My ESFJ boyfriend thinks relationships are easy. I do not. We have been dating for over two years, which is a new form of miracle for me and really no big deal for him. While it’s been easier than my previous attempts, it’s been far from simple. Because inside my mind I have many, many illogical questions about how relationships work and no logical framework to answer them with. Without these things, I am a ship beneath a starless night sailing in circles until I can bear the siren’s call no longer and crash upon the rocks.
Does the phrase “I earn a good salary, but I want to be in a job that I truly love” sound familiar? How about, “I work in a nice place, but the pay is really bad?” If you’ve ever felt unfulfilled or underpaid, take heart. Because as it turns out, experts say that your personality is the key to getting the career and the money you want.
This is a pair of kooky, tireless rebels (not by choice, but by nature) who give no attitude to rules or regulations, and happily march to the beat of their own drums. Honest and unapologetically individualistic, they have zero interest in abiding to the system or fitting the mould.
What do an ENFP, INFP, ENFJ and INFJ have in common? According to Keirsey, they’re all Idealists. Sure, they each have their own unique styles, but deep down, they share the same core motivations: the pursuit of authentic self-expression, and the opportunity to inspire others to do the same.
INFJ, the creative, determined and idealistic personality type. We strive to find meaning and purpose in everything we do, seeking out the reason behind the action, aligning it with our values.
Sounds pretty impressive, right? And it is, except when faced with mundane tasks, everyday admin and yes, those pesky details.
ENFJs… We’re devoted, loving, hard-working and loyal to a fault. What’s not to love, right? Well, for this ENFJ, love has been … a battlefield. Like many of my fellow Teacher personality types, I tend to fall into the category of “serial monogamy.” I find myself in one relationship after the next, pushing for something lasting—even when the relationship has clear problems.
I’ve been working at a non-profit for the last 3 ½ years, and we’ve just concluded a process where we revisited our mission. It occurs to me, though we may consider a mission statement crucial for an organization, we may never consider having one as individuals. Yet, when we look at the most fundamental questions of meaning and purpose in life, they point toward crafting our personal mission in the process. The following is a step-by-step process by which any individual could articulate his or her own personal mission, as well as vision, values, calling, and guiding principles.
I find it ironic that I pitched the idea for this article—an article on goal making—over a month ago and I’m only just writing it now. Clearly, I am in need of its contents as much as the next ENFP!
Have you found yourself wondering why your INFJ friend, partner, or family member has trouble expressing their emotions? Does it feel like pulling teeth to get them to open up to you, despite your close relationship? It seems a little odd that the INFJ—one of the most sympathetic types of Myers-Briggs personality model—has such difficulty voicing their own emotions.
Why is that, for some people, forgiving themselves is like water off a duck's back—they apologize, vow to do better and just move on with their lives? Yet for others, there's so much shame attached to a perceived wrongdoing that it's almost impossible for them to forgive and make peace with themselves?