What are the specific English words, phrases and language patterns that can be used by a teacher or parent to persuade ENTJ children?


Linda Schafran (not verified) says...

Always be on top of your game with an ENTJ child; I'm thinking mainly in the classroom as I am a teacher.  I am also an ENTJ myself and, as a student, I continually challenged my teachers, from an early age.  If I did not respect my teacher, they knew about it and the interaction was one of a challenge, to say the least.  I was prone to laugh behind (sometimes in front of) their back and virtually call them names.  As a teacher, in order to avoid this unacceptable behavior and gain my ENTJ's respect, I must be organized and in the know, showing my ability to understand the situation and get to the crux of it, consistently. I generally enjoy taking the moments to reason with the student on an individual, one on one, basis.  It is fairly difficult to give words, phrases, and language patterns when really what one needs, teacher or parent, is a consistent behavioral pattern where respect for the child and by the child, rules the day.  It is said that ENTJ children in the classroom are the least liked by teachers.  Yes, they (as all children, actually) will push the envelope, test the boundary, and just express boredom or whatever they feel like expressing.  Recently, I had to tell my class of Kindergarten students that I think the artwork that one of them did deserves a sticker.  I had a photo on my cell phone which I took the day before of the toilet paper unrolled all in a huge pile on the bathroom floor.  I really just wanted to know who did it even though I suspected the ENTJ boy, and I knew there was no other way of discovering the culprit but to suggest I reward for the work achieved which I showed them in the photo.  It worked, and then I spent several minutes lecturing the class (avoiding looking just at the boy). I wound up asking him if he really thinks he deserves a sticker and he admitted he did not. He got the message, it definitely appeared as we talked about simply caring, and responsibility.  Christmas holidays came the next day, but I saw some effect on him that day.  He is my most challenging but also rewarding relationship I have in the whole class.  Whatever language you use, make sure you display self-assurance and strength in your words; you mean what you say and say what you mean.  Use direct language.  As the teacher, or parent, you know more and it will interest the ENTJ to see that, since he tends to be a know-it-all, from a fairly early age.  You will be teaching important life skills, such as it is fine to be assertive but tempered with self-control.  It is for me and can be for anyone, super rewarding teaching/parenting this challenging child.

Austin Eliante (not verified) says...

I am an ENTJ. If you want to get across to them you must make a clear line between right and wrong, correct and incorrect. We hate being wrong. We will gladly do the difficult thing if it is right. However, power (yes even recognition for being a bada** in kindergarten) is one of our only grey lines. Why? Because working up the ladder or gaining respect is the "right" thing to do for us. If you see an ENTJ doing the wrong thing it would be a good bet that it was because we thought it got him somewhere. We are not the type for chaotic evil. Everything has a purpose and a plan. Telling us we don't know what we are doing is fighting words. That child needs a ladder to climb. If no ladder is there to climb he will find one and justify doing it. Give ENTJs goals, not just medals, but goals that lead to responsibility. We were the few kids who hated our participation awards. Even our other awards were OK but without a title and a responsibility we just see it as a past accomplishement. If that kid wasted a roll of TP, repremand him and then tell him "now that you know how bad that is to do, I want you to be in charge of finding a way we can conserve more toilet paper." This way he is no longer feeling in the dumps and wont do the thing again because his sacred responsibility is to make sure the TP is conserved. He has power, power from the big and mighty teacher! Beware though, ENTJs will abuse power if given it too quickly. Start slowly (yes we will fight you for more) and teach him how to be a good leader who works well with others (cuz normally we don't see the need).

Not logged in user (not verified) says...

I´m an ENTJ, and when I was younger I was a ẗeacher´s pet. This is probably because of ENTJs need for tribe approval. With teachers, I was used to being the favorite and it always bothered me when they started treating me like just another kid. Sometimes I could get mean with my peers, but as soon as I thought the teacher heard me I would try to cover it up. Eventually, in middle school, I decided I didn´t care if my teachers liked me or not. (Pushing away/avoiding/¨hating¨ people is something a lot of extroverts do as a defense mechanism that leads them to mistype themselves as an Introvert) I put no effort into being nice to them. Looking back, I can see how that diminished my respect. I would often make fun of them to my friends and complain about their merit as a teacher to my parents. The teachers I did respect the most were the teachers that gave me the extra kindness and attention I believed I deserved (and had been used to getting in elementary school) for being smarter, a better worker, and getting better grades than most of the kids.  Overall, I would say ENTJ students respect and listen to the teacher more when they believe they are treated accordingly to how they believe they deserve to be treated, based on their actions. However, this does not mean they will never take advantage of this to stay out of trouble.

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