Do any other INFPs feel nervous when driving? I lack self confidence when operating a car, especially when I'm driving on an actual road with other cars and not just an empty parking lot. My dad told me that soon enough I'll feel like the car is my body - that I'll be able to sense where the car is effortlessly. I've been practicing for a few months and I don't feel this way. I am ill and I feel symptoms (like lack of self confidence, anxiousness etc.) probably play a part in this, but to what extent? A lot of depressed people can drive, and I know it's different for different people. I know there are a lot of people who aren't ill and just lack self confidence because they do. However I just want to know if any other INFP doesn't exactly feel fully comfortable while driving - as if a car is not an extension of their own body as I was told would feel.

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Guest (not verified) says...

Hi there!

I'm an INFP and though I've had my license for abt 13 years now I remember being very uncomfortable and easily stressed by the whole experience of learning how to drive and taking the tests. Also I had no idea of being and INFP back then. I have never even had the thought of a car as an extension of my own body so I wouldn't worry about not feeling that way :) But, the key here is practise. And maybe it'll take longer time for you to get comfortable behind the wheel than it would for others but it's important not to give up. If you feel more comfortable in a parking lot, then stay a little longer there and take babysteps to learn the rest, just small parts of what is uncomfortable and scary at a time. If you feel at ease driving with your dad that's great. If not then maybe there is someone else who you feel calmer with? I think the most important thing is to take it at your own pace, to let yourself become comfortable a little bit at a time. If you rush too much(or let someone else rush you), then you'll just freak yourself out and that'll take all the fun out of driving. Maybe you'll never feel the car as an extension of your body, but it'll definitely get easier and in time driving will start to feel more natural. Try finding a way that works for you, to make it fun and take the pressure off. Just don't give up :)

Bard says...

Couldn't have said it better. My experience was similar; I was quite nervous at first, then got more confident with practice, then moved to an urban area and got nervous all over again in the new, more crowded and stimulus-rich environment. But again, practice eventually took care of that.

trayjaytucker says...

I still can't drive and I'm 48! I wonder if many INFP's 'don't' drive? I once heard on radio 4 that a huge amount of poets couldn't drive. Then I read that a lot of INFPs love poetry... hmmm.

dunkie22 says...

I drive like a beast! I have owned a couple of "pocket rockets", and have loved putting them through their paces. Having said that, I always am aware of my surroundings and drive many cars ahead. Now, with my Kia Soul, I enjoy driving more slowly and enjoying the trip. Once I am comfortable with the car, I am just fine.

khthies says...

I know I do... I mean, I just started driving (first time I got distracted and ran into a bush- stopped before I hit the house, but it might contribute), but I do. There is always the fear that you will misjudge an intersection, or bear the brunt of road rage, or offend someone, or... gah. Yeah, driving makes me nervous. Oh, and if there are people in the car with you, the realization that their lives are in your hands? And the knowledge that, yeah, you get distracted? *shudder*

caddored says...

I didn't start driving until I had to in the Army when I was nineteen. I now drive a truck and I feel safer. I too drive several cars ahead and I can see better being higher so it has helped with the nerves. I've never felt that the car is an extension of myself, just more comfortable knowing where I am on the road. Yes, other drivers are scary, so you have to be aware of them, but don't let that freak you out. Like people have said, if you feel better in the parking lot, stay there longer. When you feel more comfortable, find some road that isn't well traveled and practice more there. When that feels comfortable, find a more traveled road and so on. Don't go from the parking lot to the freeway. Also, don't let anyone push you. Take the steps to make driving a pleasure and not a punishment. Also, don't force yourself to drive sooner than you are ready. Always be aware of your surroundings, especially in the suburbs and developments. They still make me nervous and I'm 50 =) Good luck =)

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an INFP and I love to drive. So much so that I wish I could be a professional race car driver.

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