For introverted children, the process of making friends is complicated. They have far less opportunity than adults to design their own social scene and usually wind up looking for playmates in the neighborhood park or school playground. While extroverted kids can handle such a loud and boisterous environment, introverted kids are typically overwhelmed by the noise and activity. They find it hard to start talking; many will simply retreat to the safety of the sandbox or a good book.
The question of whether our genes influence our personality essentially boils down to nature versus nurture, one of the oldest debates in the history of psychology. It has dominated personality theory since Darwin noticed that survival meant passing on the most capable of our genes to the next generation.
Not everyone feels comfortable laying their heart on their sleeve, even to the person they hold the most dear. Some people bottle things up because they don't like sharing things that are personal. They feel vulnerable when they open up and worry that they will lose their partner's acceptance if they show the "real" them. Others keep secrets from their significant other to protect them. If telling the truth will potentially hurt their partner, they might go to great lengths to keep their lips sealed.
It was no secret when Jed married Kara, the two were very different people. In fact, some called them opposites. Jed was an extremely extroverted singer who loved performing on stage, and Kara was an introverted freelance writer. Many of their opposing traits complemented the other—with his strengths and her strengths working together, it seemed like life was full of possibilities.
As the least common personality type, INFJs often have trouble finding their tribe. You know the ones - the people who share the same values that you do, or the same quirks and oddities. The friends you just seem to "sync" with, without you having to try too hard to be likeable. The ones who are as curious about you as you are about them, and warmly reciprocate your efforts to connect.
Perceivers are the laid-back, adaptable all-rounders of the personality type world. They don't stress when things go wrong and have an easy time adjusting to change. Members of this free-wheeling type are typically more tolerant of people's differences than their Judging cousins, and often find themselves drawn to relationships with people from all corners of the personality spectrum.
If the person you're dating demonstrates the following behaviors, chances are you've got a Perceiver on your hands.
Most of us strive to be the best person we can possibly be, especially when it comes to our career. But if you are more successful than your partner, you can probably expect there to be some tension in your relationship. Even if you are not competing in the same challenge or line of work, living with your success, day after day, can eat away at your partner's self-esteem.
Since the 2016 election season is in full swing, you might want to brace yourself for some conflict with family, friends, and your TV screen during debates. Even if you’re not politically inclined, you’ll probably have to face conflict in the near future in some facet of your life. One of the reasons why resolving conflicts is so difficult and often unpleasant is that different people have different styles of handling conflict.
Success in relationships, careers and family life isn't about having the "right" personality. It's about understanding your individual traits and how these support, or undermine, success. When it comes to extraverts, demonstrating that you're not a shallow, loud-mouthed party animal is essential to overcoming the blanket stereotypes that follow you around like a shadow.
I'll never forget the time my ex gave me a set of grey floor mats for my car for Valentine's Day. That went over almost as well as the rowing machine another ex gave me for the holiday: “Maybe this will help make your thighs thinner." There's a reason exes become exes.