I always wonder, am I the only one  who gets fired from medical offices working as a receptionist after a month, or are there people INFP who have the same problem as me?

Honestly, I think all my job's have given me phobias of working. I am sure there is a name for that phobia. I try hard to keep a job, but for some reason all my managers told me that I make to much small stupid mistakes, or that I don't seem responsible, because I have to always wait for someone to tell me what to do instead of figuring it out on my own like any responsible person would. I wonder if anyone faced the same problem. How did you deal with it? I am 28 and can't get a steady job. I am trying to get a degree now as Radiologist Technologist, but its not going to be so soon.


Greg M (not verified) says...

I am 55, INFP-T, and I have never been able to hold down a job for long and it isn't getting any better. I too make small errors at work and have been accused of not taking initiative or expecting people "to hold my hand". I usually quit before it gets to the point of getting fired. I did find an "out" - a little side occupation that allows me to work alone which I seem to do fine at - I just have to find a way to make it full-time. I think it makes sense that people like us would have a hard time on any traditional worksite because of the low percentage of the population we make up - those places just aren't designed for us. I think when INFP's choose jobs or career paths they really have to take into account the setting itself and how many people they are going to be working with our around. I have simply given up on working with others. Good luck - you're young so you have a lot of time.

Alexa B (not verified) says...

I share your experiences, and your work-phobia.  I am 53 and have been fired from (or had to leave) many a job as I was perceived as being spacey, or careless, or clueless, or whatever a boss or coworker decided to think about me.  I have never understood why I am perceived this way as I really do care about doing a good job and being helpful to the people around me.  I have enormous empathy for my bosses' situations and the weight they carry on their shoulders everyday.  And I am NOT stupid!

The best job I every had was a customer service type of job where I did a lot of sales support.  I worked via phone with sales reps who sold the product that my company produced.  I understood the industry, and the challenges they face, and could help them considerably.  I talked to the same reps for years, and could have some fun with them in our conversations.  Oddly, when I would meet them in person, they always seemed sort of shocked, or surprised.  I clearly don't look like the person they were picturing on the phone.  The thing that really made this job great, though, was my manager.  She would check my paperwork and let me know when I made a mistake, so I could see my blind-spots.  She was kind, and really had my back.  I worked there for 5 years, and then the recession hit. 

I have been out of the workforce since then, and am just now trying to go back to work.... and that work-phobia is kicking into high gear!  Totally dreading getting a job.

Thank you for sharing your experiences so that I don't feel like there is something wrong with me. 

DreamWithinADream (not verified) says...

Honestly, no. I'm 34 and I've never been fired. Every employer I've had was sad when I left. I'm not saying this to brag....but I am suggesting you may be getting poor fits for jobs. I require creativity and freedom. Some MBTI stats show these are most common top values among INFPs. For me it is a basic requirement for a job. This means I avoid detailed, concrete task work. When I had to work low end jobs in college, I did retail which is pretty simple. You just put products away and ring people up. I was always pleasant with customers. 

Now I do design and writing for marketing. It's a good fit as it combines my interests of art and psychology. I have a lot of freedom because my role is viewed as creative and most work places treat you diffently than a typical office worker. I come and go as I please for the most part and am left to my own devices when it comes to accomplishing projects. Since I create everything, there isn't any procedure for me to follow. 

I also have done well with sub teaching and private tutoring because I convey complex concepts pretty well to others by adapting it as I go, picking up on what they will respond to. I also adapt very well to new environments. I DONT do well with being micromanaged, given a rigid procedure I cant adapt, given a rigid schedule, and doing task work that is repetitive and doesn't use any creativity or imagination. I've avoided that though and my work life is going pretty well. 


My challenge was getting jobs. I didn't make good first impressions. I've gotten better at that, but it's still my weak point.

Anyhow, I suggest looking into work that offers more independence and values imagination and improvisation a lot more.

Evelyn Weibel (not verified) says...

I am 32 and never had a full time job. I was fired from my internship after college and never recovered from that. It was not suited for me; I am not sure what job could be suited for me. The internship was with a public defender and I had to ask questions of people in jail and it had a math component. I am bad at math. Esp with people around. The numbers blur... like when I was volunteering with a cat rescue fundraiser a couple weeks ago and I was trying to give the people change for some brats and I could not concentrate when there was someone there. I am not a fast paced sort of person, as someone told me who interviewed me and rejected me. I have been rejected many times and I really dread looking for a job but I cannot live with my parents forever. I also did temp jobs where I did scanning and it was my idea of hell. Inanity, no creativity--nightmare. I did data entry part time which I hated--but the good thing about it was that once I was trained I didn't have much supervision but typing in all those meaningless numbers bored me to tears. I really want to write but few can really live on that. I am doing a pet sitting business but it's not enough money to have my own place. I also have child care on Tuesdays and a flexible office job, part time, that's with Mom. yikes. Really sounds like a loser--even more so that i don't have friends. I'm probably one of the worst INFPs. I have all the bad characteristics and none of the good. I don't know how i will get a job. I am really terrified, i was crying today. Awful. I am too sensitive. I don't know how to stop being who I am. I don't want to have to be someone else. I want to change the world. Travel, have a farm, own business. Write, mainly. Have something to write about. Write about adventures in faroff places. And come back to my place in teh country where I can breathe. But I don't know how to make my dreams a reality, or compromise with reality.... I am getting desperate. I don't know what to do. 

roberto pinheiro (not verified) says...


I am INFP and I know exactly the feeling of all of you. I'm 34 years old, I'm brazilian (sorry about my bad English). Have you tried to study the trading activity? I quit my last job and now I'm a trader. It is an artistic activity, it gives me freedom and I can express my creativity. I want to make money from this activity so that I can invest in other projects that are more linked to my causes. I wish that everyone can overcome the challenges. What I can say is that it is very important to invest in self knowledge.

annedreamergirl (not verified) says...

I write a blog at dreamerrambling.wordpress.com, and I know exactly how a lot of you feel. I am 20 years old, and sometimes, I feel like I am suited for nothing but unemployment, because so little of the jobs out there are suited to me. I am so introverted, and anxious of a person, it makes it hard to hold down a job. I am currently starting a childcare traineeship, and hoping working with children is something I can enjoy, while on the side, I can do my writing, for my blog and fiction books. it's hard, but maybe you could give childcare a go? INFPs can be very good with children, and possibly enjoy the job. I will keep people updated on whether it is a viable career path for INFPs on my blog. Take care everyone---this life isn't easy, but we need to stick through it. Like some of you, I don't want to keep depending my parents forever either. 

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