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ENFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFJs in Love

In relationships, the ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.

ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential. They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.

ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it. ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.

The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.

ENFJs as Parents

As parents, ENFJs take an active and enthusiastic role in guiding the development of their children. They enjoy teaching their children the ways of the world, and set forth clear ideas of right and wrong in a warm and supportive way.

ENFJs have high expectations for their children, and often envision bright futures for them. They have an interest in their children's potential and want to inspire them to develop it. They can sometimes idealize their children, becoming disappointed when they don't live up to expectations. They may take their children's misbehavior personally, feeling that they have failed to instill their own strong values.

ENFJ Communication Style

ENFJs are warm, compassionate communicators who show enthusiasm for other people and their ideas. They want to understand what is important to others so that they can take action to improve the situation for all involved. ENFJs readily give affirmation and support, making sure that people know that their ideas are valued. They are good at connecting with a variety of people and creative in coming up with solutions that accommodate others’ needs. They are often natural teachers and mentors, showing others the way and helping them to improve themselves.

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Jack Of All Trades (not verified) says...

It’s crazy how I’m a music producer, photographer, video director, and artist. I also studied psychology, and truly enjoy investigating and understanding how things work. My friends tell me I have a gift in motivating as if I’m a motivational speaker. I tend to always bring the best of out people and help build brand. Lastly, I’m an ENFJ.

Kelsey Kempa (not verified) says...

Wow...I am astonished to find so much magnanimity and positivity in this comment section. It’s nice to see fellow ENFJs helping each other...really. We’re in this together guys. We might not know each other personally...but we understand each other. This test is a beautiful thing and has changed my life, because now I’m taking the time to understand other people’s personalities as well.

I wish you all good luck in your affairs! ENFJ for life! -Kels

Denys says...

As an ENFJ my career path has been varied and very satisfying. 

My career path has included:-

Nursing

Minister of religion 

Counsellor (person -centred) 

Careers Advisor 

Outplacement Cinsultant

Professional Actor 

Professional Musician (violin) 

Wellness Coach (Herbalife) 

Accredited Nordic Walking Instructor. 

I thoroughly enjoy being an ENFJ,  but I panic when presented with Maths, Accounts, Tax Returns etc. That's when I really appreciate the help of other personality types and their particular giftings! ?

 

Denys says...

I trained as a Myers-Briggs practitioner over 20 yrs ago. 

My original result was ENTJ because I worked in an organisation with a very strong TJ academic orientation. At the time of completing the questionnaire my preferences lacked clarity.

However, I learned to play to my preferences and became much more content and successful in my pursuits and relationships. As a result I discovered that I am clearly an ENFJ which I celebrate! ? 

I've used Myers-Briggs as a tool in Career guidance, counselling, and Management and Team Development. It provides an excellent foundation for helping ourselves and others discover, develop, and achieve personal potential. 

Fireguy96817 (not verified) says...

Aloha  !!

I am absolutley ENFJ ..... Firefighter, CPR/First Aid Instructor, Health and Fitness keeps me in a POSITIVE MINDSET, I'm the negotiator when disagreements arise with family and friends, Artist/Poet/Writer, and Travler/Adventurer/Explorer on this rock we inhabit.  Empath:  I can feel what those surrounding me are feeling without conversation (still learning what Empath means, yes 40yrs didn't know I was or that it was a term lol) waiting for my true calling that will affect a large portion of the population....... Not sure what it will be but I can feel it tugging/calling me...!!!   

My free advice after 17 years at the Firehouse, "Do it, jump to the "proverbial" opposite cliff  towards LIVING IN THE NOW towards starting a new career/relationship, TAKE that opportunity that you can feel it and "It feels right," you will never look back !! (Trust you senses and disrefgard that grey matter. LOL, Responsibly though..... right !?! 

We are a gifted group that I am proud to be a part of and always willing to help a stranger.....Even came close to cutting my time on the planet short more than a few times for a stranger's on Da'JOB.  No regrets though I am grateful and fortunate to be among the living, and I'm telling ya Im going to do something great, maybe that's just being a good Dad to my little girls and living by example.  So proud when I heard my oldest tell her younger sister who was hysterical, "I'ts NOT an EMERGENCY unless your DYING! Right Daddy?!"  That's right princess now give her back her doll. LOL.

Awwwrriiighttt    I leave you with my Firehouse quote, "Everyday ABOVE the dirt is a GOOD Day!"  

Live ALOHA !!

Mahalo,

Jason

Kate says...

This is me, according to the test twice over. Hard to understand why...

H (not verified) says...

Hello ENFJs! Not a fellow ENFJ, but I want to just let you know, you're very inspirational! 

Erik Ulises (not verified) says...

I've been doing this test 3 times in different time and I always get the same answer, I just find really difficult to see my self as all these things they describe here and the other websites. but if I look deep inside me is like telling me something I forgot about myself a long time ago.    

Semfirius (not verified) says...

It took my almost 9 years of trial and error to actually have the guts on going after a job position in HR, as a Recruiter that finally satisfied my inner need to give back to the people of this world and help them in a way that I saw fit. 

Having a background education in Economics and Marketing and jumping from a sales position to another along the years put me to various scenarios and tasks where my " teacher " values were constantly requested and appreciated.

I left the sales and marketing environment due to the lack of long term personal and spiritual satisfaction.

But all of the experiences surely and wisely built me and lead to this.

After all, the accumulated psychological insight after years of dealing with endless spectrum of emotions and people, helped anyway.

I'd say, to everybody reading this - trust your inner voice, don't compromise for the sake of other's requests and needs when comes about your true calling and never forget to keep your authenticity intact. 

Us, ENFJs are probably the rarest and most capable Visionaries of the -NF- core-group.

You shall experience doubt, rejection, devaluation and many, many obstacles along the way.

Remember, always, that obstacles are just another set of lessons, which later on you shall wisely teach to the many. 

 

beajou (not verified) says...

I'm going nuts. being an ENFJ and there are lots of careers I want to do but I don't know which one to choose. I'm 30 years old and I'm not happy with what I did previously for living or what I studied at university. I don't have more time to waste. I want to decide and do something about my future career. all those jobs I'm interested in are on the list for an ENFJ: psychologist, pre-school teacher, marketing or sales specialist. I'm not sure which one is the best for me :(

Lisa Kippen (not verified) says...

Although not afraid to leave jobs at all. Would rather own the business and drive it! Determined create my own path. True to myself! Will go after whatever interests or suits my needs or agenda or learning path. Evaluate what works and what don't including people in my life and walk away from it without hesitation and begin a new. Look for new people and new tribe. Love the rest from a distant. Bless them & bless me! I go after and invest my time and energy into what I want!  Tolerance yes but I will not subject myself to peoples abuse in any way or anywhere! I believe in a higher self and a higher way of being. Empower myself to search for something better or create it myself. My tribe must be working toward self empowerment & everyone's happiness. Knowing what their value and potential is and helping everyone to thier success and be genuinely happy for each other! 

Uzma Mirza (not verified) says...

Well, the description and overview are spot on correct. But the career choices have listed Engineering and Computer Programming as something an ENFJ cannot work at. But I'm studying Computer Science Engineering and I seem to like it. 

Book of Enoch/Eli (not verified) says...

I've always been called crazy all my life. I'm super emotional but all I ever wanted was to help people and make a difference in their lives. I think anything I put my mind on is capable of doing but I need a reason to fight for I can't just do it for myself. I am all about the people but for the people around me. I attract so many different types of people but I still feel the most different out of all of them and this almost makes me feel lonely and depressed, despite that I know people love me. I like to give my all if I feel like the person really deserves it and I tend to believe in the people that has never been believed in. The best way i can describe myself is that I am the complete opposite of what people percieve me as. Am I crazy like they say I am? Or is it just that I am an ENFJ and the test that I took was accurate to me? And I still am unsure about my career of choice but I think I would really like to be a psychologist the one that helps people with their emotions.

Guest (not verified) says...

THIS RELATES TO ME SO MUCH!!!!!!! I'm actually an aspiring teacher, Math Ed. I want to go back to my home country and teach the children there! <3 <3 <3

Vincent22222 (not verified) says...

Wow! This really described me spot on! I was president of 3 clubs in high school. President of Christian Club, the Key Club (community service) and Editor in Chief of the School Newspaper. I did very well in school, and am a natural teacher, often found organizing people to take part in some educational activity. I like to take charge of a situation, and guide a group towards those activities and experiences which will help them learn and grow. I intuitively see the potential in people, and with charisma and warmth, encourage others to pursue greater development of their strengths. I am typically dynamic and productive, and are often visibly energized when leading others to discover new knowledge. I'm a good communicator, and talented at using words to connect with others. I am perceptive about people and enjoy talking about relationships. I often enjoy helping others solve personal problems and like to share their insights about people, their emotions, and their motivations. I am empathetic sometimes to the point of being overinvolved, and can become exhausted if I am surrounded by too much negative emotion.I am an ENFJ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anous (not verified) says...

So glad to hear all of this, I am even getting a little emotional. After I reached the age of 40
I became a college teacher and I am incredible happy to inspire and help students. Loved reading the other comments because I also felt lonely sometimes because of my overcaring personality.
Although I want to work on my critical and judgmental traits.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well unlike apparently most ENFJ's I'm not religious in the slightest.

semgmp (not verified) says...

really great stuff to discover i am impressed by the truth about my personality, i am now looking to know more about myself and what i can achieve, will be glad to exchange words with other ENFJs.

Erica Lin (not verified) says...

This is deadly accurate! I've always loved teaching and helping others (and writing!) - so it makes sense to pursue something in those fields. 

However, it has been my life-long dream to be a lawyer (or a figure or representative of the law). On a post about ENFJs, it listed out which careers NOT to pursue, and "lawyer" was on that list. It stated that I am too kind-hearted and affectionate to be one. 

I'm only 14, so things might change. But it would really help if someone could share their experiences and advice with me! :) 

Much love, Erica 

StephanieJW (not verified) says...

Is there another ENFJ here who is a Cancerian?

Angel Anto (not verified) says...

Omg same. I'm cancerian and I have ENFJ. I think it's our thing

Eliya G (not verified) says...

Also a cancerian, very much in tune with the ENFJ personality type.

Steve Hooper (not verified) says...

Interesting and informative I'm comfortable being an ENFJ I did smile when I saw the pope had sat the test

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow this is amazing it's almost as if someone has evaluated me personally, and came up with this. It also explains why I've been wanting to be an animal's rights activist, and also why I love to train people at work even if it means developing them above me! Guys we are a unique breed, and maybe our positivity may inspire others to create change in the world, especially with these recent horrors.

Jennifer Kim (not verified) says...

teaching, preachy,public speaker, compassion for others, fundraising, studying MSW, learning to build solid friendships... I totally get it.

Abba Gadanya (not verified) says...

What a replica of humble self! It suprise me much, and at the same time helps me to identify my personality.

suejenn says...

Having done the test explains why I enjoy so much encouraging and getting others to learn and stretch in their thinking and grow as a result

Holymotherofgod (not verified) says...

Pretty amazingly accurate!

Monica Villanueva (not verified) says...

As what I'm seeing right now, some are facing the problem of choosing the perfect career as an ENFJ. Actually, for me, it doesn't actually matter what career we shall choose to take for as long as we feel that the career will have us involved in any activity that requires connection with people, self-expression, leadership and continous progressive change in people. These things might even just depend on how we approach the kind of life we have in the career we have chosen. As ambituous but not self-serving individuals, we could be anyone we want to be as long as we have the mindset that we are being valuable to others or are being involved in the improvement or positive change happening to them with the career that we have chosen. As what 16personalities.com says, ENFJs could be good at anything they're interested in. With this, we shouldn't be worried about what career we shall choose for as long as we are interested in something, our passion will guide us unto the way to the assurance that we have chosen the right path. I'm still at junior high school but I'm already so sure about taking Architectural Engineering. With this profession, I want to serve the community through producing innovations on building structures or buildings that would help in the development of the society. I also want to show people that nothing's impossible, to turn to reality their dreams of building what they thought would remain as a dream, and to teach them persistence. I love Architectural Engineering and I think it's perfect for the talents God gave me. I'm so happy that as young as I am, I have already discovered my talents which is a great factor in choosing the right career. Being an ENFJ has been always a blessing which is very important for me to always remember to remain confident. In my perception, we are made to believe not just in other people but also in ourselves. This is the reason why we should just go and believe we could be anyone we dream to be. With God, nothing's impossible.

guest (not verified) says...

Does anyone know any good jobs to do for a report?

Guest (not verified) says...

I do feel a connection to both ENFJ as well as INFJ. I do not think that I am a tried and true introvert OR extrovert, but somewhere in-between. Is that possible?

leesachi says...

Hello everyone! I am totally into those ENFJ's things, I am so excited to read the results and found to have this type for more than one test, so i believe that i am really it.
Even in this career part, i know i love all mentioned and found it all as what i have planned. However, i am now taking an undergraduate program in chemical engineering, which is one of the least careers for us. Any ideas, comments or support for me? LOL

BKelly (not verified) says...

Yep, this sounds like me. I have been an Associate Pastor for almost 18 years. I have a Master's in Family Counseling. I am back in school working on a Master's in Classical Voice and Opera. I am at midlife and thinking about a career change from pastor-teacher to musician and music teacher. I took the MBTI back in grad school several years ago. I took your free one just for kicks and it had me as Extraverted and Feeling but I was on the fence with Sensing/Intuition and Perceiving/Judging functions. I think at midlife you begin to explore the other side of personality traits. As an ENFJ I am back in school learning about music and learning to perform music professionaly which is more of a native SP activity. I have always been involved in music and drama at church as a hobby but I was given the opportunity to go back to school part time to study music so I did it and I am loving it. I don't think I would have done as well when I was younger. I remember when I took the MBTI years ago and learned to administer it in grad school that at midlife you begin to explore your third and fourth {weaker} functions - which for me is Sensing (third) and Thinking (fourth). Those are definitely needed to study music theory and composition and memorize scores for singing classical music and opera in foreign languages. Anyway, I love your website and I am still and ENFJ, but at midlife I am enjoying exploring the SP or Artisan temperament activities in school.

Guest (not verified) says...

I took the M-B evaluation and I was amazed by the accuracy of personality type. I'm a physician and enjoy teaching. Very enlightening.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm a mix of ENTJ and ENFJ

Grant the Swede (not verified) says...

I had a feeling that I'd be a teacher!

ianbanks9311 says...

I was a teacher for most of my life, then an editor, and now am in the process of becoming an illustrator. Every one of the hobbies listed is one that I participate in.

ianbanks9311 says...

Rarely do I write online publicly. Its surely good to see - like almost all of you ENFJs did - oneself being described as what one would like to be perceived as. However, I've known nearly 100% of this for myself since my late teenage days. Nowhere does it say that ENFJs might know themselves well enough to think that the test was another confirmation of what they already knew about themselves. Indeed, I took the test just to see what it brackets me as - and it does come pretty close. Although I think there are bits of me that the test hasn't caught up with. Of course they say its not exhaustive in predicting one's type, but I think the bits about me that were missed could be important personality traits, e.g. being narcissist - as I am being now; look at me how smart I am, and the test doesn't get me.

Anyway, being part of the 2% male ENFJ, I don't particularly feel a rare type, though being attracted more to people not of my type might put me in that bracket.

The one thing that did make me smile, simply because I never expected that to feature as one of the hobbies of a particular type, was gourmet cooking. My mum never understands why and how I can invite almost strangers in for a four course meal that I could take almost a full day to prepare. Physical exercise, cooking and music are my stress relievers. And if I spend anymore time here, I'll be stressed, so gday to you all

Guest (not verified) says...

I was a teacher for most of my life, then an editor, and now am in the process of becoming an illustrator. Every one of the hobbies listed is one that I participate in.

AC (not verified) says...

A friend of mine coaxed me into taking the personality test after I continuously kept expressing my dilemma about my career to her. And I as I read through the personality traits and everyone's thoughts about the ENFJ personality, I feel each aspect of me being unfolded here in words. However, my dilemma about my career is still stands at the same place as before. Some basic advice to move closer to my dream career would be appreciated. My major concerns which keep me away from choosing a career path are my feelings about me not being good at anything in particular, boredom setting in too early once I take up a task and lack of self drive/motivation.

Guest (not verified) says...

I was looking at this website for a school assignment, and it describes me exactly!!!!

ajakoy says...

Rarely do I write online publicly. Its surely good to see - like almost all of you ENFJs did - oneself being described as what one would like to be perceived as. However, I've known nearly 100% of this for myself since my late teenage days. Nowhere does it say that ENFJs might know themselves well enough to think that the test was another confirmation of what they already knew about themselves. Indeed, I took the test just to see what it brackets me as - and it does come pretty close. Although I think there are bits of me that the test hasn't caught up with. Of course they say its not exhaustive in predicting one's type, but I think the bits about me that were missed could be important personality traits, e.g. being narcissist - as I am being now; look at me how smart I am, and the test doesn't get me.

Anyway, being part of the 2% male ENFJ, I don't particularly feel a rare type, though being attracted more to people not of my type might put me in that bracket.

The one thing that did make me smile, simply because I never expected that to feature as one of the hobbies of a particular type, was gourmet cooking. My mum never understands why and how I can invite almost strangers in for a four course meal that I could take almost a full day to prepare. Physical exercise, cooking and music are my stress relievers. And if I spend anymore time here, I'll be stressed, so gday to you all.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi guys, I am so sorry to bother, but just like some other people here, this totally applies to me :) However, I am still in High School, and am not sure how to apply this to choose my career. My one problem is I don´t actually want to be a teacher, or a counsellor. I enjoy doing those things in my personal life, but not as my profession. I am more interested in a leadership position, where I am allowed to exercise all the values ENFJs tend to have. Any suggestions?

Capitu (not verified) says...

Go for a job in a large organization whose mission is a big one for humanity (ie not selling soap like Proctor & Gambal but The World Bank, the United Nations, The Nature Conservancy. I'm middle aged and have had VERY happy career as ENFJ in large institution with several departments coordinating big projects for big results. Your personality as ENFJ is especially suited to these organizations and they will value your skills with people & your ability to read people. Negotiating with others ie Diplomatic work is also very rewarding. Be bold. Actual profession can be lawyer, economist, public relations specialist, conference planner, facilitators ... Go for it. Big place is better. Helps you interact with tons people.

val bell (not verified) says...

Their is so many other things you could do that still allows you to be a leader. Become a manager of a business. The first thing you need to figure out is do you want to interact with people physically or verbally. once you figure that out the doors will start opening. You are still in high school you still have time to figure out what you want to be. Listen to your intuition, it will guide you in the right place. I once was told, "doing what you want is freedom, and doing what you love is happiness". Research more on it, take time to understand who you are as a person. Then decide.

Guest (not verified) says...

Motivational speaker, in regards to something you're passionate, interested, or knowledgeable about. Look into Careers in Innovation.

Guest (not verified) says...

I've been making my living as a Chemical Engineer in the Mining / Oil and Gas industry for over a decade now.
My advice is do whatever you can to charge as much as possible per hour, all this personality stuff is interesting but compensation should be your main motivation in seeking employment.

Truity says...

Lots of ENFJs are in leadership positions! You can imagine yourself as a manager or an executive, and then think of the company or industry that you would want to work for. You will want to be in an environment that is consistent with your values, where you feel like you're making the world a better place. Would you want to be the director of a charity, for instance? Or administrator of a hospital? Or maybe a college dean? Or maybe you'd like to start your own socially responsible business! There are a ton of options for ENFJs. Just figure out what changes you want to see in the world, and then go from there.

ladean3052 (not verified) says...

I knew that was who I'am.

Guest (not verified) says...

Everything is so accurate I love it!!

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