What are the specific English words, phrases and language patterns that can be used by a teacher or parent to persuade ENTJ children?

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Linda Schafran (not verified) says...

Always be on top of your game with an ENTJ child; I'm thinking mainly in the classroom as I am a teacher.  I am also an ENTJ myself and, as a student, I continually challenged my teachers, from an early age.  If I did not respect my teacher, they knew about it and the interaction was one of a challenge, to say the least.  I was prone to laugh behind (sometimes in front of) their back and virtually call them names.  As a teacher, in order to avoid this unacceptable behavior and gain my ENTJ's respect, I must be organized and in the know, showing my ability to understand the situation and get to the crux of it, consistently. I generally enjoy taking the moments to reason with the student on an individual, one on one, basis.  It is fairly difficult to give words, phrases, and language patterns when really what one needs, teacher or parent, is a consistent behavioral pattern where respect for the child and by the child, rules the day.  It is said that ENTJ children in the classroom are the least liked by teachers.  Yes, they (as all children, actually) will push the envelope, test the boundary, and just express boredom or whatever they feel like expressing.  Recently, I had to tell my class of Kindergarten students that I think the artwork that one of them did deserves a sticker.  I had a photo on my cell phone which I took the day before of the toilet paper unrolled all in a huge pile on the bathroom floor.  I really just wanted to know who did it even though I suspected the ENTJ boy, and I knew there was no other way of discovering the culprit but to suggest I reward for the work achieved which I showed them in the photo.  It worked, and then I spent several minutes lecturing the class (avoiding looking just at the boy). I wound up asking him if he really thinks he deserves a sticker and he admitted he did not. He got the message, it definitely appeared as we talked about simply caring, and responsibility.  Christmas holidays came the next day, but I saw some effect on him that day.  He is my most challenging but also rewarding relationship I have in the whole class.  Whatever language you use, make sure you display self-assurance and strength in your words; you mean what you say and say what you mean.  Use direct language.  As the teacher, or parent, you know more and it will interest the ENTJ to see that, since he tends to be a know-it-all, from a fairly early age.  You will be teaching important life skills, such as it is fine to be assertive but tempered with self-control.  It is for me and can be for anyone, super rewarding teaching/parenting this challenging child.

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