Orphaned Anne (with an e) Shirley has arrived in Green Gables, much to the surprise of ISTJ Marilla Cuthbert. But when Marilla’s neighbor, ESTJ Rachel Lynde, comes to investigate the situation, her acidic honesty makes for a painful conversation.
“Couldn’t ya send her back?” asks Rachel, when Anne steps forward.
“Well, we’re still considering on it,” mumbles Marilla.
“Considering on it? What is there to consider? I mean, a boy would have been bad enough but…”
You have plenty of goals you want to achieve. But, you’ll be the first to admit that you aren’t really making any progress.
Even worse? It feels like you’re being left behind. It’s as if you’re beginning a marathon and everybody else is whizzing past you at record speed—while you remain at the starting line with your feet stuck in the cement.
What gives? How come everybody else seems to be scoring these big wins while you stay in place? Let’s look at a few potential reasons.
As an Enneagram type 8, I am a natural goal-setter.
Since I was very young, I remember setting targets and goals to reach. These ranged from New Year's resolutions to grades for my classes in school, and splitting university into a four-year plan to accomplish everything I wanted to do. In my working life I’ve done the same – and I still have a whole list of things I want to achieve this year!
Good communication skills are important for everyone. You need them to build and maintain quality relationships, and to achieve your goals in educational or career settings.
In verbal communication, you should never confuse quantity with effectiveness. In fact, speaking too much can be counterproductive. Words can lose their impact when they’re unleashed in a flood, based on the resistance they provoke and the one-sided nature of the social interaction.
The phrase “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” may not always be one you embrace—especially when an unexpected life situation arises. But no matter how difficult life feels, there’s something to be said for making the most out of the moment.
A close friend of mine told me once that, though I claim not to have any “best” friends, everyone thinks they are mine. Why? Because I’m an ENFP. And when I’m with you, I’m WITH you. If you’re hurt, I’m hurt. If you’re celebrating a victory, I’m the first one clinking glasses to cheer you on. My language is smiles and compliments and they flow effortlessly, bringing people into me like moths to a flame.
For many Introverts, this unusual time of lockdowns and social distancing has been business as usual. After all, staying home and spending lots of time alone is the Introvert’s comfort zone. But INFJs are also struggling right now. The lack of face-to-face interaction, racial injustices, and all this strange uncertainty has left many INFJs feeling disconnected, dissatisfied and disheartened.
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