Just recently found out I was and infj personality type
Submitted by Guest (not verified) on October 13, 2018 - 5:26pm
I am in infj took the test three times which explains my life especially just finding out after 51 years about why I do what I do and who I am, so I'm just a baby and I would like to sharpen myself and my life as in infj.
Hello Hewitts Cross. The way I read the question was, the use of the word baby meant that he just found out about personality types and is new to this information, thus he is having a new experience, similar to how every experience is new to a baby.
Ok, David. I gathered that, but to me, it was a weird way to label oneself. With my discovery it was more of a way to confirm what I already knew about myself, but now summerized nicely to confirm my "identity".
I've tried so hard to change. Those closest to me wanted me to change. Spouses used abuse to get me to change. I changed temporarily due to fear, but at the end of the day - I'm still an INFJ. Accepting it has been the best. Spending more time alone now. (Had to take both spouses out of the picture completely.) I don't think I should be in any type of relationship. Occasionally socializing with others seems to work best.
Ultimately, you know what's best for you. I found after doing a lot of soul searching on my own that I was more afraid of being taken advantage of - my boundaries were not clear or made known. I had to divorce my first husband of 14 years as he only wanted me to be a certain way but after a period of time on my own I eventually met my second husband of 8 years who really does care about how I feel. It's out there if you want but you must do the internal work.
Hello Diana, I feel you. I was told many times that I have to change becouse no one will like me. I was told that I am antisocial and egoistic. Few days ago I read about INFJ again as this was my type 2 years ago. At the time I didn’t pay much attention on it but now, when I am more mature, it make a lot of sense. More I read about INFJ, more things is very right to me. Funny thing is that I always tried to explain some of it and I personally believed that is something wrong with me. Obviously I didn’t fit in ‘normal’ society. Now I do enjoy my own company, I try to be close nature and animals, I draw, I read a books and I try not to do things which make me anxious and stressed.
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Hewitts_Cross says...
Why would you label yourself as a "baby"?
David Lindgren (not verified) says...
Hello Hewitts Cross. The way I read the question was, the use of the word baby meant that he just found out about personality types and is new to this information, thus he is having a new experience, similar to how every experience is new to a baby.
Hewitts_Cross (not verified) says...
Ok, David. I gathered that, but to me, it was a weird way to label oneself. With my discovery it was more of a way to confirm what I already knew about myself, but now summerized nicely to confirm my "identity".
Diana Chase (not verified) says...
From one INFJ to another: Sometimes we try too hard trying to fit in. It helps to understand 'why' don't fit in.
Anna Mae (not verified) says...
I see it as a two way street - mutual respect. I accept the way you choose to live your life.
Diana Chase (not verified) says...
I've tried so hard to change. Those closest to me wanted me to change. Spouses used abuse to get me to change. I changed temporarily due to fear, but at the end of the day - I'm still an INFJ. Accepting it has been the best. Spending more time alone now. (Had to take both spouses out of the picture completely.) I don't think I should be in any type of relationship. Occasionally socializing with others seems to work best.
Anna Mae (not verified) says...
Ultimately, you know what's best for you. I found after doing a lot of soul searching on my own that I was more afraid of being taken advantage of - my boundaries were not clear or made known. I had to divorce my first husband of 14 years as he only wanted me to be a certain way but after a period of time on my own I eventually met my second husband of 8 years who really does care about how I feel. It's out there if you want but you must do the internal work.
AnnaS (not verified) says...
Hello Diana, I feel you. I was told many times that I have to change becouse no one will like me. I was told that I am antisocial and egoistic. Few days ago I read about INFJ again as this was my type 2 years ago. At the time I didn’t pay much attention on it but now, when I am more mature, it make a lot of sense. More I read about INFJ, more things is very right to me. Funny thing is that I always tried to explain some of it and I personally believed that is something wrong with me. Obviously I didn’t fit in ‘normal’ society. Now I do enjoy my own company, I try to be close nature and animals, I draw, I read a books and I try not to do things which make me anxious and stressed.
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