The Dark Side of the Enneagram: The Shadow for Each Type

One of the major benefits of the Enneagram personality test is that it not only helps you understand who you are, it gives you a very clear path to be the best version of yourself. The fundamental idea is that we each have a habit of attention we lean too far into. The Enneagram encourages us to relax this habit of attention, come back into the center, and share the best version of our true selves with the world. A world in which everyone had completely relaxed their habit of attention would be a world of great compassion.

A Truity Q&A: Behavioral Scientist & Bestselling author Paul D. Tieger on how your type can be the key to managing stress in uncertain times

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on February 05, 2021

In a time of pandemic and global uncertainty, how one deals with stress is as relevant a topic as ever. And as we know, your unique Myers-Briggs personality type can play a critical role in how you manage and process stress and anxiety. 

Why Peacemaker Type 9s Truly Are the Most Powerful Type in the Enneagram

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on January 26, 2021

When you think of powerful types within the Enneagram, it is tempting to focus on Type 8, the Leader or Type 3, the Achiever. These outwardly focused, action-oriented individuals easily garner the attention and often admiration of others. They are strong, high-achieving personalities that get things done. But did you know that the true powerbroker in the Enneagram is really Type 9, the Peacemaker?

Why You Need To Get Out Of Your Head and Into Your Body to Get The Most Out Of Your Personality System

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on January 12, 2021

The Big Five, DISC, Myers and Briggs, the Enneagram — all these personality systems help you understand yourself and other people better. By learning your own personality traits and those of others, you can begin to understand the inherent strengths and potential pitfalls we all possess.

Why Being Friends With Your Opposite Can Be Really Good for You (and Them)

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on January 05, 2021

Recently, I asked one of my best friends to send me her music recommendations. What I got back was a playlist so varied, so cool and so completely different from my music that I couldn’t believe what I was listening to.

This friend is one of the people I feel closest to in my life but she also couldn’t be more different from me. We are total opposites. And that’s why our friendship works.

How to Use Your Enneagram Type to Actually Achieve the Goals You Set, in 2021 and Beyond!

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on December 30, 2020

Given the stress and uncertainty 2020 has brought, the idea of setting goals for the new year might make you want to burrow into a hole.

When you’re taught to set and pursue goals just one way, instead of what’s best for your personality type, it’s easy to feel anxious, apathetic, or discouraged. It’s no wonder why 92% of people who set New Year’s goals end up abandoning them—they’re working against their unique personality type, not with it. 

Your Most Soul-Nourishing New Year Intention, By Enneagram Type

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on December 29, 2020

You made it through the holidays without causing any irreparable damage to your relationships and now you are into the final stretch of 2020. Your last challenge in this turbulent year is to set your new year intentions for 2021.

If there is anything 2020 taught us, it is that there are many things in life we can’t control.  With that as the backdrop, let 2021 be the year where we go within. This isn’t the year to check things off our bucket list. Instead, this new year presents an excellent opportunity to work on our internal world. 

Holiday Tips for Introverts: When You Want to be Alone But Hate to be Forgotten

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on December 23, 2020

The holiday season is a time to connect with loved ones, but it can be a stressful time for Introverts who are trying to keep up. Getting enough alone time is important to introverted types, but if they’re skipping events to be alone, they often feel a major case of FOMO. So how do you balance the much-needed time to recharge with the demanding social calendar of the holidays? 

On the First Day of Christmas, an Extravert Sang to Me...

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on December 01, 2020

It was the 2018 holiday season and my radio was keeping me company as I tended to some task in my kitchen. Soon I heard these familiar words:

It’s the hap - happiest season of all

With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings

When friends come to call

It’s the hap - happiest season of all

“Hmph!” I thought as I listened. “Maybe some of us would find the Christmas season even happier if there weren’t quite so many people around all the time!”

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