In theory, the Judging (J) personality characteristic has nothing to do with being judgmental.
It’s true, those who carry the (J) banner are firm in their opinions and have clear ideas about how things should be done. And they normally pay more attention to details than their Perceiving (P) counterparts, noticing things that companions routinely overlook.
Being yourself should be easy, shouldn’t it? You just let go and be whatever you imagine yourself to be with no masks or labels.
That’s not how the world works, though. Societal expectations, parental pressure, even a boss with an explosive temper — these and other external forces can influence our actions and make us act in an inauthentic way, presenting variations of ourselves in order to fit in.
Most Introverts, and especially Intuitive Introverts, find it really hard to trust people. The main reason is that we have a finite energy for people and need those exhausting interactions to be worth it. We are looking for soulmates, not tourists in our lives. This makes us very selective when it comes to our friendships and who we let into our rich inner world.
You are the life and soul of the party and never miss a social engagement. Your son prefers to sit in his bedroom and read.
You love clothes, shoes and makeup and take care of your appearance. Your daughter is a slob who refuses to shower, won't brush her hair and has no interest in clothes.
You're an introvert who needs time alone every day. Your toddler follows you everywhere and never stops chattering. You can't even take a pee without this little firecracker hanging onto your ankles.
It makes sense that people with different personality traits would have measurable differences in their brains, right? The short answer is “yes.” The long answer is “probably," to a certain extent, but it’s hard to be sure because brains turn out to be pretty dang complicated.
Sensitive and empathetic, ENFPs are prone to taking on the weight of other people's problems. Whether it's a guilty friend or a boss with control issues, you have a tendency to strap on their baggage and carry it around as if you were their personal valet.
It's great that you care for people, but life's too short for toxic friendships. Here's how to stop overloading yourself with other people's problems and cut the cord on these energy-sapping relationships.
Hi, I’m an Introvert - but I haven’t always thought so.
During my 20’s and my early 30’s I would have said I was an Extravert. It seemed a good fit to me and I think my family would have said the same. In fact when I told my brothers my revelation, they laughed incredulously.
Have you ever missed a fantastic opportunity because you were not sure how it might turn out? Or made an irrational decision because you were too scared to step out of your comfort zone?
Anecdotally, almost every parent has noticed the personality differences that arise in their children. How is it that Rachel, the firstborn, seems to have such different personality characteristics than her younger brother, raised in the same house by the same parents just two years apart?
I would bet that every introvert has dreamt about taking a solo trip before. Once you decide to take the plunge and go on a solo vacation, however, where do you go? The ideal places for an introvert to travel alone would meet the following criteria: