For years and years and years I thought I was on another planet. I now know that there are more out there, and it's the most satisfying and liberating feeling. Wish I'd come across this sooner!

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MelMckinney says...

Couldn't agree more! I've become somewhat obsessive over this, however, it's helped me to have some sense of belonging. I'm INTJ female..less than 1% of the population. But now I know I'm not alone completely lol.

Willow says...

I always wondered how I could be around people but still feel lonely. People don't understand us. I recently had a friend call me an enigma.I guess that says it all!

Heaven1031 says...

YES YES YES! I have people in my life who know me well, but I still feel like they don't completely get me. Having this extra insight into who I am makes it easier to accept the fact that people dont get us simply cause we're so rare! Both of my siblings are total extroverts so I always thought I must be depressed or something because I wasnt like them. 

vanessaher (not verified) says...

definitely helped me. several things suddenly made much more sense and i can look for ways to optimize things. it is a blessing.

to me it was a thing of finding solutions    to painful or confusing experiences.

Tiffany Mason (not verified) says...

I discovered I was INFJ years ago and it opened up a treasure trove of information on the most complex, unusual and contradictory parts of myself. I don't feel so alone anymore either. 

Pippie (not verified) says...

Yes and No, it was fascinating and liberating to give a 'name' to how I interact with the world, but on the other hand, the discovery made me feel more isolated, because I do not have the tools to effectively communicate with people. It is nice to special and rare, but at the same time, not being able to share ideas and be a contributor to society can diminish the rareness. I love me, but it is difficult for others to love me. 

Judy Hanks (not verified) says...

I would value a website that would give INFJs an opportunity to meet each other in a town.  I have returned after 30 years to Baton Rouge, Louisiana after a career in places like Cambridge, MA and the Washington DC area.  I do not fit (in so many ways) in this area although I really like the frank, open nature that predominates the people of this region.  I have met one poet recently - really great one - and that helped me feel so much happier.  Who are the other INFJs near me?  I bet there are a few great potential friends for life out there.  Bottom line - the web pages like this one has brought people closer with texting but is just shy hitting the bulls-eye for providing real social connections.

 

HRM1Y says...

It was extremely enlightening when I learned about me being an INFJ, but it quickly turned into an anxiety.  Sometimes ignorance is bliss.  Most people aren't as "self-aware" as we.  I do wish there was a social forum where we could share experiences and coping skills.  I can feel alone in a crowd of thousands.

erinn says...

I just joined this site not too long ago. I'm actually a cross between INFJ and ISFJ, but I can relate either way. I've never felt this close with people I've never met before.

Mae Rose (not verified) says...

This is all actually so relatable. I've always felt really different and misunderstood and my relationships with friends and family are always so flawed because they just don't get me, even though I know they try as best they can. It is a really liberating feeling to realize I'm not from another world XD It would be so lovely to actually meet some more INFJ's in person though. 

rosebud204 (not verified) says...

I completely understand. It's such a nice feeling to know that you are not alone on this planet and that there are people with similar goals and interests. 

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