My boss had me do this test recently, and I came up with INTP multiple times and it seems to describe me well, but not when I am at home.

More than one person has commented that I seem a completely different person around my younger siblings, and I have to agree with them. To others I come off as cold, sarcastic, and overly analytic, to the point several people have stated openly their belief I would be a cold and inept caregiver. On the other hand, when co-workers (rarely) see me with my siblings they express absolute surprise at my interactions with them. My closest friend at work acted like I lead a secret double life when he met my brother and sisters.

As a test I had my three siblings fill out the test for me and I got a ISFJ and almost an INFJ with overwhelming tendency toward F and J. I had them read over INTP and they laughed at the idea it could ever be used to describe me. I admit they know me best, but I also think perhaps they are biased due to 1 Age, and 2 how close we are. Perhaps they gave me the traits they think are best than more accurate.

I was curious if maybe I just seem like an INTP at work and with other family, or I learned to be more receptive to them because they relied on me so heavily for emotional needs at an early age. I admit in most things I am fairly rational, but not when it comes to them. They believe me to be a "goofball", patient, and doting, while others, including myself, view me as cold, harsh, and wrapped up in my own thoughts. Is it possible to be both?

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INFJ1961 says...

Extraverted feeling is your inferior function. Looks to me like it is through them that you get to put it to use on a regular basis, and therefore don't seek to use it elsewhere, as your interaction with them is sufficient and satisfying. That probably keeps you from wanting to explore less healthy ways of engaging your Fe. They count on you, and you don't let them down - that sort of matches the F and J they ascribe to you.

Based on what you've written, it appears you lead a well-balanced life (congrats!), and the relationship you have with your siblings is a significant part of that balance, and because it's a healthy relationship, you're likely to enjoy it as they grow up.

Markus (not verified) says...

Yes if you really want to know if INTP is the correct type for you, you have to learn about the functions and try to understand the different roles of the positions.
Some types can adapt behavior of others, but they won´t change type. Most of it is kind of understandable once you got behind the functions. I guess no one is just a thinker without doing the one or the other decision based on Feeling...

ENTPart (not verified) says...

Maybe you should not dwell on whether you are an INTP, but consider that you yourself agree that you are cold and harsh at work. Obviously you think your work requires this of you but that doesn't mean you can't change. Being a "TP" myself, my guess is that you fail to appreciate that teamwork trumps winning most of the time.
I don't know what your boss is like, but s/he is probably trying to tell you something by having you take this test. Maybe you're not the most introspective person, and s/he wants you to understand yourself better. We all have feelings, even if we think logic rules. Good luck!

Guest (not verified) says...

When I took the test I was between 4 different types. Reading a full write up on each potential type will narrow it down to 1 or 2. Each letter option is a sliding scale with a tendency not an absolute. How you answer the questions on the survey can change the outcome as well. One example would be whether or not you would like to have a large group of friends. I answered "yes". But in all actuality, by my age I would have many if it were true. I have a few very close friends and have no desire to get more because of the work involved. Understanding what the yes/no questions are actually asking can make it much clearer what your answer should be.

Gallus (not verified) says...

You can both be an INTP and have soft spots. You aren't a monolith. You're a person. I am also an INTP. People have called me aloof and cold, blunt, calculating, harsh, abrasive, schizoid, etc. However, not many people have accused me of being heartless. I like animals. I tend to like helping people. I feel bad for people sometimes. I sometimes feel bad for people for longer durations of time that people frequently accused of being soft would. Just because i'm not a heartless cold blooded freak of nature doesn't mean i'm not an INTP. Because i am also not a monolith. 

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