First a question. How is it that one source claims ESTJ's are our best bet while on another they are the type to be avoided?
OK being an idealist, has it made you pickier about whom you dated? Did you hold out for what qualities you knew the person had to have? Or did you choose 'good enough'? Has your idealism become a need for perfection (i.e. the laundry must be checked off completely) when choosing a mate? And was 'good enough' a positive experience? Or were you miserable?