At some point during most Thanksgiving gatherings, everyone will be asked to reveal what they have to be thankful for this year. When you give your answer, you’ll undoubtedly express your gratitude as an individual and not as a representative for all Introverts everywhere.
Nevertheless, as an Introvert you actually do have many things to be thankful or grateful for. As the holidays approach, it's not a bad idea to sit back and reflect (as Introverts are known to do) about how lucky you are to be an Introvert and how being one has enriched your life.
Some personality types are hard to tell apart due to their similar preferences. One of the most common mix-ups happens with the INFP and the INFJ, and it isn’t unusual to find yourself unsure of which type you are since the likes and dislikes of these types overlap in so many ways. However, you don’t want to let these similarities fool you because they’re quite different once you break down each type’s traits.
Our relationships shape who we are. We learn from the people we share our life with, and in return they learn from us. Together, two people can learn something about themselves that they could never learn apart. Relationships are a place of merger and separation. Of coming together to create something magical, but also needing to find our independence within that relationship. To find that balance.
For Enneagram Type Nine’s, that represents the challenge they spend their life navigating.
We bring people into our lives for many different reasons: someone to party with, someone to read with, someone to help defenseless puppies with. But the people who stay in our lives are the ones whom we have grown to trust—trust with our sensitive feelings, delicate thoughts and who understand our desire to live life the way we do.
At their heart, relationships are a place of vulnerability.
Having a true partner in crime can be an absolute delight—whether that’s a friend who is always up for an adventure or a partner who says ‘yes’ more often than ‘no’ to your wild suggestions. For Type Sevens, the best things in life are often made better by sharing them. A good bottle of wine, a sunset, an arthouse film or Sunday’s bottomless brunch, are all more enjoyable when shared with someone.
Friendships and relationships can be a source of safety and protection. When we belong to a person or group, whether through shared interests, ideals or experiences, we feel a sense of belonging. We are reassured the group or relationship will go some way to buffering us from the calamity of daily life. For Enneagram Sixes, finding people or groups they can belong to is crucial.
Relationships come in many shapes and sizes. There is no script for the “perfect” relationship, only two people navigating their way to some form of interdependent existence. Some types focus on pulling people close—too close, while others try to create distance and, at times, too much distance. Finding the right balance is the work of every type in a relationship, and insights from our Enneagram type can help us navigate this drama.
Very few people in our lives truly see us or understand all that there is within us. Our close friendships and relationships are the place that is mostly likely to happen. For most people, this “seeing” and “allowing ourselves to be seen” requires a leap of faith, since you must trust that feeling uncomfortable comes with its own reward of intimacy and shared experience. But for Fours, things are a little different.
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