So I happen to know an ENTJ (I know him very well, actually) who is pretty much everything I've heard about them, the tendency toward leadership and management, the ambition, the utter frustration that encompasses him whenever he's saying something and no one is listening... There's more, I can't even remember it all. The point is, I think that most ENTJs out there could understand him pretty well, so I'm seeking your advice here. (But hey, if you know one too and you've figured it all out, I like to hear all the opinions people have.)
This particular ENTJ is pretty loud and bossy, and will constantly inject himself into, and take charge of, conversations which he wasn't even listening to before. He will tell people what to do even when it is not his place to do so, and when reminded of that fact, he becomes furious. I feel bad for him, too, though, because he seems like the only way he feels he's doing anything worthwhile is when he's excecuting a plan, usually one involving a group that he manages. Maybe someday that will be his job, but right now he's making everyone dislike him, including myself sometimes.
Have any of you awesome ENTJs out there ever struggled with maybe needing something to lead but ending up just pushing people around? Maybe knew someone who did? I want to help this person, but they are just getting on my nerves. Should I try to give him something better to do by himself? Does he need to lead a group of people in order to feel like he's doing what he was always meant to do? Can an ENTJ stand not being a leader, and if so, how does it all work?
I thank you in advance for all of your thoughts/advice, it's hard to get advice on something like this without embarassing people, especially the ENTJ conscerned.