The Enneagram is an invaluable system of self-awareness, helping you understand your motivation— why you do what you do. With nine different types come nine different perspectives of filtering the world, bringing insight into your strengths, blindspots, thinking and feeling patterns, and so much more.
Whether you’ve explored the depths of your type or still can’t put your finger on which one you are, a common question that comes up is: what do I do once I know my type?
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Have you ever found yourself at one of those awkward family dinners where one of your aunts tries to set you up with someone? Been there. Truth is, people give a lot of importance to relationship status. We often talk about finding “the one” or refer to our partners as our “better half,” and there’s nothing like being single at a family dinner to make you feel like the odd one out.
But is the idea of finding love and fulfillment outside of yourself ever healthy? And where do we draw the line between love and neediness?
When it comes to the INFJ’s use of language, others may look on in confusion. While the INFJ personality herself might know exactly what she means and why she says things, it’s not usually clear outside of her head. To add to the confusion, there are some common phrases that virtually all INFJs say at some point, which really should not be taken at face value. That’s because an INFJ is always trying to avoid hurting someone’s feelings or burdening them with their problems.
It shames me to say this but: I was never in awe of my mother. When I was a child, she embarrassed me. I despaired at her lack of ambition, her loyal commitment to soulless, exploitative jobs that she was far too good for, her uncomplaining acceptance of her lot in life. We lived a life of duty and routines. There were no expectations of achievement; it was almost unthinkable for me to aspire to go to university, the first in my family to achieve this goal. My notions of what I would do with my life were so brutally segregated from hers, it was like being raised by wolves.
Dreamer. Idealist. Artist. Peacemaker. Corporate Go-Getter. Which of these doesn’t come to mind when you think of an INFP?
You guessed it, the last one. As dreamers, we definitely have ambitious goals for our lives and careers, but we might seem passive or too stuck in our heads to really go after our goals.
But actually, INFPs can be very ambitious in our own way. So why don’t we project that image – at all? Let’s look at five possible reasons.
Anyone who is or knows an ENFP personality type is aware of all the things that make them wonderful. They’re bold and adventurous, happy to share ideas and chase wild passions, and always up for meeting new people and learning new things.
But for every wonderful trait that draws people to ENFPs, there’s a pitfall. ENFPs are notorious for getting in their own way and are often their own worst enemy. Here are just some of the ways ENFPs sabotage themselves, plus some tips for steering yourself back towards your true goals.
ENTJ personality types are ambitious to the point of madness, which means they often find it hard to be satisfied with their lives. It’s common for them to feel frustrated with where they are in life and be constantly looking ahead to the next milestone. Feelings of dissatisfaction can be a constant companion.
So how can ENTJs deal with this?
The answer lies in understanding the feeling, addressing the underlying causes and reframing the problem. Here are six ways to do just that.
INFJ personalities are often seen as those quiet, sensitive types who are easily upset and seem to take everything personally. Why is that? Are they really so fragile, or has society misunderstood them? Perhaps the real question is what we mean by ‘sensitive.’ For many, that word pulls up negative images of weak, shy, cry babies who just need to toughen up. And that is not the INFJ at all.
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