It says that INTPs have a difficult time coping, and this has proven true for me, but I have discovered a very powerful way of learning to cope with various issues, such as emotional issues through the use of Mindfulness practice. Has anyone else (INTP or not) found this to be the case?


lexie.white says...

By 'coping' do you mean coping with like traumatic events or problems? Personally, I find myself to be EXTREMELY conflict averse, i.e. I avoid my problems, especially problems relating to emotions and dealing with other people's emotions. One of my best friends is an ENFP, and I find that a lot of the time I say things that may come across to them as insensitive/rude/brutally honest, thus hurting their feelings. I feel bad because I care about my friends immensely, I'm just really bad at sympathizing! I'm not familiar with the Mindfulness practice, but I'm interested because I feel as though I could use a lesson or two in sensitivity. Oops

rhoadess says...

By coping I mean able to deal with negative emotions that may rear up in our minds because of certain triggers, and being able to keep them in check, before they get out of hand. Things such as anger, and anxiety are examples, or ruminating on something. By being mindful one can see them in an kind of objective, accepting way, non-identify with them. It works like a kind of weight training for the mind. It also helps us in being mindful in what we say.

Wikipedia: Mindfulness is the intentional, accepting and non-judgemental focus of one's attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment, which can be trained by meditational practices that are described in detail in the Buddhist tradition.

I had been introduced to it years ago, but never really took it seriously until I listed to the lectures of Ronald D. Siegel PsyD, The Science of Mindfulness: A Research-Based Path to Well-Being from audible. Some free guided meditations for his book can be downloaded here:

You might try them yourself first to see what you think, then get the book if all goes well.

The Lectures:

lexie.white says...

Thanks so much! This is really cool I'll definitely check it out

lillin71 (not verified) says...

I find this quite interesting. I'm an intp and I struggle to keep thoughts in check with what comes out of my mouth. Most frustrating and destructive at times. The most annoying conflicts I find are when I know I'm being lied to or manipulated or what will inevitably happen in the near or distant future. But as human nature fears what's outside the can only hope to cautiously sugar coat reality for individuals. So it's a silent lesson learned to b calm and sometimes silently dismiss oneself! I do admire those who know me well enough to listen. I have been told multiple times "that's exactly what you said would happen." I love my intuition!

Guest ( Durdana ) (not verified) says...

Wikipedia: Mindfulness is the intentional, accepting and non-judgemental focus of one's attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment, which can be trained by meditational practices.

Interesting, I do not know this is the thing I do to cope up with negative emotions but I have been doing something similar to it ever from I was approximately 16 years old. I think the reason it came to me naturally was, at this age I became best friends with an ISFP.

As I am INTP and a 100% introvert, I have been observing people around me from a very early age (probably when I was 10 years old.) She was the top ranker in class, so for my own benefit, I tried to became friends with her. I constantly tried to understand "What is she like, exactly?" I tirelessly tried to analyze her personality, habits, actions decisions etc. And what I found truly became an inspiration to me. I learned many things from her but the most important was: Perceive, then Judge.

Whenever I come across anger or irritation, I go into a detailed analysis of the situation that caused that anger. Could it be avoided? The person who did this, was it intentional on his part?--> No, then I might also be at fault --> Yes, then I have no right to be irritated. And if a person has intentionally irritated me, I make sure, they will never dare to talk to me again. After that I feel relaxed and satisfied :-D

When I am depressed I do things at which I am good at, example- reading story books, then after some time I feel competent.

In case of anxiety, like speaking in front of many people, I remind myself that "What do I care what these people think? I am speaking up because I believe in my logic. They are dumb so I need to present a broader perspective to them which they could not find themselves." Thus I become more confident.

Sadness is the feeling that I embrace. I believe, in sadness people become more introspective. When I am sad I again resort to analysis and think, "Could the situation get even more unfavourable?--Yes. Then I am lucky that things did not went any more averse. And somehow I feel a bit happy. But if the answer is No, then I can only say, INTPs tend to be melancholic and I like it.

MessyJess (not verified) says...

YES!! Mindfulness & Meditation is a major part of keeping my sanity. I have recently discovered that I am an INTP & it was because of ACT (Acceptance & Commentment Therapy) that helped me on my path to discovering myself & taking the Myers Briggs. Part of ACT is practicing mindfulness and meditation. It is CRAZY how well it has worked for me. As INTP my mind is good at piecing things together AND the funny thing about "together" is it all depends on perspective and the meaning we give things, perceived or REAL. Mindfulness allows me to challenge what I perseve and meditation gives me insight on the meaning I give things aka reveil my values.

Guest (not verified) says...

INTP's are sometimes misunderstood, but intelligent, sensitive, easy going and have a great deal of intuition to rely on, to cope with the world and other people. They have a lot to offer and shouldn't have to suspend their beliefs in how they think or feel. They fit in this world, and have a place like the inner workings of a clock. INTP's have been presidents and leaders, scientists, writers and philosophers who focused on what they were good at. I really doubt they gave much thought about sacrificing their own beliefs and reactions in order to get along with others. Maybe some people are just mean, or can't handle judgements. They are not worth your time. Theres plenty of people who appreciate honesty and intelligence. I think its Okay to have an ego and mindful practise to me sounds like mind games and manipulation so people who think they are more important than you aren't offended that you are correct, and that they might be wrong. I stopped enlightening people of certain facts a long time ago. If you know a dock is 40 ft and a person screams at you- its 50 ft - so they won't fall in the lake when they run full speed, let them run the 50 ft and fall in the lake. I don't correct people or offer pertinent information to irrational people who don't listen. In my experience this is basically mother nature sifting out your enemies leaving your true friends close by. Just be yourself. INTP's have PLENTY of sensitivity. They make GREAT friends, and fantastic parents. INTP's can accomplish great things in life that can benefit the planet. And lets face it, I've had brutally honest remarks made to me, and it wasn't from another "unfeeling" INTP.

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