Hello there, folks!

It's been quite some time since I got interested in typology and personality types. The first test I took was the 16personalities.com's Neris type explorer and the result I got was INFJ. Since then, in a period of three years, I've tested as INTJ, ENTJ and ENFJ.

The test results switch from I to E has probably had to do with me getting more confidence and becoming more open a person when getting older as well as having worked as a salesperson and a fundraiser. But still, it's odd that a person would score so many different types in such a short frame of time. It seems that the only place where there has been consistency have been the letters N and J.

The confusion was so strong that I needed to delve deep to the Jungian cognitive functions theory. I reasoned that I fit to the Fe-Ti- axis, which would lead to me being an FJ or TP type. I also am fairly certain that I'm and intuitive. That's an NFJ or NTP. I'm quite ambiverted in that sense that I spend lots of time reading and introspecting, but I also have a high activity level and tend to be really expressive and enthusiastic in circumstances that allow it.

Meeting new people and having a meaningful conversation with them is one of the biggest joys life has to offer. I could basically be a balanced ENFJ, INFJ, ENTP or INTP. I might say I'm not as scatterbrained as Ne-types sometimes seem to be. All the cognitive functions tests I've taken score highest on Ni and Fe, which translates to the types INFJ and ENFJ. I have suspected ENFJ because of the high activity level and expressiveness I mentioned.

The reason why I've started to doubt my type is that although the ENFJ's description matches me in many ways, most of my friends seem to be NT types and my need for intellectual discussion oftentimes surpasses the need for emotional connection and all the nice banter people around me engage in. Wouldn't it be more natural for an ENFJ to engage rather than withdraw in situations where people are talking about things that are of no interest to him, but he still knows the people and likes them? I try to do it, but sometimes just talking about the latest gossip and people's weekend binges gets quite ravening. Also, the need for excessive banter and jokecracking isn't there. To my fortune (or misfortune) I'm surrounded by ENTJs, ESTJs and ESTPs, who have their ways with those things. I just don't feel compelled to participate and that makes me doubt if I'm a real extrovert as I can be quite a loner sometimes.

All in all, I still think the most likely types are ENFJ, INFJ and possibly INTJ and ENTJ. I can't make up my mind between those.

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Lauren Davis (not verified) says...

Hello!

I understand your frustration! It sounds like you have had quite the journey to self discovery! I think it is cool that you are so well rounded that you get many different scores. As an ENFJ myself, I have noticed that this type and the INFJ type are a little more difficult than other types to pinpoint. The INFJ, because they are so rare and turbulent, and the ENFJ because the have the chameleon tendency, and change drastically depending on the social situation that they are in.

I am no expert, but from what you talked about, you sound like an ENFJ to me. Here is my reasoning: You consistently scored high on NJ, so I think that is pretty obvious you are some sort of Intuitive Judger. As far as Feeling goes, which I'm sure you already know, that is how you make decisions. It sounds like you are very well rounded, so you are good at using logic and reasoning. But when all is said and done, do you generally make decisions based off of your internal values AND/OR the people involved, or cold hard logic? I am guessing you are a Feeler. Extroversion and Introversion are the most tricky if you ask me, because in my opinion, it changes from situation to situation. Plus, there are such things as extroverted introverts, and introverted extroverts ha ha! Though I am an ENFJ, there are many situations where I am definitely more introverted. I dont necessarily enjoy the latest gossip, or other trivial things in conversation, but if you get me on topic of saving the world, a controversial topic, or an intellectually abstract idea, I could talk for hours! Since you are surrounded by T's who like logic debate and banter, an ENFJ would match whatever expressions are of the people around them...so it makes sense that you would be able to connect well with them on an intellectual level due to that chameleon-like tendency that ENFL's have. Gossip may not be fun for you to listen to, but if you are an ENFJ, though you may not like it, you would listen and validate those listening to a certain degree.

Well, there is my two cents! Not sure if it helped. Good luck!

-Fellow ENFJ :)

CourtneyS (not verified) says...

I changed from an ENTP to an ENFJ so two of my letters changed. A lot can happen with growth over the years of life with experiences. Shocked me for two letters to change but I am so an ENFJ. My E would never change as I score way on the E side. So not an I at all. But the TP to FJ scored close to the middle. So we are not always 100% in any one letter category. I think we are some of both sides but maybe slightly more in one side than the other. Make sense?

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