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How do ENFJs communicate?

ENFJs are warm, compassionate communicators who show enthusiasm for other people and their ideas. They want to understand what is important to others so that they can take action to improve the situation for all involved. ENFJs readily give affirmation and support, making sure that people know that their ideas are valued. They are good at connecting with a variety of people and creative in coming up with solutions that accommodate others’ needs. They are often natural teachers and mentors, showing others the way and helping them to improve themselves.

What are ENFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.

ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential. They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.

ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it. ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.

The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.

What are ENFJs like as parents?

As parents, ENFJs take an active and enthusiastic role in guiding the development of their children. They enjoy teaching their children the ways of the world, and set forth clear ideas of right and wrong in a warm and supportive way.

ENFJs have high expectations for their children, and often envision bright futures for them. They have an interest in their children's potential and want to inspire them to develop it. They can sometimes idealize their children, becoming disappointed when they don't live up to expectations. They may take their children's misbehavior personally, feeling that they have failed to instill their own strong values.

ENFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Mary (not verified) says...

Remarkably accurate. Hate discord. Someone burns their hand, I say "ouch". Get along very well with 5 year olds because I am one. Coud never be a dental assistant ( hurt myself with a water pick). Very sensitive around mates. If they say the slightest inflammatory thing I get sad and that confuses them because most people retalliate.
Enjoy motivational speaking and yes, do physical training for stress. Can work a room and a kitchen.
Do get discouraged around egocentic non team player types and control freaks.

Gina (not verified) says...

Yes, I felt this described me almost in detail.

Guest (not verified) says...

To some extent it is me.

Guest (not verified) says...

Sounds like me, teamwork is what I need for my career I want as a firefighter.

Missywolfpack says...

Me for sure! Must be why I lasted not long in the military!

Relieved&Reinforced (not verified) says...

Brought tears to my eyes. I work in training, developing projects in chronic conflict settings. I have staff who I mentor, I'm told I'm strict, I get disappointed when people don't have the same intentions, but people also value my sincerity and sensitivity. I'm creative in my projects but I do have a clear vision of how things could be. It's really really refreshing to see so many aspects of me laid out like that. It's validating. I want to be validated, it's true. I've often felt that I'm lesser because of that need. I'm so tired of being told that to be a good leader I have to care less what people think. It's possibly what makes me a good leader, in my own way. That is what this has meant to me. It's ok to be me in my own way.

Aron (not verified) says...

Wow. Impressive.

Tom (not verified) says...

I've been in midlife transition following the loss of a job in politics that was very painful. After a long time searching for the right fit in career, this post gave me the most validation for a career in teaching political action to socially conscious individuals, mentoring them, and teaching people about the issues of the cause. Thank you, Truity!

Guest (not verified) says...

Its nice to know that everything you knew about yourself is completely validated by your profile. Wish I had taken this test before I headed off to college..... Ultimately- the best thing is knowing yourself completely.

Guest (not verified) says...

That was so accurate it was alarmingly reassuring. I need to work on dealing with conflict.

Guest (not verified) says...

I wanted to be a politician since I was 8. This is so strange.

Grant the Swede (not verified) says...

Trump? Is that you?

Shubho (not verified) says...

Wow. This is truly impressive. I've never ever had such a clear and accurate self-assessment in my life.

I am a software engineer. So, I'm not in a profession that they recommend. But then again, I think I have some INFJ leanings too.

I am so happy to get to know myself and would love to connect with other ENFJs.

zainab_x says...

I have some INFJ leanings too - in fact, I'm more of an INFJ by a couple of percentage points. I personally see myself as an introvert, but the overall description for ENFJs really matches me too. I'm always told that I'm very good at teaching. Lol. However, I don't think that the possible career choices or hobbies for ENFJs suit me at all. I am a healthcare professional, and although I enjoy creating artwork, reading non-fiction etc. from time to time, it's not really a hobby of mine.

Guest (not verified) says...

Perfect!

urgmbeach says...

I cannot believe how accurate this test is. I am my results. I did this for a school project and wouldn't you know under top careers for ENFJs I see Chiropractor which is what I am going to school for. I couldn't be happier with the results.

Leo (not verified) says...

Wooooah. That's pretty cool.

kyliejade (not verified) says...

wow! its funny to read all about my personality type, I had no clue I was like this, though looking back now makes me laugh, extremely spot on!

B. (not verified) says...

I love myself!! :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Me to a tee! :-) :-) Strict, idealizing kids, hate conflict, create the ideal picture then pursuade and drive others towards it.. I'm in learning & development & coaching.
I'm sensitive to positive & negative feedback...etc etc

z (not verified) says...

It's me, it's me, it's me ....... is all I thought as I read through the profile of ENFJ. Feel unhappy and trapped in my current role but have no idea what I should be doing. One of those that look at the ideal list and think ..... yes I'd like to do that, oh and that, and that etc etc! If only I'd known this years ago!

clarraga01 says...

This is me!!! Extremely enlightening! Thank you so very much!!! Awesome!!

Guest (not verified) says...

Ha Ha - every single job I've ever had - I've been promoted to lead at it because of my enthusiasm/management ability despite not asking to be promoted- they were all people related- now I'm in education administration - a department chair, motivating my colleagues to forge ahead and such. How funny - and I work out like an insane animal to burn off my stress- I say I'm like a hamster who needs to run in its wheel or I get tense. I can go on and on and on - this is way more accurate than my horoscope.

REL the ENFJ (not verified) says...

Wow, this really surprised me. In paticular, I was surprised to learn how few of us there are in this world. Presently, I am a lawyer (cyberlaw, corporate, technology) and candidly, I crave more human interaction and a career that played more to my natural strengths. That said, I now understand why my office is the one most of my colleagues come to when they need to talk, solve problems etc. Excellent food for thought.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an ENFJ lawyer too and always felt a bit like a fish out of water. Am now running a new program at a law school and am happier than I would ever have thought possible. You might want to try some teaching if you haven't already.

Anonymous (not verified) says...

Wow, this me, thats who I am!

Guest (not verified) says...

100% me. Amazed.

Guest (not verified) says...

This was very interesting and helpful information. It covered all the areas of my life and reminded me of when I sometimes read my horoscope. By the way, I happen to be an aquarius. The information was so accurate, I felt like I was reading about myself.

Guest (not verified) says...

Excellent descriptions, v close
A bit disappointed that ideal job did not include my current job. I was hoping to be a healer in personality.

Guest (not verified) says...

Amazing description. Very close especially the part about exercising to stress release and high likelihood for believing that there is a higher power.
I enjoyed learning that my yearning to connect with others at a higher , intellectual level is " expected"
I'm a cancerian by horoscope ,

Guest (not verified) says...

This was scary accurate o.O

Angela (not verified) says...

This is totally me... so accurate!

Meridian (not verified) says...

THis is so me. I cannot believe how accurate this is. I took the test and I am so shocked at how accurate this is of myself. Awesome.

Guest (not verified) says...

Ha,ha I discovered that I am SUCH a ENFJ personality but also I'm an Auditor!! One of the least popular professions apparently! However, what I like about being an Auditor is all the Investigations, assessing how the Audit can bring about useful improvements, thinking about how to add value, how to educate, how to create good collaborative relationships, being an ongoing Support for the departments and Teams that I have audited, etc. I find that a huge part of my auditing role in spent on communicaiton, negotiating, using your skills at displaying compassion, understanding, aim to find common ground, etc. I guess I have turn my Auditor role into something much more of a ENFJ Profession after all!! So funny!

Courtney.Greenleaf says...

Hello! I am truly interested in becoming an Auditor or Analyst in large part because of the reasons you have posted concerning your love for your job. I have so many questions: I hope this isn't too forward of me, but, may I contact you via e-mail concerning your experience and knowledge of working as an Auditor? My e-mail is Courtney.Greenleaf@yahoo.com. I hope I hear from you soon! =]

Jorge007dr (not verified) says...

This is EXACTLY Who I am. Every field describes me SO WELL!!!

Tess (not verified) says...

As if reading the profile wasn't enough, to read all of the comments, it's like, "Wow, there really are others!" I've read that we are only 3% of the population, men are even less. Everything was spot on, even the careers. I have an associates degree in business admin. and am going for a position as a medical office admin./secretary. I can't lie, it sounds boring as hell, but the whole "starving artist" situation doesn't put food on the table, lol. If I could I would be a teacher, but the idea of going to school for two more years is so deflating. I would almost say I'm lazy, but then I go to the gym everyday, I am active in my church, I volunteer for programs at my kids' school, and I am currently top in my class. It's like I'm a brilliant underachiever, LOL!
Just so others can compare, I am a planner to the point of blowing things out of proportion by looking ahead 5 or even 10 years. My home is organized and everything has a place. I don't waste time with rearranging furniture, where it's put is where it stays (because you know I already planned it out long before it was put there), I paint, I am semi addicted to a karaoke website, lol, I have a neglected blog no one reads, I've taught dance workshops, and I have been known to go on novel binges (where I read a book a day for several days and only break for food and hygienic purposes). I often contemplate life, in every situation I'm trying to condense things into a bigger picture, and I have interest in consciousness and quantum theory and how it lends credence to the idea of "soul". Relationships: one or two close friends, lots of acquaintances, love meeting new people. My husband and I rarely fight, but when we do it's huge. My kids are my pride and joy. I am a momma bear to the extreme. I don't like people telling my kids what to do when I am right there (unless it's an emergency). I have high expectations of my family and want them to succeed. My definition of success is not monetary. I am sensitive and often take things personally, though I don't always show it. I can dwell on things that people have said for days, both good and bad. Finally, I don't like to leave things unfinished. Whatever I do, I do it to the best of my ability. Pet peeve, when people say they are going to do something, but don't do it.

Sacha (not verified) says...

What personality do you think your husband is?!

Guest (not verified) says...

People not following through is absolutely a pet peeve of mine too;-)

carlhawkins4 says...

Wow... This test and your testimony Tess just cemented it for me. I'm an ENFJ and proud of it!! LOL. So much, basically everything, of what you wrote about yourself fits me to a T.. Thanks for the post.. Also the fact that as a man there are only about 2% of us out there reaffirms why I have felt like I see things so differently than most men and even people for my whole life. I kind of thought something must be wrong with me. Now I see that it's just the opposite, we are actually rare and that makes us extremely special :-) I feel more empowered now!! Blessings to all my ENFJ brothers and sisters, and the other 15 more predominant personalities too... LOL

Guest (not verified) says...

Are any of you ENFJ's an Aquarius, I found a lot of ENFJ's happened to be Aquarius as well. Just a weird thing I noticed.

Oana (not verified) says...

I am an Aquarius too..interesting

Guest (not verified) says...

My star sign AND my moon sign are aquarius, and I am also an ENFJ.

Guest (not verified) says...

We just took a personality profile test at work and I was searching for what the answers meant...this was amazing that I actually fit this profile exactly. Glad to see there are so many here that would understand me as we are such a small percentage of the population. LOL

jmil0063 says...

Wow So accurate!!!!

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow! This was unbelievable and so valuable. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I recently left corporate America because I was so disillusioned as a leader with the way people were valued and treated. I have since started a consulting business that is taking time to make money. I needed this so much to reconfirm for myself that the way I approach the world and others holds value. Now I know why I feel like I'm in my own world with only 2% of the male population being represented by my personality type. This has rejuvenated me this morning and reminded me why I sent off my idea for healthcare reform to the federal government last evening. I surely have my shortcomings, but I'm grateful that there are/were some historical figures who've changed the world with the same mindset. I can't thank you enough for the infusion of pure gratitude I feel toward you this day. Blessings to you and yours. Hopefully today I can pass on your kindness to many others, and hope they feel valued.

Takiyah (not verified) says...

wow it knows stuff bout me that I didn't know

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Guest (not verified) says...

This is spot on to who I am. I've never seen a test that with the answers I am more alike too. The whole first column of jobs, I have thought of. It's odd to see that I am exactly like all of these.

Guest (not verified) says...

im a field engineer and this is what i got as a personality type, I'm pretty sure thats one of the jobs this says that my type isn't usually found in, but i do have to say, i love my job.

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