From the epic science-fiction space drama to the coffeeshop meet cute in New York City; from the stuffy country detective to the next great American roadtrip hero, our novels, scripts, and short stories are defined by their characters. Fiction is known for its sign posts—the fairytale Happily Ever After, the satisfying conclusion to the WhoDunIt, the dismantling of fascist political regimes, the lesson learned, the day won.
You’ve heard the old saying, “no one is perfect.” Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses and different ways that we behave around others. Some of them, like the Type Four’s creativity or the Type Two’s natural sense of compassion, are talents to be developed. But we all have some areas where we could use some improvement. For Type 3 and Type 7, that trait is empathy.
How many times have we heard someone say, “I’m just not the creative type,” or worse, “I don’t have a creative bone in my body”? Unfortunately, in our Western workaday world, we have come to assume that creativity pertains to a limited scope of human endeavors—things like painting, composing, and acting—and that only a limited number of us have the acumen for such tasks.
Being honest in job interviews is important for your personal integrity but also because if you overpromise skills and attributes you don’t have, it will become obvious once you’re on the job. But what do you do when your honest answer could cost you the opportunity?
Everyone has shortcomings, regardless of your personality type. Interviewers aren’t looking for a “perfect” person, and if you appear to be one, they’ll know you’re not being totally truthful.
The infamous ditzy Christmas-tree brain strikes yet again. There’s something important you should be doing. That finals paper. The job application. The long conversation. The really-critical-and-time-sensitive-obligation. The big thing you’ve been putting off for quite some time now. You know very well what it is.
Procrastination is a phenomenon that arrives in all shapes and sizes—a lifestyle Perceivers live and breathe. Dr. Ferrari, a professor of psychology at DePaul University, identifies three primary types of procrastination:
For me, the word “scam” always drums up an image of a balding, pushy, used-car salesman. You know the type. He uses phrases like “deal of a lifetime!” and “I shouldn’t be doing this, but just this once …” You’re totally psyched, you did it! You wore him down! Only to sign the papers, drive the car off of the lot, and realize you’ve been hopelessly outdone. Bamboozled. You were effectively swept up in a manipulating moment and now you’re stuck with the short straw.
INTJs and ENTJs might be at opposite ends of the Introvert/Extravert spectrum, but what they have in common is a drive to solve problems. This is great for building careers, but when it comes to friends, family and colleagues, their delight in giving advice can ruin relationships.
If you are an INTJ or an ENTJ, you may already know that you have a tendency to express your thoughts and opinions quite openly. But have you considered the effect this has on other people? And that your need to give unsolicited advice is probably caused by a lack of self-confidence.
Throughout the centuries, humans have found solace in the outdoors. Nature has inspired the works of great artists and writers, such as Keats, Millais, and Turner. These artists saw in nature what we still see today—a safe haven and an opportunity to escape the chaos of the city.
But what is it about nature that makes us feel good—whether we’re Introverts or Extraverts?
We all want fulfillment from our careers. In fact, research from BetterUp, a career experience platform, found that more than nine out of 10 people would be willing to trade a percentage of their lifetime earning for more meaningful work.
It’s important, but it’s definitely not so easy to find. Often, you get so wrapped up in the daily fires and minutiae, you end the workday feeling deflated rather than delighted.
The nine Enneagram types spell out the primary strategy we adopted to survive childhood. By the time we enter the workforce we have gotten so good at using our survival strategy, it makes complete sense to deploy it on our unsuspecting colleagues.
However, like every good strategy, it has a dark side—a blindspot we couldn't foresee when we started using our foolproof approach. Something that will keep us trapped, hurting ourselves and the people around us until we can step out of it.