I'm still in school, and I feel like everyone around me has no thought proccess, they just do the first thing that comes to their minds. Is this really the case? I have no idea. They all act like idiots, all the time. It makes me so angry that they won't just shut up. They have to values, no morals, it seems like they're all just zombies, teachers and students alike. When I start to talk about intellegent/theoretical things like how we haven't found aliens yet or time travel, I'm met with sighs and dirty looks. Is there any way to cope with this? Do I just have to deal with it until they mature? Is this just how people are? Is there anything to do about it?


Emily (not verified) says...

As a fellow INTJ female who has ALWAYS felt the same way, my best advise is when you get to college major in something technical, as this will contain more like minded people. In college, join meetups and groups that are also like minded. 

Those people that you are refering to will never change. It will infuriate you that the intellectual conversations that you tried to have with them and the truth that you tried to speak to them they will later "realize" *eye role*. You will be screaming inside saying "I FUCKING TOLD YOU". It's difficult to watch those idiots make bad choices when you can see the behavior patterns and the future implecations.  

The beautiful truth is you are different and VERY rare. This is amazing and infuriating all at the same time. No one will understand you, yet they all wish they could be you. Many will be mad at you purely because they cant understand you and control you. Your intelligence, insight, and ability to not give a fuck are incredible and they are things that others will always envy.  Be unapplogeticly who you are, try to show a little tolerance to those idiots, and soon you will find your people. 

Benz (not verified) says...

I'm an overseas INTJ male(so, sorry for my spelling and grammar in advance). From my own experience (I believe every INTJ don't really have a good time during school period), my advice would be 1) find someone you can open up to talk with(then talk it out) 2) meet psychologist

I know the later one sound abit extreme but since socializingis one of the pain in the a** for any INTJ, both male and female, having some help from psychologist will not only solve this issue in healthy way but also give you numerous knowledge in this field. As for the reason of why you dislike other people, I'm sure the psychologist you're engaging with will know better than anyone of us here. 

Another thing I'd like to advise is to stop being arrogant, as many of NT type(including me) are. Many of us are too pround of our intelligence and feel superior with that, if you are also one of this, sooner when you start to see bigger picture of the world and understand it more, you will realize that it's such an idiot to behave like that. Some mensan INTJ even said that they don't feel any pround of their intelligence, so why should anyone feel then.

PS. Mraz had mention in one of his songs that "If you do it right, you'll love where you are" - then if you interact with people and you're full of irritation, you might be doing something wrong. There are many INTJs having the same problem as yours, some of them even successfully cope with it and wrote it on thier website. 

Be a little more kind, don't control others, control yourself. We are social animal, we truely are.
That would be all. Hope these help :)

Karen - INTJ (not verified) says...

You said it more nicely than I did (and your spelling/grammar is better than the original poster's, so no need to apologize for it).

It's baffling to me, as an INTJ female, how so many INTJs neglect to see their own ugly behavior patterns and manage to develop superiority complexes. I am not perfect and still bow to arrogance on occasion. However, I'm smart enough to know when I'm doing it and smart enough to know that I'm not the only smart person in the room. 

I hate to be so blunt but it's clear that her (unearned, as far as I can tell from this post) arrogance is likely the issue.


Karen - INTJ (not verified) says...

Girl, you spelled a huge number of the words in your post wrong (including the word intelligent) and the content of it isn't much better. Being an INTJ does not make you an automatic genius, nor does it mean that it's the basis for how others react to you. Stop being so arrogant. Maybe then, you'll stop getting sighs and dirty looks. 

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