The Curious Case of the Rational Mother

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on May 16, 2017

Years ago, I was chatting with another mom at a play group, who had daughters just a few months older than mine. She was talking about how much she adored her kids. Possibly, she loved them to the exclusion of everything else. She could not imagine how dull and pointless a person's life would be without them. 

Five Ways for INTJs to Conquer the Fear of Failure

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on March 21, 2017

Most of us, whatever our personality type, have a lousy voice in the back of our heads telling us that we will never quite be good enough. It plagues us to the point that we may be unwilling to take risks or attempt certain activities, in case we fall on our behinds. When the voice looms large, performance suffers, and we're prevented from realizing our full potential. Virtually everyone hears the voice to a greater or lesser degree. It even has its own name - atychiphobia, the morbid fear of failure.

Category: INTJ

An INTJ in Norway, Land of the "Nice"

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on November 07, 2016

I live in a culture of people who deem themselves “nice”. Why else would the Nobel Prizes be given out each year in the “nice” utopia of Norway? In most respects, I concur with the “nice” label. But occasionally the niceness mutates into either avoidance of issues or passive-aggressiveness. Both of which I, as an INTJ, deplore.

Category: INTJ

5 Tips for Intuitive Types Who Can’t Explain Their Vision

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on October 04, 2016

Intuitives don't have trouble formulating thoughts and ideas, but often struggle to articulate the concepts that are so clearly defined in their mind. It's to do with the fact that you think in an abstract, seemingly random way. Intuition trains you to make sense of these thoughts without examining every detail. But details matter when you are trying to explain your ideas. Overlooking a word or feature can cause complete misunderstanding - as if you are speaking a different language.

Categories: INFJ, INFP, ENFP, ENFJ, INTJ, INTP, ENTP, ENTJ

Judging, But Not Judgmental: How to Avoid the Pitfalls of the J Personality

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on August 22, 2016

In theory, the Judging (J) personality dimension in Myers-Briggs typology has nothing to do with being judgmental.

It’s true, those who carry the (J) banner are firm in their opinions and have clear ideas about how things should be done. And they normally pay more attention to details than their Perceiving (P) counterparts, noticing things that companions routinely overlook.

Categories: INFJ, ENFJ, INTJ, ENTJ, ISTJ, ESTJ, ISFJ, ESFJ

The Introverted Intuitive's Guide to Being in the Moment

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on June 20, 2016

Mindfulness is the state of focusing your attention on the present moment in a purposeful and objective way. It is a conscious direction to "be in the moment;" to deliberately notice the sensations around you without forming any kind of judgment about those sensations. Proponents claim that it can shift your thoughts away from your usual preoccupations towards a calmer perspective on life.

Categories: INFJ, INFP, INTJ, INTP

The Upside to Being a Person Who Gets Bored With Everything

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on June 06, 2016

Do you have so many interests that you literally do not know what to do with your life? Or perhaps you have a woefully low boredom threshold and are sure that, whatever you are obsessed with now, you'll eventually lose interest and let it go—so that you can start something new and totally unrelated instead?

If so, you're not alone.

Categories: INFP, ENFP, INTJ, INTP, ENTP, ENTJ

How INTJs Can Nail the Peer Interview

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on May 11, 2016

Anyone who applies for a senior position in a collaborative environment should prepare for the possibility of a peer-to-peer interview. Organizations will often schedule one as a final stage in the hiring process when they're fairly confident about your candidacy. The idea is to turn you over to your potential teammates, or peers, who will grill you to make sure you're a team player and can rub along nicely in the trenches.

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