Hi there ... I'm a lifelong-tested-always-the-same-outcome INTJ female. I've been looking for some observations on whether INTJs are naturally perceived as being too critical in relationships or whether it's just me! After several failed relationships in the past and a lot of self-reflection, I thought perhaps I would be better (i.e. less critical) in the future. Almost three months into a new relationship (after a three-year relationship hiatus), I have already been pegged as "liking things a certain way" and worry that I am coming across as critical. I don't intend to criticize my partner but I think it comes out this way. After more reading on the INTJ type, I am wondering if this is the noted INTJ effort at always improving and finding efficiencies and wanting to support your partner in doing the same in their own pursuits.
Does anyone have the same issues or relationship concerns? Am I just too critical/picky or am I just being an INTJ? Having a better understanding of this will help me know better how to address it.