What Do Enneagram Sixes Secretly Want in Relationships?

Friendships and relationships can be a source of safety and protection. When we belong to a person or group, whether through shared interests, ideals or experiences, we feel a sense of belonging. We are reassured the group or relationship will go some way to buffering us from the calamity of daily life. For Enneagram Sixes, finding people or groups they can belong to is crucial.

Category: Type Six

Enneagram Type 6 Relationship Compatibility

Thoughtful and protective of those who they love, Enneagram Sixes make loving and loyal partners. However, when less healthy, the Six can come across as controlling and have trouble trusting their partner, which can lead to issues within the relationship. 

Which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Six? The answer isn’t so simple. Any type can be compatible with a Six — and each type will experience their own joys and struggles within the relationship. 

Not Sure If You Are an Enneagram Type 1 or Type 6? Ask Yourself These Four Questions

One of the most common mistakes people make when trying to find their Enneagram type is that they over-identify with a single specific trait. For example, someone who over-identifies with anger might assume they are an Enneagram type 8, another with anxiety assumes they are a Type 6, while someone who identifies with helpfulness assumes they are a Type 2. 

Understanding the Psychological Defense Mechanisms of the Enneagram

This blog post is part of our Fundamentals of the Enneagram series, which takes a deeper dive into all the Enneagram elements - wings, arrows, subtypes, centers of intelligence, growth pathways and more. For an overview of the series, start with our introductory post here. 

In the introductory blog post to Enneagram Fundamentals, I described defenses as being like band aids we have forgotten to take off. Covering up wounds that never quite healed. 

Introducing Our New Series: Fundamentals of the Enneagram

I was first introduced to the Enneagram while contracting for a company on a change project. They said “Our organization is mostly Sixes. That will make change harder. Here is Helen Palmer’s book. Go.” 

As I cracked open the book I was thinking, “Six what?” And so I began my journey to determine my type and try to grasp how to apply this knowledge to the organization. 

Enneagram, Faith & Your Relationship: Diffusing Your Passions & Tapping Into Your Virtues

The Enneagram is a powerful tool for deepening one’s spirituality and in finding a truly fulfilling personal path. It’s also an incredibly helpful lens for improving unhealthy patterns and finding joy in your relationships. 

Why I Hated my Enneagram Results (and What I Did About It)

Recently, I decided to take the Enneagram test on Truity. I hadn’t even heard of Enneagrams, so I was intrigued. I purposely did not research the Enneagram system so it wouldn’t influence the way I answered the questions. We all want to be portrayed in our best light, so if I knew Enneagrams were about emotions, I might subconsciously try to sound less emotional.

I was excited to read my results. It’s fun to unlock the mysteries about ourselves and why we do what we do.

Understanding Enneagram Subtypes: How Each Instinct Affects Your Type (Part 2)

In part one yesterday, we covered everything you’ve wanted to know about Enneagram subtypes. You learned what the instincts mean, how they stack up, what countertypes are, and how to use your subtype to understand where your emotional energy goes. 

Now that you know how to use your subtype for deeper awareness of your patterns, we’ve provided a general overview of what each Enneagram subtype may look like. Keep in mind that “general” is the key word here—you may not fit the bill completely, but this can provide some insight into exploring your subtype further.

Understanding Enneagram Subtypes: How to Find Yours & Use It for Self-Development (Part 1)

Have you ever met two people of the same Enneagram type and wondered how they’re so different? While the Enneagram describes nine types of motivation, there are way more layers to take into consideration when it comes to your type. One of the most highly influential factors? Enneagram subtypes.

What to Watch at the Olympics to Learn More About your Enneagram Type

The Olympics is a grand spectacle of sport, celebrating all forms of sporting prowess over the two week period. You can watch people at the top of their game, from all over the world, competing in a wide range of sports. And it’s the only time so much amateur sport is so readily available for viewing.

With 50 different sports and 339 events, there is a lot of choice. So what to watch? Do you focus on the popular sports, the sports making their olympic debut or something entirely different?

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