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ENFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFJs in Love

In relationships, the ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.

ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential. They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.

ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it. ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.

The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.

ENFJs as Parents

As parents, ENFJs take an active and enthusiastic role in guiding the development of their children. They enjoy teaching their children the ways of the world, and set forth clear ideas of right and wrong in a warm and supportive way.

ENFJs have high expectations for their children, and often envision bright futures for them. They have an interest in their children's potential and want to inspire them to develop it. They can sometimes idealize their children, becoming disappointed when they don't live up to expectations. They may take their children's misbehavior personally, feeling that they have failed to instill their own strong values.

ENFJ Communication Style

ENFJs are warm, compassionate communicators who show enthusiasm for other people and their ideas. They want to understand what is important to others so that they can take action to improve the situation for all involved. ENFJs readily give affirmation and support, making sure that people know that their ideas are valued. They are good at connecting with a variety of people and creative in coming up with solutions that accommodate others’ needs. They are often natural teachers and mentors, showing others the way and helping them to improve themselves.

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Guest (not verified) says...

I do feel a connection to both ENFJ as well as INFJ. I do not think that I am a tried and true introvert OR extrovert, but somewhere in-between. Is that possible?

leesachi says...

Hello everyone! I am totally into those ENFJ's things, I am so excited to read the results and found to have this type for more than one test, so i believe that i am really it.
Even in this career part, i know i love all mentioned and found it all as what i have planned. However, i am now taking an undergraduate program in chemical engineering, which is one of the least careers for us. Any ideas, comments or support for me? LOL

BKelly (not verified) says...

Yep, this sounds like me. I have been an Associate Pastor for almost 18 years. I have a Master's in Family Counseling. I am back in school working on a Master's in Classical Voice and Opera. I am at midlife and thinking about a career change from pastor-teacher to musician and music teacher. I took the MBTI back in grad school several years ago. I took your free one just for kicks and it had me as Extraverted and Feeling but I was on the fence with Sensing/Intuition and Perceiving/Judging functions. I think at midlife you begin to explore the other side of personality traits. As an ENFJ I am back in school learning about music and learning to perform music professionaly which is more of a native SP activity. I have always been involved in music and drama at church as a hobby but I was given the opportunity to go back to school part time to study music so I did it and I am loving it. I don't think I would have done as well when I was younger. I remember when I took the MBTI years ago and learned to administer it in grad school that at midlife you begin to explore your third and fourth {weaker} functions - which for me is Sensing (third) and Thinking (fourth). Those are definitely needed to study music theory and composition and memorize scores for singing classical music and opera in foreign languages. Anyway, I love your website and I am still and ENFJ, but at midlife I am enjoying exploring the SP or Artisan temperament activities in school.

Guest (not verified) says...

I took the M-B evaluation and I was amazed by the accuracy of personality type. I'm a physician and enjoy teaching. Very enlightening.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm a mix of ENTJ and ENFJ

Grant the Swede (not verified) says...

I had a feeling that I'd be a teacher!

ianbanks9311 says...

I was a teacher for most of my life, then an editor, and now am in the process of becoming an illustrator. Every one of the hobbies listed is one that I participate in.

ianbanks9311 says...

Rarely do I write online publicly. Its surely good to see - like almost all of you ENFJs did - oneself being described as what one would like to be perceived as. However, I've known nearly 100% of this for myself since my late teenage days. Nowhere does it say that ENFJs might know themselves well enough to think that the test was another confirmation of what they already knew about themselves. Indeed, I took the test just to see what it brackets me as - and it does come pretty close. Although I think there are bits of me that the test hasn't caught up with. Of course they say its not exhaustive in predicting one's type, but I think the bits about me that were missed could be important personality traits, e.g. being narcissist - as I am being now; look at me how smart I am, and the test doesn't get me.

Anyway, being part of the 2% male ENFJ, I don't particularly feel a rare type, though being attracted more to people not of my type might put me in that bracket.

The one thing that did make me smile, simply because I never expected that to feature as one of the hobbies of a particular type, was gourmet cooking. My mum never understands why and how I can invite almost strangers in for a four course meal that I could take almost a full day to prepare. Physical exercise, cooking and music are my stress relievers. And if I spend anymore time here, I'll be stressed, so gday to you all

Guest (not verified) says...

I was a teacher for most of my life, then an editor, and now am in the process of becoming an illustrator. Every one of the hobbies listed is one that I participate in.

AC (not verified) says...

A friend of mine coaxed me into taking the personality test after I continuously kept expressing my dilemma about my career to her. And I as I read through the personality traits and everyone's thoughts about the ENFJ personality, I feel each aspect of me being unfolded here in words. However, my dilemma about my career is still stands at the same place as before. Some basic advice to move closer to my dream career would be appreciated. My major concerns which keep me away from choosing a career path are my feelings about me not being good at anything in particular, boredom setting in too early once I take up a task and lack of self drive/motivation.

Guest (not verified) says...

I was looking at this website for a school assignment, and it describes me exactly!!!!

ajakoy says...

Rarely do I write online publicly. Its surely good to see - like almost all of you ENFJs did - oneself being described as what one would like to be perceived as. However, I've known nearly 100% of this for myself since my late teenage days. Nowhere does it say that ENFJs might know themselves well enough to think that the test was another confirmation of what they already knew about themselves. Indeed, I took the test just to see what it brackets me as - and it does come pretty close. Although I think there are bits of me that the test hasn't caught up with. Of course they say its not exhaustive in predicting one's type, but I think the bits about me that were missed could be important personality traits, e.g. being narcissist - as I am being now; look at me how smart I am, and the test doesn't get me.

Anyway, being part of the 2% male ENFJ, I don't particularly feel a rare type, though being attracted more to people not of my type might put me in that bracket.

The one thing that did make me smile, simply because I never expected that to feature as one of the hobbies of a particular type, was gourmet cooking. My mum never understands why and how I can invite almost strangers in for a four course meal that I could take almost a full day to prepare. Physical exercise, cooking and music are my stress relievers. And if I spend anymore time here, I'll be stressed, so gday to you all.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi guys, I am so sorry to bother, but just like some other people here, this totally applies to me :) However, I am still in High School, and am not sure how to apply this to choose my career. My one problem is I don´t actually want to be a teacher, or a counsellor. I enjoy doing those things in my personal life, but not as my profession. I am more interested in a leadership position, where I am allowed to exercise all the values ENFJs tend to have. Any suggestions?

Capitu (not verified) says...

Go for a job in a large organization whose mission is a big one for humanity (ie not selling soap like Proctor & Gambal but The World Bank, the United Nations, The Nature Conservancy. I'm middle aged and have had VERY happy career as ENFJ in large institution with several departments coordinating big projects for big results. Your personality as ENFJ is especially suited to these organizations and they will value your skills with people & your ability to read people. Negotiating with others ie Diplomatic work is also very rewarding. Be bold. Actual profession can be lawyer, economist, public relations specialist, conference planner, facilitators ... Go for it. Big place is better. Helps you interact with tons people.

val bell (not verified) says...

Their is so many other things you could do that still allows you to be a leader. Become a manager of a business. The first thing you need to figure out is do you want to interact with people physically or verbally. once you figure that out the doors will start opening. You are still in high school you still have time to figure out what you want to be. Listen to your intuition, it will guide you in the right place. I once was told, "doing what you want is freedom, and doing what you love is happiness". Research more on it, take time to understand who you are as a person. Then decide.

Guest (not verified) says...

Motivational speaker, in regards to something you're passionate, interested, or knowledgeable about. Look into Careers in Innovation.

Guest (not verified) says...

I've been making my living as a Chemical Engineer in the Mining / Oil and Gas industry for over a decade now.
My advice is do whatever you can to charge as much as possible per hour, all this personality stuff is interesting but compensation should be your main motivation in seeking employment.

Truity says...

Lots of ENFJs are in leadership positions! You can imagine yourself as a manager or an executive, and then think of the company or industry that you would want to work for. You will want to be in an environment that is consistent with your values, where you feel like you're making the world a better place. Would you want to be the director of a charity, for instance? Or administrator of a hospital? Or maybe a college dean? Or maybe you'd like to start your own socially responsible business! There are a ton of options for ENFJs. Just figure out what changes you want to see in the world, and then go from there.

ladean3052 (not verified) says...

I knew that was who I'am.

Guest (not verified) says...

Everything is so accurate I love it!!

fun (not verified) says...

Absolutly right!

Guest (not verified) says...

im a field engineer and this is what i got as a personality type, I'm pretty sure thats one of the jobs this says that my type isn't usually found in, but i do have to say, i love my job.

Guest (not verified) says...

This is spot on to who I am. I've never seen a test that with the answers I am more alike too. The whole first column of jobs, I have thought of. It's odd to see that I am exactly like all of these.

Johnf436 (not verified) says...

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Takiyah (not verified) says...

wow it knows stuff bout me that I didn't know

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow! This was unbelievable and so valuable. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I recently left corporate America because I was so disillusioned as a leader with the way people were valued and treated. I have since started a consulting business that is taking time to make money. I needed this so much to reconfirm for myself that the way I approach the world and others holds value. Now I know why I feel like I'm in my own world with only 2% of the male population being represented by my personality type. This has rejuvenated me this morning and reminded me why I sent off my idea for healthcare reform to the federal government last evening. I surely have my shortcomings, but I'm grateful that there are/were some historical figures who've changed the world with the same mindset. I can't thank you enough for the infusion of pure gratitude I feel toward you this day. Blessings to you and yours. Hopefully today I can pass on your kindness to many others, and hope they feel valued.

jmil0063 says...

Wow So accurate!!!!

Guest (not verified) says...

We just took a personality profile test at work and I was searching for what the answers meant...this was amazing that I actually fit this profile exactly. Glad to see there are so many here that would understand me as we are such a small percentage of the population. LOL

Guest (not verified) says...

Are any of you ENFJ's an Aquarius, I found a lot of ENFJ's happened to be Aquarius as well. Just a weird thing I noticed.

Guest (not verified) says...

My star sign AND my moon sign are aquarius, and I am also an ENFJ.

Oana (not verified) says...

I am an Aquarius too..interesting

Tess (not verified) says...

As if reading the profile wasn't enough, to read all of the comments, it's like, "Wow, there really are others!" I've read that we are only 3% of the population, men are even less. Everything was spot on, even the careers. I have an associates degree in business admin. and am going for a position as a medical office admin./secretary. I can't lie, it sounds boring as hell, but the whole "starving artist" situation doesn't put food on the table, lol. If I could I would be a teacher, but the idea of going to school for two more years is so deflating. I would almost say I'm lazy, but then I go to the gym everyday, I am active in my church, I volunteer for programs at my kids' school, and I am currently top in my class. It's like I'm a brilliant underachiever, LOL!
Just so others can compare, I am a planner to the point of blowing things out of proportion by looking ahead 5 or even 10 years. My home is organized and everything has a place. I don't waste time with rearranging furniture, where it's put is where it stays (because you know I already planned it out long before it was put there), I paint, I am semi addicted to a karaoke website, lol, I have a neglected blog no one reads, I've taught dance workshops, and I have been known to go on novel binges (where I read a book a day for several days and only break for food and hygienic purposes). I often contemplate life, in every situation I'm trying to condense things into a bigger picture, and I have interest in consciousness and quantum theory and how it lends credence to the idea of "soul". Relationships: one or two close friends, lots of acquaintances, love meeting new people. My husband and I rarely fight, but when we do it's huge. My kids are my pride and joy. I am a momma bear to the extreme. I don't like people telling my kids what to do when I am right there (unless it's an emergency). I have high expectations of my family and want them to succeed. My definition of success is not monetary. I am sensitive and often take things personally, though I don't always show it. I can dwell on things that people have said for days, both good and bad. Finally, I don't like to leave things unfinished. Whatever I do, I do it to the best of my ability. Pet peeve, when people say they are going to do something, but don't do it.

carlhawkins4 says...

Wow... This test and your testimony Tess just cemented it for me. I'm an ENFJ and proud of it!! LOL. So much, basically everything, of what you wrote about yourself fits me to a T.. Thanks for the post.. Also the fact that as a man there are only about 2% of us out there reaffirms why I have felt like I see things so differently than most men and even people for my whole life. I kind of thought something must be wrong with me. Now I see that it's just the opposite, we are actually rare and that makes us extremely special :-) I feel more empowered now!! Blessings to all my ENFJ brothers and sisters, and the other 15 more predominant personalities too... LOL

Guest (not verified) says...

People not following through is absolutely a pet peeve of mine too;-)

Sacha (not verified) says...

What personality do you think your husband is?!

Jorge007dr (not verified) says...

This is EXACTLY Who I am. Every field describes me SO WELL!!!

Guest (not verified) says...

Ha,ha I discovered that I am SUCH a ENFJ personality but also I'm an Auditor!! One of the least popular professions apparently! However, what I like about being an Auditor is all the Investigations, assessing how the Audit can bring about useful improvements, thinking about how to add value, how to educate, how to create good collaborative relationships, being an ongoing Support for the departments and Teams that I have audited, etc. I find that a huge part of my auditing role in spent on communicaiton, negotiating, using your skills at displaying compassion, understanding, aim to find common ground, etc. I guess I have turn my Auditor role into something much more of a ENFJ Profession after all!! So funny!

Courtney.Greenleaf says...

Hello! I am truly interested in becoming an Auditor or Analyst in large part because of the reasons you have posted concerning your love for your job. I have so many questions: I hope this isn't too forward of me, but, may I contact you via e-mail concerning your experience and knowledge of working as an Auditor? My e-mail is Courtney.Greenleaf@yahoo.com. I hope I hear from you soon! =]

Meridian (not verified) says...

THis is so me. I cannot believe how accurate this is. I took the test and I am so shocked at how accurate this is of myself. Awesome.

Angela (not verified) says...

This is totally me... so accurate!

Guest (not verified) says...

This was scary accurate o.O

Guest (not verified) says...

Amazing description. Very close especially the part about exercising to stress release and high likelihood for believing that there is a higher power.
I enjoyed learning that my yearning to connect with others at a higher , intellectual level is " expected"
I'm a cancerian by horoscope ,

Guest (not verified) says...

Excellent descriptions, v close
A bit disappointed that ideal job did not include my current job. I was hoping to be a healer in personality.

Guest (not verified) says...

This was very interesting and helpful information. It covered all the areas of my life and reminded me of when I sometimes read my horoscope. By the way, I happen to be an aquarius. The information was so accurate, I felt like I was reading about myself.

Guest (not verified) says...

100% me. Amazed.

Anonymous (not verified) says...

Wow, this me, thats who I am!

REL the ENFJ (not verified) says...

Wow, this really surprised me. In paticular, I was surprised to learn how few of us there are in this world. Presently, I am a lawyer (cyberlaw, corporate, technology) and candidly, I crave more human interaction and a career that played more to my natural strengths. That said, I now understand why my office is the one most of my colleagues come to when they need to talk, solve problems etc. Excellent food for thought.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an ENFJ lawyer too and always felt a bit like a fish out of water. Am now running a new program at a law school and am happier than I would ever have thought possible. You might want to try some teaching if you haven't already.

Guest (not verified) says...

Ha Ha - every single job I've ever had - I've been promoted to lead at it because of my enthusiasm/management ability despite not asking to be promoted- they were all people related- now I'm in education administration - a department chair, motivating my colleagues to forge ahead and such. How funny - and I work out like an insane animal to burn off my stress- I say I'm like a hamster who needs to run in its wheel or I get tense. I can go on and on and on - this is way more accurate than my horoscope.

clarraga01 says...

This is me!!! Extremely enlightening! Thank you so very much!!! Awesome!!

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