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INFPs and the other idealist personalities - marital dissatisfaction

by Guest on Saturday, June 4, 2016 - 11:24pm | in INFP

Hi all!
First a question. How is it that one source claims ESTJ's are our best bet while on another they are the type to be avoided?
OK being an idealist, has it made you pickier about whom you dated? Did you hold out for what qualities you knew the person had to have? Or did you choose 'good enough'? Has your idealism become a need for perfection (i.e. the laundry must be checked...


Last comment on 07/08/2016 - 9:47pm

INTP childlike? interpersonal what's going on?

by Guest on Friday, June 3, 2016 - 3:40am | in INTP

hey so i'm 17 and an INTP and iv'e always felt very childlike in my ways of obtaining information and working stuff out in my head. I've felt inferior to a lot of people and i thought it was my relationships but it's not because i left them. so now im just wondering if INTPs can grasp what's happening inside of us? i just feel overwhelmed in my own thoughts and no one else seems to be. it...


Last comment on 05/26/2017 - 5:22pm


by Guest on Thursday, June 2, 2016 - 9:22pm | in INTJ

Hi fellow intj, nt long I got out of a relationship and well I am vry focused, breaking out relationship I thought was a relief bt I still have lots of relationship issues around. I'd like to jus work on m ryt nw plus I got school to work with, do u think nt havin much to do with the opposite sex is a good choice?


Last comment on 07/03/2016 - 3:36am

Living Alone

by Guest on Wednesday, June 1, 2016 - 9:40am | in INFP


How many of you are single and living alone?
I'm finding it really tough to be alone.
I am thinking of getting a pet to keep me company.
I have a computer at least, but I also don't drive, so I can't just drive anywhere.
Any tips would be welcome, struggling right now.

Hayley x


Last comment on 08/04/2016 - 2:57am

What are you doing right now for a living?

by Guest on Wednesday, June 1, 2016 - 9:32am | in INFP

Hi everyone,

Im an INFP, swing to an E, if around people!

I tend to get burn out very quickly, just left a nursery job, which was down to greedy management, but its a long story!

Im now finding it tough to know what i want, Ive moved alone into a new town, also feeling very lonely and isolated.

Would be good to hear to some ideas. I like to write, work with...


Last comment on 06/07/2016 - 8:00am

Extroverted Introvert?

by trayjaytucker on Friday, May 27, 2016 - 9:58am | in INFP

I think an awful lot of us don't fall into distinct categories. I'm not an extrovert or an introvert, I'm an extroverted introvert. I'm not exclusively a feeler, I'm a thinking feeler! I think personality types are interesting up to a degree, as guidelines, but I think we generally exist on sliding scales, a smattering of this, a percentage of that, rather than exclusively inhabiting a...


Last comment on 06/05/2016 - 9:01am

INFP pitfalls in relationships

by Bard on Thursday, May 26, 2016 - 4:47am | in INFP

I've read descriptions of our personality type that refer to difficulties in romantic relationships. Here on Truity, for example, the INFP profile includes the note, "Second highest of all types to report marital dissatisfaction." How can this be, when we're so lovable? ;-) Seriously, though, I can think of one trait that has big potential for causing problems.

Some writers have...


Last comment on 07/12/2016 - 4:19am

How to get along with an ESFJ / ESTJ

by Johnwhiteartist on Wednesday, May 25, 2016 - 10:07am | in INFP

Hi All,
My wife seems to be an:
Supervisor, Executive / Provider, Sentinel, Consul (& Turbulent).

- but with tendencies toward:

I'm an arty, slightly flaky, introverted, disorganised INFP who can't settle for 'work for work's sake'. I need a higher purpose. I'm also indecisive and look for the middle-ground with...


Last comment on 08/04/2016 - 7:36pm

Career Path

by Guest on Monday, May 23, 2016 - 12:08am | in INFP

I am looking for a career path. I have been a teacher/ Nanny for the past 10 years. Thoughts?


Last comment on 05/26/2016 - 6:05pm

Looking for my male INTP life partner

by Stephsake on Thursday, May 19, 2016 - 5:49pm | in INTP

Hey there I am one of those rare INTP females and my dating life is a disaster. Whatsmore, it says that INTPs NEVER make the first move, so that's why I have yet to meet another INTP male love interest! Quite the conundrum it's comical! Sooo, I'm boldly making the first move and want male INTPs looking for their INTP female life partner to give it a go - contact me and let's see where it may...


Last comment on 04/02/2017 - 1:19am

I have no idea what to learn

by paulinamorales2218 on Wednesday, May 18, 2016 - 3:20pm | in INTP

Hello, i am a thirteen year old intp and am interested in learning something new, but I have no idea what. Do any intps out there have any suggestions on something specific to learn?


Last comment on 06/10/2017 - 8:35pm

Newbie: Am I flattering myself with my answers?

by Johnwhiteartist on Wednesday, May 11, 2016 - 9:20am | in INFP

Hi all, I'm a newbie.
I'm fascinated by these questionnaires and profiles. I got INFP. But I see that there are all sorts of nice things like I'm an Empath, a good listener, sympathetic, care for others etc.

My partner would possibly disagree with much of that. She feels that I don't care about or support her enough. I feel that I care so much about her but it's hard to get...


Last comment on 06/04/2016 - 11:36pm

Mental Disorders of types.

by dylanporter46 on Wednesday, May 11, 2016 - 8:05am | in INFJ

INFJ's have ya'll been diagnosed with Avoidant personality disorder or Dependent personality disorder, or Social anxiety disorder?


Last comment on 10/14/2016 - 3:01pm


by dylanporter46 on Wednesday, May 11, 2016 - 7:45am | in INFJ

Those types who swing left in my opinion: all NF's, some INTP's, E/ISFP's,. Those tilted to Right: all SJ's, most NT's, E/ISTP's,

Bernie Sanders INFJ altruist passion, Hillary Clinton INTJ elitist reserved , Donald Trump ESFP egotistic self promoter in over his head trying to get fired cause it comes with responsibility.


Last comment on 05/11/2016 - 7:45am

Sexual Orientation

by dylanporter46 on Wednesday, May 11, 2016 - 7:23am | in INFJ

SJ's mostly hetero, SP's more experimental but mainly for pleasure, NF's most likely to be LGBTQA, NT's mostly celibate or asexual?

Gay SJ's act straight, gay NF's more effeminate , hetero female SP's just pretend lesbians, NT's couldn't be bothered?


Last comment on 08/03/2016 - 3:14pm

Working type, Private type, Public type

by dylanporter46 on Wednesday, May 11, 2016 - 6:46am | in INFJ

When I'm alone or with close family I'm INFJ when working my personality/behavior shifts to INTJ. When out in public or tired ,I tend to shift to INTP in behavior. My spectrum of my personality is INFJ,INTJ,INTP. what is your MBTI triad.


Last comment on 05/16/2016 - 10:43am

Confuse in career path

by h_anindya on Sunday, May 8, 2016 - 1:23am | in INFP

I read this forum a lot, and I feel grateful because it help me to figure out what kind of person I am.
I took a personality test a long time ago, and the result was INTP. But when I took the test a few days ago, my result was INFP.
After read the characteristic about INTP & INFP, I feel I 'm more like an INFP than INTP.
I'm 25 yo. And graduated from...


Last comment on 05/22/2016 - 2:16am

How to discipline, decisiveness, results

by Guest on Wednesday, May 4, 2016 - 12:54pm | in ENFP

I feel bad about my relationship to work and therefore money.

It feels like I have to make it work, and that it doesn't. I feel like I'm floating around in Limbo, stuck between an idea and the action to manifest. I want to be thouroughly grounded, to follow through with ease, to be able to vigorously take bold action and create results that shake the ground. In stead I feel handicapted...


Last comment on 01/20/2017 - 11:26pm

Struggle to communicate

by daisy.deboevere on Wednesday, May 4, 2016 - 9:28am | in INFJ

Hi everyone,
I'm INFJ and I seem to struggle to communicate with people.
I'm doing a lot of volunteering work and we have common chats for that on the net where all volunteers are gathered for exchanging information. For me it's heaven, because it's my favorite way of communicating with others: by writing. I always choose my words carefully, try to write as authentic as possible,...


Last comment on 10/18/2016 - 2:13pm

Can my ex-fiance help me undo my door slam

by Guest on Wednesday, April 20, 2016 - 12:43am | in INFJ

I just found out last year according to the MB test that I am an INFJ. I didn't really look into it then. Two months ago I door slammed my fiance of 1 1/2 years. Is there a way he can help get me back?


Last comment on 08/16/2016 - 1:51am

The Big 5 personality traits and INTP's

by sharpnackm on Wednesday, April 13, 2016 - 6:36pm | in INTP

I have been looking into "the Big 5" personality traits that a lot of modern psychologists are promoting now, and I'm still a little skeptical about it, naturally as an intp I suppose.. But, anyway, I am wondering if anyone else has taken it and what they thought, and how it compares to mbti, and if there is a correlation.

I scored low in extroversion, average in agreeableness, average...


Last comment on 05/10/2016 - 2:22am

Struggling with School and Priorities

by legojack88 on Tuesday, April 12, 2016 - 2:25am | in INTJ

Basically, I (a very near sixteen year old INTJ teenager) am somewhat depressed, and I'm not doing so great in school. I am oftentimes distracted from my work, instead attempting to put off things in favor of vain means of entertainment. Though it seems false to accuse myself of such a thing, I would say that I am in a state of emotional distress. Every day, I become stressed by things such as...


Last comment on 06/13/2016 - 7:29pm

Looking for a connection and compatibility

by Kat.louise on Saturday, April 9, 2016 - 12:33am | in INFJ

Searching for a single infj in North Wales or Manchester area.... get in touch. I am a female btw :-)


Last comment on 04/09/2016 - 12:33am

8 Personalities

by 23ft45 on Friday, April 8, 2016 - 8:52pm | in INTP

So I took the Facet personality test and ranked in the upper 50%'s for the 7 personalities ENFJ, ENFP, ENTJ, ENTP, INFJ, INFP, INTJ, and 60% in INTP, or as most of you would know, the Architect. I was wondering if this is a common thing for most people, because my scores in the other 8 personalities ranged from the mid 40's to the low 5o's. Does my age have something to do with these scores,...


Last comment on 06/23/2016 - 1:14pm

16 Shades of Love

by Guest on Friday, April 8, 2016 - 2:30pm | in ENFP

16 Shades of Love! 

Has anyone noticed that we represent the 16 sides of GOD's Love in; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8? 

1. Long Suffering - ISFJ 
2. Kind - ISFP
3. Envieth Not - ESTP
4. Vaunteth Not Itself - ISTP 
5. Not Puffed Up - INTP
6. Doesn't Behave Itself Unseemly - ISTJ
7. Seeketh Not Her Own - ENFJ
8. Not Easily Provoked - ESFP


Last comment on 11/25/2016 - 4:21pm

Share your thoughts!

by Guest on Friday, April 8, 2016 - 1:03am | in INFJ

Hey hey,

I'm an INFJ, but would love contributions from anyone who's willing!

I’m creating a series of works that talk about Hierarchy:
how it influences people’s behaviors, creates disparities, and helps certain people benefit while others don’t.

Economies, countries, language/cultural/racial differences, religions, the environment, the climate, history, health,...


Last comment on 05/16/2016 - 7:51am

Questioning the actual validity of the MBTI.

by Guest on Thursday, April 7, 2016 - 4:20pm | in INTJ

Hello fellow INTJ's,
Lately I have been questioning the validity of the Myers Briggs Personality Test. This questioning was due to the fact that, I noticed that almost all websites with descriptions of personalities never had much negativity to be said. The closest thing to a flaw was when a website said that, "INTJ's tend to be arrogant and condensending..." This was immediately...


Last comment on 07/09/2016 - 5:43pm

So many choices, but can't decide!

by Guest on Thursday, April 7, 2016 - 12:02am | in INFJ

So I'm an INFJ, and as such, struggle way so much with making decisions...the options always feel endless and each of them makes sense!

I have a degree in fine arts and in environmental science. During my studies, I made the mistake of not listening to my instincts because instead of ES I should've done psychology or anthropology HANDS DOWN! I'm also an artist, so that I listened too....


Last comment on 05/01/2016 - 9:14pm

I'm in love with an ENFJ!

by Guest on Monday, April 4, 2016 - 4:49am | in ENFJ

Hi.. Just new to this.. Not at all skeptical, as the test and from what I've been reading I'm definitely an ENFJ.. Hope this is isn't too silly for this forum.. I've kinda fallen in love with a fellow ENFJ.. So my question is, is this a good match?


Last comment on 09/29/2016 - 11:49am

The 'Thinking' Trait.

by ananyamishra.kkm on Wednesday, March 30, 2016 - 6:07pm | in INTJ

Most tests for finding one's MBTI personality type contain questions regarding the 'Thinking' (T) trait that I find somewhat unsatisfactory. To me, being the 'T' type rather than 'F' indicates my affinity towards logic, which is objective, rather than emotions, which are biased, and incorporating such logic in taking decisions. Also, such decisions must portray an application of undaunted...


Last comment on 04/04/2016 - 11:21pm

What should I do?

by Guest on Saturday, March 26, 2016 - 2:50am | in INFJ

Hi guys, so im an infj and my first career choice throughout high school was always being a teacher. But then I thought of the way the kids might prey on my weakness of being nervous and insecure. Then after a few years I thought that psychology would be great for me since I have great insight to offer but it often feels as if I can never explain myself the right way. So I didn't think it...


Last comment on 08/05/2016 - 4:44pm

Can Personalities Change?

by lyric.elle on Friday, March 25, 2016 - 4:12pm | in INFP

I am an INFP with an opportunity to work in a position that would test every single one of my weaknesses - working in a high stress environment, making demanding phone calls to strangers, managing calendars and deadlines, searching for problems, and decisively estimating costs. On the one hand, it's a great paying job that may (eventually) lead to a more creative position. On the other, I...


Last comment on 05/14/2016 - 9:20am


by Guest on Thursday, March 24, 2016 - 12:58pm | in INFP

I did many jobs since 2007 after completing Masters degree in Econonomics. The 1st thing is after completing Economics since last last 7 to eight year I am confused. In my student life more then economics I did studied English Literature & our local Pakistani literature. Since last 5 to 6 years I am continuously studying Psychology, human behaviour & mind sciences. I'm a good singer...


Last comment on 05/22/2016 - 2:18am

two personalities

by Guest on Thursday, March 24, 2016 - 1:55am | in INTJ

What does it mean if you are both, an INTJ, and an INFJ?

Do I get to pick and choose what matches on both traits...? lol


Last comment on 04/04/2016 - 5:51pm

Any other INFP?

by nabeeha22 on Wednesday, March 23, 2016 - 5:49pm | in INFP

Does any other INFP feel like they're always lost or in a different world, or like you don't know what's going on? I don't know how to explain it, but a lot of times I feel like that and my friends say that I'm always in a different world or that I always seem lost. Another INFP has said "I never know what's going on ever" Is this an INFP thing, or just me {and that one INFP I just talked...


Last comment on 10/11/2016 - 4:50am

Coping as an INTJ teenager

by Guest on Tuesday, March 15, 2016 - 4:10pm | in INTJ

As I have begun to mature, I've developed emotional problems regarding myself and my environment. I am nearly sixteen years old, and recently I have begun to feel "displaced", as if I could just as easily be made of metal and circuits as I am of flesh and bone. Not only am I uncomfortable with who and where I am, I tend to feel uncomfortable in my own body. I would say that my current...


Last comment on 10/27/2017 - 12:12pm

Trouble at work

by Guest on Thursday, March 10, 2016 - 3:40am | in INTJ

Does anyone else have problems with roles that are not clearly defined and instructions that do not make sense or lack specificity?


Last comment on 03/17/2016 - 2:53pm

High school teacher burned out

by Bsams712 on Wednesday, March 9, 2016 - 4:09pm | in INFJ

Hello everyone, I am also struggling with depression anxiety, especially as it relates to jobs involving much social performance. I have been a high school teacher for 6 years, and I turned in my resignation in January. I plan on finishing out the year, but I found that the loud kids, negative colleagues and constant questions from students have been so exhausting. What do some of you...


Last comment on 08/05/2016 - 8:22pm

further studies

by ayishrash on Tuesday, March 8, 2016 - 7:17pm | in INFP

I m always worried about my future. My family dosnt trust me that i can success in future. They always think that i m not that clever one.Last month i just got my result of my exam.Before i got that result they said to me its okay if ur result is bad. They just making me down. At last the result was good as they dont belive it.


Last comment on 03/23/2016 - 5:56pm

Finding a career path that's rig get for me

by Guest on Monday, March 7, 2016 - 5:02am | in INFP

I'm 20 years old and I am an Infp. I am currently in a job that is leaving me stuck in a boring day to day routing with no personal growth. I am very introvert when it comes to my ideals and creativity and I want to be able to have more courage to share them with the world one day. But as it stands I believe my job suppresses that as it is a straight forward job (only one way to do it or no...


Last comment on 05/19/2016 - 4:51am

confused results

by merryn.matthews on Saturday, March 5, 2016 - 2:44pm | in INTP

So I got borderline for every personality aspect. I have used other websites and I don't relate too much to my results aside from being introverted. I think it's kind of funny, does it happen a lot/ advice?
(I put INTP just cos you have to)


Last comment on 04/13/2016 - 5:55pm

Write it

by caraya_99 on Thursday, March 3, 2016 - 5:45am | in INFP

Remember, we are good at getting our thoughts down on paper. I'm slowly learning to convert that energy to typing instead of writing. Not easy! But we are needed now, our non-judgmental-ness...our openness to everyone. We are way-showers. It's easy to accept every one if you expect the same from them. You do your thing and I'll do mine...what ever happened to that?!? Except in the case of...


Last comment on 06/19/2016 - 10:34pm

I understand

by Guest on Thursday, March 3, 2016 - 5:03am | in INFP

Some of us are feeling pretty down. I understand! There is a lot of negative energy floating around out there right now. We, the compassionate ones of the world, feel this very deeply. It's a hard time to be alive for sure...however, what an exciting time to be alive! We can come together like never before. I just found out I am a INFP. I discovered this knowledge on the internet. It fits...


Last comment on 05/22/2016 - 2:22am

I have my INTJ life figured out - Ask me anything!

by rallyredevo on Wednesday, March 2, 2016 - 11:48am | in INTJ

I lead what I feel is a perfect life for my INTJ personality.

Ask me anything!

I've basically streamlined and distilled everything to its basics, and continually improve upon each.


Last comment on 11/13/2016 - 3:25pm

Trying to make sense of my life.

by lien on Wednesday, March 2, 2016 - 11:17am | in INFP

I am in a dark place in my life, and trying to make sense of it all. Fortunately I discovered this site, and after I did the test and read more about my personality type, (INFP), things are starting to make some sense. I took care of my late husband until he died of cancer in 2007. I also cared for my beautiful Down Syndrome daughter until she passed away in 2013, at age 22. She was my whole...


Last comment on 04/24/2016 - 11:35pm

I'm so bored.

by Guest on Tuesday, March 1, 2016 - 3:43am | in INTP

I am an Intp and I am about to lose my mind. I am beginning to think a person can die of boredom. It is not my family that is boring me or anything but I feel I haven't done anything with my life. Sometimes I go into stages of depression just thinking about it. I want to do something that will make my heart race fast. To help others solve their problems the best that I can. Still, I can never...


Last comment on 06/21/2017 - 5:41pm


by Guest on Sunday, February 28, 2016 - 1:07pm | in ESFP

I'm having a relationship with a girl that is ENTJ. From what i read these two is unlikely to develop a relationship, and it is true that me and my gf are contrast, the only thing thats similar is the extraverted. I've been dating this girl for 5 years, I'm having a difficulties to invite her to a party scenes even tho she let me go if i wanna go party or clubbing, is there any tips on that?...


Last comment on 03/09/2016 - 12:25am

Did you know that ENTP and INTJ are a good match for relationships?

by dantelidium on Thursday, February 25, 2016 - 12:47am | in INTJ

Do you know why?

The common "NT" traits lead to deep conversations and meaningful connections.
Two intuitive thinkers.
A feeler and thinker may clash heads because the thinker can hurt the feelers feelings.
A intuitive and observant type may not get along because one likes to enjoy the mind and the other likes to enjoy the world.

The "EP" traits balance each...


Last comment on 02/25/2016 - 12:47am

Help fellow INFPers! I'm stuck in an INFP loop!

by Guest on Wednesday, February 24, 2016 - 9:35am | in INFP

Has any creative INFPs, out there, broken through the intense self-doubt, procrasti..., fear of exposure, etc, etc, - and actually achieved a Creative career?

I have found myself stuck in what I've coined an "INFP loop" which consists of doing creative project after creative project, each project promising either a source of income or a possible creative career. I usually finish it, or...


Last comment on 05/14/2016 - 9:44am

ESTP says "I love you" then disappears

by Guest on Wednesday, February 24, 2016 - 1:58am | in ESTP

I don't think I've ever been this hurt before.
Feb 12; ESTP says "I love you"
in the romantic sense - confirmed
Not heard from him since Feb 17.

ESTP experienced significant turmoil with an elder parent just shortly before 'confession' to me

thinking it's likely the 'confession' was driven by that

still, I'm hurting.

~ your friendly neighbourhood...


Last comment on 02/24/2016 - 1:58am

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