While reading through everything about ISFP's, I noticed nothing was said about motivation, which I lack intensely and I know that other ISFP's do too, from other ways of communication and I was wondering if anyone else got this? I was also hoping that someone could help me deal with it, as it's causing problems for me at school or just general day to day things.

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Guest (not verified) says...

As an ISFP I have found that motivation is tough unless it's something that I truly care deeply about. It is common for our type to just "do what we want to do" causing lack of motivation in things like academic pursuits. Unless, once again, it's something that I'm really interested in like history or psychology. Switching your mindset from "doing what I want to do" to "doing what I have to do" tends to help me get motivated. Also, it's important to think about the big picture. Thinking about how slacking off will affect you down the road is definitely something to the legs moving. Just make sure you still follow your heart. Hope that helps.

Guest (not verified) says...

I see what you're saying; think about the consequences if I don't do something, and change my mind set for the important things, not necessarily the trivial things. That has helped me, thank you.

Jim Slosson (not verified) says...

I tested about 1000 kids at alternative schools. Almost all of them -- about 90% -- were P's. The road to alternative school is not really so much about drugs and teenage pregnancy as it is about unfinished asignments.

These kids do way better if they only have three classes at a time and all homework has to be completed at school. They are terrible at deadlines. They do much better when the reward is tied to tasks completed. I have seen these kids really blossom when you change the organizational structure of the school to help them get out of their self-defeating habits.

Guest (not verified) says...

From experience as a child, i learned more through listening and seeing, and understood the material, i grew bored with the material and always blew off my own homework. I usually got A's and B's in school even though i failed to turn in my homework. I looked for other things that would challange me, make me think in different ways, i taught myself many things that i still do as a hoppy or just to do it to keep practice on these skills that i have obtained. I love to learn because the more i learn the more i can build on idea's or create new ones, the possiblities are infinite. but in retrospect, Not doing my homework has lead me to be very sloppy of a person, but, i can tidy up very quickly. I use both my left and right hand, yet i sometimes forget where i put things, but eventually i find where i put things but backpeddling through thought what did i do. I now at the age of 26 am always pegged for someone who has "high Intellegence." But the truth of the matter is, What is intelligence? I learn better through music than i do through reading, yet i can read and comprehend what i am reading. I can read something and interpret it in many different ways, but eventually all of the interpretations have the same meaning. I Have a desire to do something, but lack the motivation, but get the satisfaction of being happy when i am helping someone out, I enjoy a one on one conversation over a multiple person conversation, but i can adjust my mood by simply blending into the crowd, I enjoy directing people into the right direction, aswell as organizing and bringing structure to chaos. I am an INFJ, i love listening to people and their life stories, even if it is drama. I communicate better through exchanging music, quotes, poetry and philosophy. I write poetry and philosophically, but the majority of my writings are more towards philosophically. I try to find meaning behind things that may have no meaning, yet i also seek understanding. Very confusing, i could go on and on but put yourself in their shoes, a kid will open up more if they feel as if you are trustwrothy, when dealing with kids bring back memories of things when you were a child and how you did things, and try to teach them the way you went through school, try several different ways but do not lose your temper, you have to be patient and understanding, see what they are actually getting frustraited at and help them lighten their mood by making it more enjoyable, hands on.....Percieving, what they see and hear, bring out your innerchild and interact with them, dont be too strict, but dont be too gentle, balance it. if they see you having fun, they will want to have fun too, they will gradually slide into wanting to learn. they will blow off homework still, but they will teach themselves through trial and error until they can comprehend the material, also helps if you have a tutor who works with kids on a one on one basis. as for the self defeating habbits that is when they go home, how is the home environment, mother father? is there anything bad in the home environment, these things effect kids, and how they function in school.

Guest (not verified) says...

I've just taken the test to find out that I'm a spot-on ISFP (or possibly ISTP, without the extreme sport fetish), so bear with me if this is a newbie question to the group....
I'm 50. I've been in the IT field for a while, and like doing what I'm doing, as long as I'm helping people. If find that when things like annual reviews come up and the "Where do you see yourself in 5/10/15 years", or "What are your career goals" questions come up, I just can't really think of anything...
I mean, my career goals are to make enough money to keep my family out of debt and live in reasonable comfort, maybe have some free time to do my hobbies and spend with my family.
Sometimes I feel like maybe I look like a loser to my kids, because I haven't achieved a higher status in life. Sometimes I feel I'm inadequate in my wife's eyes, because I don't strive to be a big shot in my career.

Nickimite (not verified) says...

Ah, man, the traps we ISTP's fall into. My policy is - don't worry about it! It may seem like they're disappointed, but unless you actually ask them you'll never know. Your family accepts you. You would know if they hated you, right? As ISTP's we don't belong in committed relationships; we inherently to poorly in committed relationships. But if you can get past that to the point you're at? Then you're doing something right, friend. Believe in yourself, and the rest will follow.

anderson.darrell63 says...

Feel motivated at any difficult moment.

RWL (not verified) says...

I appreciate reading these posts - I am an ISFP too. I also am lacking in motivation at this point. In fact, I am fairly depressed. I have been a creative artist and designer - I have now been teaching at a state university for 19 years - and I am beat. I seem to perk up while in the classroom but my heart is not in the university world and never has been. We have not ever had many students interested in my particular field and now there is maybe - one? My motivation in getting a teaching job was to provide stability for my family. I gave up an extremely creative position at a large entertainment company - but I had ended up totally stressed out. I am looking at retiring at 62 just to get out of there. Sorry if this sounds like complaining. I must be low to let down my guard and share this with folks I don't know over the internet (no offense!). I totally get what the one guest posted here about feeling inadequate -

James Marshall (not verified) says...

Struggling with where to go is a choice that has an infinite amount of possibilities and wondering what could have been different are really tough questions. I am in college now and I am wondering if I will even enjoy my major when I have so many ideas that I enjoy that are all in different directions. All the information and thinking does cause a loss of motivation. I believe that you have so many possibilities for the future even though you are close to retirement. I have found responding to others has made me delve into my own mind and question what is my real motivation. I do not know how it will pay the bills tomorrow but that does not worry me. You have lived through more than I ever have and you have accumulated more information than many people. Look at the people you care about and what motivates them. You have cared for your family and given them a stable life but sometimes you have to take a leap. If someone you care about loves dancing for example but is afraid he will not make a living, be there for the person. Teach them from your wisdom. These are my thoughts off of what you have written which is a small part of who you actually are. I know this response may be late but I am willing to listen and think if you are still struggling.

joy.stacy7 says...

Hey, I'm an ISFP and I lack motivation as well. I would never do my assignments in school and sometimes that would cost me. What I used to do when it comes to studying is not to waste time thinking about whether or not I will study because that would drain me even more so I'd just get started studying or whatever else it is I want to do. Try not giving yourself time to think about it. Do it as soon as it popps up in your mind.
Hope I helped.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi, i'm infp but i really can agree with what you say! If i don't do it immediatly i usually don't do it at all. Unless i just can't get into it at the moment due to having a heart breaking experience XD Its nice to hear another p say this.

Guest (not verified) says...

All these posts are so helpful. I'm a 27 year old male ISFJ pursuing a BS in chemistry. I do well with catching every detail to understand theory but really struggle with the motivation to complete assignments. Feeling like I shouldve chosen another major... but I'm grateful to know what I'm experiencing is at least normal.

Kaela (not verified) says...

I think I'm an ISFP. I never seemed to have trouble in school. I would do my work.... at the last minute, but it would be in on time. Especially when it comes to English and History. Math and science I am really good at so it wasn't as big of a deal that I procrastinated. I always liked school actually. I got enjoyment out of doing math problems for fun. I get overwhelmed by a very large task and never break it up into smaller goals, like, "you have to read 100 pages. It's due in two weeks." I probably wouldn't start that until just a few days before and then get stuck pulling an all nighter. I actually prefer when there is homework daily because then I will actually do it in a timely manner and not kill myself at the last second. I am in college now. I usually don't study until the night before an exam unless it was for a final and I had the time. I am very good at memorizing, so fortunately, this hasn't hurt my grades. As far as motivation goes, I can do something when I have to do. For example, I want to be healthy but I hate going to the gym. So, I play rugby, which makes me have to work out. I can relate with the "dropping out of college" quote though. I am already done with the stress of college. I just want to do something new, you know? I don't like making lists or plans, but I enjoy completing goals. I was a percussionist in high school. I would spend hours after classes learning and memorizing a marimba piece in solitude (which was super relaxing) but I can't just start playing on my drum pad now.

Your Love (not verified) says...

I just wanted you to know how much I care about you and love you. I sure hope you read this one day. Even if it is forty years from now. I might tell you though because I get excited to let you know how much I love you.

I am an EMPATH. It says I am INFP, INFJ, ENFP, ENFJ. I only took the test once and it gave me all four of them. I always swithc around these four when I take other tests. It is weird this one just said I am all four instead of picking one.
Starting with INFP, I do believe the realism of the moment is only of passing concern. I always look to the future as having an infinite amount of possibilities. I struggle to discern what I what though because I see so many future possibilities.

INFJ: I am more creative than almost everyone I have ever met, not because I think I am better but because I feel like all these other people have just not realized how far they can actually reach. I love helping others reach their goals in my own ways that may never make sense to you or others but they work and it is how I am. People get mad with me sometimes saying I am stupid or they ask me if I even think. It hurts me not because it offends me but because I feel as if they refuse to try to understand me. I am so weird and different from everyone else and often get singled out for it in group projects at school and work. Co-workers have yelled at me and even to report me because they think what I am doing makes no sense and is just a bad idea. To me it is a genius idea.

ENFP: I love to create and it excites me so much. I share my thoughts with others with enthusiasm and love to get input from those who listen to what I say. That is a struggle though because my thoughts are often different from the norm and many times have never been done before. I often get yelled at or dismissed because of them. I still love the people that do not love me or have frustrations with me. I know you and everyone else has so much potential and if given the opportunity, I will delve into thought with someone and show that person how creative and smart they actually are. I just ask that I am given this opportunity. My thoughts are often way out there to others and so it takes time to explain but if you are willing to listen and ask questions with an open heart and mind, I am burning to show you more than you ever thought you could think.

ENFJ: I like to be organized and often get flustered and forgetful when thoughts and items are not where I remember putting them. I have thoughts about feeding the entire world but no one has ever asked me what they are. I do think about others' potential as well. When listening to others talk, I often think about how I would hire that person and what jobs I would give them to show their full potential. Person after person who does not understand what they can do with their knowledge, I see so many opportunities. When someone has an goal but does not understand how to reach it, my gears start turning and I am up all night planning how that person can reach their goal. That is a big reason why I wrote this too. I may not be the best leader in the world but I know I would be a powerful asset to help others realize their full potential.

Vespera (not verified) says...

I have come to realize that as an ISFP I can burn with a fiery passion or I don't give a care.
There is no in between for me.
For us to be motivated, an ISFP must be emotionally attached to the task at hand and be filled with a sense of purpose.
Or else it all feels in vain and endless.
As for school, I had trouble with college at first, not because I'm dumb, but because the work felt tedious.
It took so much effort to stop procrastinating.
I had no choice, though, it's either that or flunking.
Not gonna lie, I came close flunking.
Personally, I think ISFP do better in technical programs.
Unfortunately, I can't skip college. I need a bachelor's degree to become a probation officer.
I need even more education if I want to be a social worker.
Oh, and I hate fierce competition. It doesn't fire me up. It actually wears me down.
That's why I avoided the health science majors. Too many people want in just for the prestige and money.
I don't want to be in charge. I just like to help out, do my dues and go home.

Kheledon (not verified) says...

Motivation is a very serious problem for my ISFP wife. If she's not creating harmony and comfort, she'd rather be playing a computer game (loves candy crush and other quick-click brain puzzles that allow her to act instinctually without thinking). Motivating her to do anything else is like pulling teeth, and I have little success doing so. She responds better to other people's attempts to motivate her than she does to mine. She sees me as domineering when I try to get her to do something she doesn't want to do, and she can resist such attempts to "control" her quite fiercely. She may even make "promises" and "agreements" with me about what she will do (in order to create harmony), but these commitments usually don't often last very long. The ISFP lives in the moment. What it promised yesterday is simply not applicable the following day (or, perhaps, not even later in the same day). This behavior has caused me a world of hurt over the years I have been with my wife.

James Marshall (not verified) says...

I know it may be a struggle but there is a reason why you fell in love in the first place. I have been struggling with a similar situation. My girlfriend and the woman I hope to soon marry is one of the smartest and caring people I know but she does not understand how I think. Therefore, she gets frustrated when I try to help her with her struggles. Even helping her cook will make her mad because I do it differently than she does. To me my way makes more sense and we struggle to understand each other as if we are from different cultures. Addressing your belief that your wife does not listen to you and feels as if you are controlling is difficult. I understand that you are trying to lead, not be domineering. Based on the little information I have and my own knowledge, I feel as if your wife may not understand your thinking even if she may say she does. It may sound odd and may make no sense but I believe it would help if you wrote a fiction story about you and your wife. Write it from your point of view and express your thoughts. Do not share with her that you are writing a story about the two of you until you are ready to share it. Do not tell her it is about the two of you, just let her know that it is from your own thoughts. You can go into details about pains and happiness as when you were a child. Express your thoughts as you think them. When you have finished your story--and do not be afraid to take months--ask your wife if she would be willing to read what you wrote. Let her know you put your heart, thoughts, and memories into the book. Ask your wife what she thinks about different passages and how it makes her feel. It will allow you to look into her mind while she reads about yours.

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