Hello everyone, I am also struggling with depression anxiety, especially as it relates to jobs involving much social performance. I have been a high school teacher for 6 years, and I turned in my resignation in January. I plan on finishing out the year, but I found that the loud kids, negative colleagues and constant questions from students have been so exhausting. What do some of you successful INFJs do?


Guest (not verified) says...

Small group work would probably be more fitting and possibly more fulfilling for you. Check with tutoring businesses or Home school co-op groups. Lots of times home schoolers network together and hire a teacher for certain topics.
I'm also an INFJ and while not a professional teacher, I chose to go into a local charter school and teach once a week as a community mentor sharing topics I'm passionate about (thus ending up on this web site this morning). My group just typed themselves and we'll be discussing it more in depth this week. I love working with them. I love volunteering too.

Sandalessie (not verified) says...

Hi Bsams,

I am an INFJ, too. I worked as a nurse for many years.... as INFJ's we are attracted to caring professions. I also found that I readily burnt myself out and I needed to work only part-time for most of my career. Probably, I cared just that little bit too much about patients and I found I was easily over-whelmed by other people's suffering.

Firstly, I strongly recommend that you get treatment for anxiety and depression. You should talk to an experienced, professional counselor about ways to deal with work-related stress. Have you tried mindfulness meditation? I have had a lot of success with this technique.

You may benefit for a career change -doing tutoring at home one-on-one with students and only working, say, 4 days per week may suit you. You can always go back to class-room teaching in the future if you want to.

Guest (not verified) says...

Sandalessie and Bsams: I am also an INFP and have been a nurse for 20 years. I am also to the point of burn out and am about to change careers/go back to college.
What I am doing, and what I would suggest to both of you, is that you look at our traits and find a way to stay in a caring based profession, but one that is not as high stress as nursing and high interaction as teaching.
As INFP's, I am quickly learning that while we DO thrive for a while in professions like teaching and nursing, the stress involved will indeed lead us to career burn out and/or dissatisfaction.
As I decide what my next step is, I know I want to stay in a career that addresses our personality types need to make a difference, but this time I will also look for something that is lower stress and also gives me the autonomy that we crave.
I am leaning towards counseling, nutrition, maybe writing or audiology.
I hope all of us find something we love that also fulfills our need for being able to take our time making decisions and our need to work in professions that give us the chance to make decisions with out being micromanaged or over stimulated.

Bsams712 says...

I totally agree. I feel like I teach very well and that it is a good profession for me, but it may not be the BEST profession for me. I care very much about other people, and I enjoy talking and interacting with people even though I'm introverted.

Since I am such a good listener and prefer to help people get through tough times, I think I would be a good counselor. Another component of teaching that is bothersome is the pay, and I think some counselors do pretty well. The most recent career counselor I saw charged $150/hr!

Thanks for your input! I guess it's back to school for me!

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello bsams712,

I too am an INFJ with degrees in psychology and exercise physiology with a minor in nutrition. I have my own private practice in professional bodywork and have officed with medical doctors, chiropractors and work closely with a clinical psychologist that has a very holistic approach to counseling.

All of that to say, I plead with you to do some serious looking into food allergies and intolerances, as well as testing for the MTGFR genetic mutation, all of which can immensely exacerbate and even create severe and debilitating anxiety, depression and more serious mental health issues. Thyroid and adrenal function are also of paramount importance. I have experienced and witnessed hundreds of people over the course of my practice eliminate depression, anxiety, schizophrenia and myriad of health issues by eating well, I'd est, finding and eliminating foods that are not tolerated. For those of us that are already sensitive, compounding what can often seem burdensome (our sensitivity) with foods that do not agree with us is not helpful.

Look into Dr. Perlmutter's "Grain Brain" and Dr. Williams' "Wheat Belly" for starters. Weston A. Price is also excellent and a good place to begin.

Disclaimer: I am not a physician and all of the above is for informational purposes only. Please seek the advice of a qualified, holistic physician.

Best to you!

Guest (not verified) says...

*id est, not I'd est. Autocorrect. Sigh.

Guest (not verified) says...

Goodness, if there is a way to edit posts, I need to find out how to do that from my phone.

The genetic test is for MTHFR, not MTGFR.

Apologies for such an apolcolyptic typo fest! Ugh. :/

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm facing the same situation. I've been a secondary teacher for the past 9 years and I'm reaching major burnout. I feel like I can't manage the classes well but I'm frequently sought out by individual students during my prep and after school so that I can talk to them. I loved working in libraries when I was younger but am leery about job prospects in that field. My husband is finishing his degree to be a mental health counselor, I keep wondering if I should go that way. I love to write but never have time or am too burnt out. I have 3 kids of my own so I feel like by the time they are in bed I have to grade or plan-- no time to write I feel. I always feel like I'm a crappy teacher-- behind on grading, anxious about management. I'm very patient with my students. I've never been a particularly angry person but my burn out has lead me to be more sarcastic and angry which doesn't feel like me at all. I love sharing my love of reading, leading discussions and working with individual or small groups of students but everything else is terrible. Plus no raise in the past 6 years and I'm ready to change careers I just don't know what to do.

INFJ1961 says...

Are there actual tutoring positions out there? I'd think INFJ teachers could flourish in such a career, as well as their students.

Bsams712 says...

Hey all,

I am happy and proud to say that I found a career in commercial insurance brokerage using my language skills in their international division. Since I am mostly working with adults in a quiet office, I feel much less stressed and much more appreciated. Even though the work is stressful, it is stressful in a different way than teaching. I can arrive when I want take lunch when I want and leave pretty much whenever I want. I work with a young group of talented professionals who are respectful and intelligent. The pay is slightly better and is expected to go up quickly. I almost wish I had started this new career several years ago. My personality type works fairly well in an office but not when I am on conference calls or in meetings. I'm slowly working to overcome this. Private tutoring does work well for our personalities and so would counseling. Anything one on one is better than performing for a group. I just didn't want to go back to school, so my options were somewhat limited.

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