Orphaned Anne (with an e) Shirley has arrived in Green Gables, much to the surprise of ISTJ Marilla Cuthbert. But when Marilla’s neighbor, ESTJ Rachel Lynde, comes to investigate the situation, her acidic honesty makes for a painful conversation.
“Couldn’t ya send her back?” asks Rachel, when Anne steps forward.
“Well, we’re still considering on it,” mumbles Marilla.
“Considering on it? What is there to consider? I mean, a boy would have been bad enough but…”
On any typical day, the Enneagram Type 1 is on a quest to do what’s right and ensure everything they do meets their expectations, with very little room for error. They set mile-high standards for themselves that make perfect sense to them but baffle others. These Enneagram types are called “the Perfectionist” for a reason!
ENFPs often seem like they flit through life, moving from one party or adventure to the next. The truth is, there’s so much more below the surface than passion and spontaneity for the ENFP personality type.
When you watch closely, you’ll see that ENFPs have plenty of qualities that few get to see, but which make them excellent role models and friends. If you have an ENFP in your life, here are just a few of the lessons they can teach you.
You have plenty of goals you want to achieve. But, you’ll be the first to admit that you aren’t really making any progress.
Even worse? It feels like you’re being left behind. It’s as if you’re beginning a marathon and everybody else is whizzing past you at record speed—while you remain at the starting line with your feet stuck in the cement.
What gives? How come everybody else seems to be scoring these big wins while you stay in place? Let’s look at a few potential reasons.
When I took my first 16-type test, I was in shock. “This is freakishly accurate!” I thought. “How can anyone know me this well?” Fitting into a particular Myers and Briggs personality type can fill you with a sense of reassurance and belonging. It tells you that you’re not alone, and there are other people who think and see the world in a similar way to you.
People who type as Feelers in the Myers and Briggs personality system make for truly special friends and partners. That’s because they’re able to connect emotionally, communicate their thoughts and feelings, and empathize when appropriate. These types are very tuned into their emotions, which can be an essential tool to navigating the world.
ISTJs are aptly described as the “Inspectors” of the Myers and Briggs personality system and if you can remember that, everything else makes perfect sense.
Our thought process, our behaviors, our decisions, all come from a place that looks at the world as a whole and constantly places individual pieces into their logical positions therein. In general, we inspect things in order to improve and maintain them.
Being “nice” is undoubtedly one of the most virtuous personality traits you can have. After all, people who show a high level of agreeableness on the Big 5 personality test are empathetic, helpful, get along with others and demonstrate an ability to understand other people’s pains and struggles.
A close friend of mine told me once that, though I claim not to have any “best” friends, everyone thinks they are mine. Why? Because I’m an ENFP. And when I’m with you, I’m WITH you. If you’re hurt, I’m hurt. If you’re celebrating a victory, I’m the first one clinking glasses to cheer you on. My language is smiles and compliments and they flow effortlessly, bringing people into me like moths to a flame.
INFPs, the compassionate, idealistic, “healers” of the Myers and Briggs personality system, have many positive traits that make us great friends, employees, and colleagues. We’re good at tuning into others’ feelings and putting ourselves in their shoes. We pick up on subtle cues others miss, and we’re creative and imaginative.
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