So I've been dating an INTJ for a few months. We started off as friends and it never occured to me that he liked me. I have many insecurities and have been let down a lot in the past. Although I know I shouldn't let my past dictate my future I am still quite wary and a little insecure. I'm giving the guy a chance and for thr past ten months he messages me everyday even though I've said he doesn't need to he still has been...up until last week when he just completely stopped messaging me. I found it very odd and messaged him a few times but his response has been just one or two messages and that is it. My initial thought was that he just needed some space which was fine. However then he became even more distant and I then thought he has found someone else more interesting or is now distancing himself as he is no longer interested. So I spoke to him yesterday and we chatted for a couple of hours. But today is the same distance again. I guess I am afraid of losing him as he has become a part of my life and we just are so compatible! Part of me is thinking I should just leave him be and if or when he wants to come and talk to me he knows what he has to do.... But part of me is thinking I really don't want to get hurt. I'm an INFJ btw. I feel like I'm becoming someone paranoid and clingy/needy etc which I hate so much and I'm trying to avoid as much as I can but I can't help it. I just needed to have a rant about this as I'm not sure what I should do.
Thank you for reading this post and any suggestions or advice would be appreciated!