They always dismiss any idea with "but what if". Needless to say am the black sheep. And yes if I can find something that doesnt bore me to death in the first 10 min Ill stick to that with a passion (until it does, anyways).

Derekjw75 (not verified) says...

Oh man you just described every bit of my son in the way he would describe it. I'm an INFP so we share a lot of interests, but I've really struggled to understand how my son operates and how to best support him but this was really helpful. Thank you.

Ricci Underwood (not verified) says...

I'm using "Kalidoscopic Mind" as a way to describe myself from now.

Colleen Noelle (not verified) says...

That was perfectly stated! At first i wanted to argue with you when you said we're not scattered, cause Lord knows it looks as such! You brought a little bit of clarity to this with your rant and i couldn't thank you enough!

Olivia Romao (not verified) says...

Fantastic Description!!! I totally resonate.

Mike D (not verified) says...

As a fellow ENFP, I approve this message! Hit it right on the head my brother!

Waynee (not verified) says...

I suffer from drug/alcohol addcition and depression/bi-polar/anxiety. I tried to kill myself by jumping from my 4-story apartment window one year ago. I broke my spine and a bunch of other shit and I've spent the last year of my life getting sober and learning how to walk again. I now walk with a cane. I wonder if this has anything to do with my personality type? Any other ENFP struggle with the same things? LMK. I'm smiling today. I'm happy to be alive.

Crispy (not verified) says...

That's awesome to hear. I struggle with addiction and have thought hey might be easier...thanks for sharing 

Natalee Cervantes (not verified) says...

Wayne, very happy to hear that you are alive and that you are smiling about it. Growing up I think I have struggled with alcohol addiction at such a young age. I don't think this alone is something that is influenced by our personality type. My siblings have struggled with addictions as well and they are not ENFP's. What has helped me with overcoming this addiction is focusing my energy on other things that don't cause me stress or detriment. I think as ENFP's we are very emotional and sometimes for me at least my emotions can be overwhelming which led me down to paths of destruction and addiction. Smiling with you today. Our positive mindset says we will make it through and be okay :) 

Le says...

Fellow ENFP friend here, hope you are reading this, because there is hope and restoration for you, there is someone who can heal your wounds and restore your health. Jesus loves you so deeply that He sacrificed his life for you. In one parable, He tells about two distinct types of houses men built. One who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell. But the other one did not fall, because it had been founded on the Rock! He can be the Rock in your life you can build a Life of true abundance upon. With love.

Alexa Nicholson (not verified) says...

Would MicroBiology be a good job for an ENFP? Or would the sitting at the desk portion be too boring

Catherine (not verified) says...

Hi Wayne, I wanted to respond to your message because you've been to the edge, gone over it, and come back. that should be recognised! I don't have the knowledge to confirm if certain personality types are more likely to have mental health issues but I suspect everyone can from all types. I'd like to say that I have overcome my darkest times and now live life with so much positivity and I know you can too. The turnarounds for me were Buddhism, meditation and, most recently, Solution Focused Practice, an approach I now use in my work as a counsellor. Good luck Wayne with your future🙂

Thomas says...

Im glad you are ok and love life. I'm an ENFP and I have a chronic pain condition. Before I developed it I was a world traveler, I worked for myself. After I developed it my life feel apart, I had to have good health insurance, I needed a stable income, and needed to keep to a 8-5 schedule in order for my pain to be manageable. I am an artist and prefer to stay up late so doing this felt almost impossible. It was very hard for me to drive to work or walk long distances. For a period of 6 months my wife had to get a job while I was attending a free pain managment program to manage my pain. She resented me, so she had an affiar with another man. She found my replacement and I divorced her. For a brief period i turned to alcohol as an escape.  I almost killed myself twice. I dont think suicide and addiction is an ENFP thing. I think it is in all of us. Sometimes our idea of life  doesnt meet our expectations. A tramatic event triggers us.  I lost my wife, friends and some family members because  I was no longer useful to them or they didnt understand what was happening to me....so they blamed me. But as an ENFP we have to be around people and when they leave us it hurts us to our soul. I had to learn to put myself 1st and to maintain a schedule and play by the rules to better myself. I also learned to meditate and live in the moment and to not be lonely. I learned that pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. And to fight for myself and not care about what people think. Im also happy to be alive. Enfps are optimistic and see all the great things in life. That is what we have going for us. What we need to do is not rely on people for our sense of self and to be more structured. That is the key. It really is one day at a time. 

LifsACelebration (not verified) says...

Be careful when being told you are bi-polar and accepting that diagnosis... I learned as a 40 something year old that I have ADD. I wondered several times if I had bi-polar disorder, but never experienced bouts of mania, so ruled it out myself. Undiagnosed and unmedicated, ADD/ADHDers typically struggle with addictions and chronic depression. Once I began meds for my ADD, I stopped cycling through regular periods of depression and was able to stop taking Fluoxetine/Prozac which I'd been on for at least a few years after fighting my doctor to not take it for 2-3 years. At the time, it was helpful, but I also ate sugar like a kid having a daily Halloween candy buffet!! My brain needs and craves stimulants- without my Adderall, it will get them some orher way. Depression should never be a diagnosis... it is a symptom of some root cause. In my case, ADD. If it hadn't been for my sister who is a Special Ed teacher, I would have accepted my bi-polar diagnosis, but she knew better, so I fought for what I believed and got the help I needed. It is very common, especially for ADDers to get misdiagnosed... we aren't hyper, but take a look at the living space, or office/desk, or car of an ADD/ADHDer and it is utter disorganization. Stacks and stuff on every available surface. I personally cannot go grocery shopping without it taking 2-3 hours in the store with a list! I get distracted, decide on new meals/recipes, forget items and have to go back to the same aisle over and over, then forget to put items back I changed my mind about, check my list/recipes over a dozen times, but forgot I was going to double the recipe and use x instead of y, then I remember and have to go back again... all because they were out of something and I don't want to have to repeat this process in yet another store! The simple things are incredibly difficult- that is the major difference between ADD/ADHDers and those w/out the condition; organizational abilities and focus abilities. Just wanted to put that out there for anyone who might benefit. :) 

Biopicnina (not verified) says...

Enfp. Bipolar. Anxeity, selfharm, panic attacs, flashbacks from trauma.. uuumm. I think thats about it. I really dont think our meyers brigg personality has much to do with our illness. How we express and cope with it sure, but it is an illness. Like diabetes it's something that just happens, out of our control. What was the point with this? Wait, I think I already made it. Man my head is a mess today. Glad you're feeling better. Dont give up.

Adrenaline Junkee (not verified) says...

Yep.  I was in the army and changed jobs several times before getting into the Special Forces.  Got out climbed towers and then went to university studying counseling where I then became a heroin addict for two years, almost topped myself.  Been clean for six months and now working with horses.  Life is good. 

I'm hearing you mate...

James W (not verified) says...

I am a part of several ENFP groups (because if we don't socialize I'm pretty sure we'd melt) and mental health, or the ailments affecting such, is a common topic and thread. Myself absolutely included.

I cannot objectively say if we're more liable to have depression or develop bipolar or suicidal tendencies, but I think we just FEEL it more. We're a very intense type, in all walks, and it manifests in those dire moments.

You're not alone, I'm not alone, and we're both smiling. It's kind of cool in a messed up way. 

Antoine (not verified) says...

Hey Waynee,   My name is Antoine, and I an a ENFP as well. I too, have struggled with drug and alcohol addiction.

 

Louise L (not verified) says...

I found friends are extremely important to an ENFP. Because you rely on friends' energy a lot, you need to be careful with what influence they bring to you. Choose them wisely. Caring too much about what other people think of you could make you feel miserable. Best wishes!

marritza caldaron (not verified) says...

im single and misserible............

Cristian Víctor-Vega (not verified) says...

Don't worry Marritza, by the way, ENFP here.  The best I can provide for you is to practice mindfulness.  Since ENFPs are philophiles, that is lovers of love, we must feed off of love.  One way to do this is to make a playlist of love songs; make sure you sing along!  Also, tune in your thoughts and feelings with the music; fantasize about what you and someone you love could be.  Ne is our primary function and seeing  "what could be" is extremely essential, specifically in an optimistic manner.  Fi is our secondary function, therefore if you have no one to express your feelings towards, music is the way to go, especially by singing and tuning in.  Like I said, we are lovers of love, and by sending out love to the universe, the universe will send us love back.  This way, you will notice that people care about you, and you will notice that people love you, and people will love you.  I mean c'mon, that's just how the Law of Attraction works.  Hence, keep your head up and be optimistic about life; pessimism only destroys an ENFP (trust me, I've been in the depths of reality and it's traumatized me).  I think that's about it for today.  But to sum it all up, just practice optimism, do what's best for you, and good luck at it.  Cheers!

Cindi (not verified) says...

I've never felt more attacked and understood in my life LOL I work in communications, am attending school to finish my bachelor in communications, and am a published children's book author. I would imagine the main charachter in my Jellibean Adventure series is an ENFP as well. I positively love connecting with people. I especially love to sit and listen to stories from elders in our community. 

Jesus (not verified) says...

since i'm a kid and an just wondering about what I am most of this stuff I can agree with except the "not caring about details part" because we sure do pay attention to things and people that care about

Trish98 (not verified) says...

I am actually very detailed oriented and I do like to keep things realistic. I don't like to focus on the terrible all the time though I mean who does? 
Found it strange that those traits are those of an ENFP (not focused on details/not wanting to discuss the harsh things in reality)

Chelsea Moore (not verified) says...

I love the Myers-Briggs personality assessments, but we should be careful not to swallow such things lock, stock and barrel.  People are inherently complex and sometimes we change.  I am an INTJ  and am told an ENFP is one of the best types for me.  Yet I harbor reservations.   Likewise, I would use the assessments as general guideline

Greg S (not verified) says...

Please be careful, INTJ / ENPF relationships do not work so well in the long run!

I am myself an INTJ in an ENPF relationship and I have been fooled by the notion of ENPF beeing the ideal partner for INTJs by complementing each others strengths. The truth is, ENPF and INTJ are very different in their thinking and feelings. In the beginning this makes for a really intriguing relationship but causes a lot of friction and frustrations in the long run.

What INTJ and ENPF have in common are mostly their weaknesses: Both INTJ and ENPF are very sensitive and have a low tolerance threshold in general. And they both have a strong need to be in control (to protect their freedom) and do it their way. Having a low tolerance and a strong need to do things in his own way causes a lot of friction in any relationship. Unless the conflict resolution behavior of the „ENPF“ partner is very very well-developed, things will get really ugly as soon as the relationship gets in distress and either the INTJ or the ENPF gets defensive. And because, it is sort of the ENPF‘s (dark) nature to manipulate other people (they usually do so unconsciously), you will not see if an ENPF disagrees with you unless the ENPF wants to: ENPFs can make you feel perfectly comfortable even when they HATE you intensively. In a relationship the manipulative capability/behavior of the ENPF is a heavy burden.

Although my conclusion is quite unfair towards ENPF people, I have to conclude that while ENPFs are fantastic for short-therm love affairs, ENPFs are hardly suitable for INTJ in a long-therm relationship. Of course, each person is an individual, especially ENPF people, so I‘m definitely sure there are plenty of working ENPF/INTJ relationships out there, but the chances of success is disheartening.

Also, I apologize to ENPF people for characterising the ENPF as being manipulative. I know, ENPF people are by far mean people, they just can‘t help but manipulate other people’s feelings (and often their own reasoning, too).

Chelsea Moore (not verified) says...

I love the Myers-Briggs personality assessments, but we should be careful not to swallow such things lock, stock and barrel.  People are inherently complex and sometimes we change.  I am an INTJ  and am told an ENFP is one of the best types for me.  Yet I harbor reservations.   Likewise, I would use the assessments as general guideline

Gerrie (not verified) says...

Are you only about details, because an ENFP can be about details in specific situations, being eager to learn and explore and be fair. Just not on everything and always. You can also be realistic more so if you developed your rational and sensing talents. You don't always only have to about dreams, you can also very much be about achieving dreams, I wouldn't call it goals though :)

Danie S (not verified) says...

I agree. Retake the test. I am exactly all the above. I relate to 95% of this. And I am thrilled to have found it. I always thought of myself as flighty, cant concentrate for long periods. I always want to help my office partners work toward their goals...I'm impressed. This is the only test that sounds like me.

Jesus (not verified) says...

personally we ( if you are an enfp if your not then ok fine by me) very detailed with things that we love do to do or people that we love

 

Sieuzy (not verified) says...

Hi. 

I would reccomend taking the test again maybe off a different site like 16 Personalities to see what you come up with. For example your E could move to I and or P move to J .  Also  ask yourself when you took the test, was it at work or school or home where ypu took it and who was with you. Sometimes outside influences can change your mood and change your answer in the moment. Remember  this is just a general descriptor and you are you, a unique  individual unlike no other. 🌞

The Rodent (not verified) says...

A Tom Delonge type.

broski (not verified) says...

pretty accurate

RoxC (not verified) says...

My outey is an iney also 😂

LauraP (not verified) says...

This sounds like me

jamya mills (not verified) says...

wow we both have something alike twinnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Call me V (not verified) says...

I am in constant concern that my ENFP personality is going to either paralyze my body, or maybe possibly kill me at some point. I work at 2 gas stations, and I always put to much strain on my body and mind. I call it a 'save the world complex'. I have a bad tendency to do anything/everything I can to help everyone with everything. Even if I am screaming with pain throughout my body from overworking it on multiple days with no rest because my mind refuses to stop trying to solve the world's problems. Always researching and finding new ways to perform every task possible. Always volunteering my services and information I've aquired. I don't get paid for all the extra hours of back breaking labor I put in at my job, other than what I'm scheduled, and I rarely ever charge a dime for my labor/effort. Only thing that would be charged is if I needed to aquire a part or tool that I don't have the materials on hand to make/build from scratch. Even after a house fire that took everything I owned including my vehicle, and put me on the street! I always have to be reminded that I need to eat, constantly, until I do or someone physically puts food in my mouth. And the worst part of it all is I do it all with a smile on my face that is genuine, when I can put a smile on someone else's; but there is also tears of sorrow for neglecting my well being at the same time. People tell me the world needs more people like me, I say No! I need to be better to myself for that statement to be true...., now let me plug the hole in your tire so I know you make it home safe, because after my 18 hr shift I just finished working non-stop, I won't be able to sleep until you call me when you get home and let me know you made it there safely; Stranger that I just happened to have noticed needing more coins for the air machine after 2 attempts of filling 1 tire with air. If it pops it may kill you just for being near it. 

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