I'm an INTJ female, dating ISFJ male off and on for a year. 

My concern is that I've read that ISFJs have real difficulty dealing with emotional or mental stress and in fact my ISFJ will out-right DENY that he has any problems at all. However, I recently read that although they will deny these things, it tends to take a physical tole on their body. That's what I feel is happening with him. When going thru stress, he will claim that he's sick, or down with his back, and I believe he is, but is there any benefit in me introducing the idea to him that much of his physical pain is a direct result of his mental or emotional stress??

Any thoughts or opinions (especially from ISFJs) will be helpful. Thanks!


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 I am an ISFJ and my mental and emotional state directly affects my physical state. I have fibromyalgia and depression. And it is a vicious cycle that never ends with me. 

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I am an ISFJ too and sometimes it can be a struggle to open up too. Everyone is different, but what I suggest you can try is establishing a supporting, nurturing environment for him so that he feels an environment of trust where he can open up. A danger of being an INTJ, and maybe this is not relevant to you, is that sometimes your logical behaviour may be perceived by a sensitive ISFJ as attacking or not caring about his feelings. So if you want to help him out, establishing that nurturing environment where he feels he can reveal stuff without being judged will do a world of good for him, and you too as you will likely get to know him at a much deeper level. Hope this helps somewhat. Good luck!

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