Judging personality types have so many strengths, but one of our greatest is the ability to thrive in a structured routine. Judgers are amazing helpers when you need someone to line up all of the details. We’re great at laying down a game plan for a vacation, organizing someone’s space, and serving as personal financial advisors. So what happens when a detail-oriented, structured being like yourself finds there is no structure?
It’s not unusual for ENTJs to find it hard to handle their emotions. We’re the personality type that prefers to squash our emotions and ignore them as much as possible. Life is less complicated when you can take out the emotion, right?
The problem is, to build healthy relationships, you need to learn how to deal with your emotions and let them show from time to time. If you ignore them for too long, you risk jumping straight to anger next time you feel any negative emotion bubbling to the surface.
Infinite stores of creativity, out-of-the-box ingenuity, high emotional intelligence, and originality—we Enneagram 4s have so much going for us!
And yet, the driving force behind our motivation is often a deep-seated feeling that we’re somehow flawed. Sometimes, we get stuck in this endless image of ourselves as flawed creatures who are somehow incapable of achieving the depth of happiness we see others attain, while the positives get completely overlooked.
We’ve all felt misunderstood at times, especially by personality types different from our own. But if you’re an INFP personality type, you likely have had that experience a lot. INFPs have so much going on inside, but we tend to keep most of what we think and feel hidden, at least until we know someone well. And as introverts, we don’t always express ourselves easily.
INFPs often enter new ventures filled with excitement and anticipation. They convince themselves that this new job/relationship/course/volunteer opportunity/hobby will bring them the happiness and fulfillment they’ve been seeking.
Driven by idealism, high expectations, and energetic enthusiasm, they come in with their hearts and minds open—only to have their hopes dashed when their goals prove more difficult to reach than they imagined. Or when the people they’re involved with, or work with, or try to collaborate with, offer resistance instead of cooperation.
When you’re in an uncertain or less-than-ideal situation, how do you react? Do you become frustrated and defensive or withdrawn and isolated? Maybe you deny your emotions altogether and make excuses for your behavior. Or, perhaps you’re not quite sure of your reaction, which you wouldn’t be alone with—most of these defense mechanisms live deep within our subconscious.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve struggled with the ability to laugh at myself. While my brother is a master of self-deprecating humor, I’ve never been able to crack a joke at my past misfortunes. In fact, as an INFJ, I have this irritating tendency to fixate on my actions a lot, which often leads me to see nothing but my shortcomings. When that happens, I enter a spiral of overthinking, and lose trust in my own ability to deal with anything that’s remotely challenging.
For Enneagram Type 8s, it can be difficult to recognize when stress levels are rising. Type 8s pride themselves on always being in control so this personality type can find it hard to accept when things in their life are getting out of hand.
This personality trait means that Enneagram Type 8s really benefit from stress-relieving activities. Here are 6 ideas to help relieve stress instantly, so you can stay on top form while keeping your mind and body healthy.
As someone with a “Type A” personality, things in your life are generally going more than well because you work hard and smart to create the life that you have. There are plenty of blessings to count. Except that you often wish you were more in control of your time, mind and relationships.
Type 7 is the enthusiastic, adventure-seeker of the Enneagram with a habit of attention that tilts to the bright side. While friends and family might describe Type 7s as happy-go-lucky and relentlessly positive, they don’t often see the anxiety that’s running just below the surface. But the dark cloud of anxiety is there, and if Type 7s seem to have an almost supernatural amount of energy, it is because this drive to be on-the-go is a subconscious strategy to keep them out of anxiety’s reach.
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