How To Tell The Difference Between ESTJ and ISTJ (Using Celebrity Examples)

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 18, 2020

Orphaned Anne (with an e) Shirley has arrived in Green Gables, much to the surprise of ISTJ Marilla Cuthbert. But when Marilla’s neighbor, ESTJ Rachel Lynde, comes to investigate the situation, her acidic honesty makes for a painful conversation.

“Couldn’t ya send her back?” asks Rachel, when Anne steps forward.

“Well, we’re still considering on it,” mumbles Marilla.

“Considering on it? What is there to consider? I mean, a boy would have been bad enough but…”

7 Signs that Enneagram Ones Are Slipping Into an Unhealthy Place

On any typical day, the Enneagram Type 1 is on a quest to do what’s right and ensure everything they do meets their expectations, with very little room for error. They set mile-high standards for themselves that make perfect sense to them but baffle others. These Enneagram types are called “the Perfectionist” for a reason! 

10 Things you Can Learn About Life by Watching an ENFP

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 12, 2020

ENFPs often seem like they flit through life, moving from one party or adventure to the next. The truth is, there’s so much more below the surface than passion and spontaneity for the ENFP personality type.

When you watch closely, you’ll see that ENFPs have plenty of qualities that few get to see, but which make them excellent role models and friends. If you have an ENFP in your life, here are just a few of the lessons they can teach you. 

Why You Fail While Others Reach Their Goals

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 11, 2020

You have plenty of goals you want to achieve. But, you’ll be the first to admit that you aren’t really making any progress.

Even worse? It feels like you’re being left behind. It’s as if you’re beginning a marathon and everybody else is whizzing past you at record speed—while you remain at the starting line with your feet stuck in the cement.

What gives? How come everybody else seems to be scoring these big wins while you stay in place? Let’s look at a few potential reasons. 

7 Reasons Why You Might Be Wrong About Your Personality Type

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 06, 2020

When I took my first 16-type test, I was in shock. “This is freakishly accurate!” I thought. “How can anyone know me this well?” Fitting into a particular Myers and Briggs personality type can fill you with a sense of reassurance and belonging. It tells you that you’re not alone, and there are other people who think and see the world in a similar way to you.

The Secret to Achieving Goals, by an Enneagram Type 8

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 05, 2020

As an Enneagram type 8, I am a natural goal-setter. 

Since I was very young, I remember setting targets and goals to reach. These ranged from New Year's resolutions to grades for my classes in school, and splitting university into a four-year plan to accomplish everything I wanted to do. In my working life I’ve done the same – and I still have a whole list of things I want to achieve this year!

Categories: Enneagram, Type Eight

5 Ways Mentally Strong Feelers Deal With Rejection

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 04, 2020

People who type as Feelers in the Myers and Briggs personality system make for truly special friends and partners. That’s because they’re able to connect emotionally, communicate their thoughts and feelings, and empathize when appropriate. These types are very tuned into their emotions, which can be an essential tool to navigating the world. 

4 ISTJ Personality Traits That Always Seem to Get Overlooked

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on July 30, 2020

ISTJs are aptly described as the “Inspectors” of the Myers and Briggs personality system and if you can remember that, everything else makes perfect sense. 

Our thought process, our behaviors, our decisions, all come from a place that looks at the world as a whole and constantly places individual pieces into their logical positions therein. In general, we inspect things in order to improve and maintain them. 

Are All Enneagram Type Fours Really So Moody?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on July 29, 2020

Enneagram Type Fours are self-aware, sensitive and reserved, and they may be the hardest type to understand. They are deeply in touch with their own emotions, as well as empathetic and understanding of others’ feelings. To anyone who isn’t a Four, they can seem distant, unsociable and moody. 

But are they really melancholy and morose or is there something else going on with Fours?

Categories: Enneagram, Type Four

Speak Less, Accomplish More: How to Use Fewer Words to Become a Better Communicator

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on July 28, 2020

Good communication skills are important for everyone. You need them to build and maintain quality relationships, and to achieve your goals in educational or career settings.

In verbal communication, you should never confuse quantity with effectiveness. In fact, speaking too much can be counterproductive. Words can lose their impact when they’re unleashed in a flood, based on the resistance they provoke and the one-sided nature of the social interaction.

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