“I love me, I love me not. I love me, I love me not.” Introverts, does this sound like the voice in your head as it nears Valentine’s Day—or maybe every day?
Valentine’s Day is a time to celebrate the people you love or appreciate in your life. But how much do you appreciate your own talents, strengths and unique experiences that make up who you are?
It’s no secret that Introverts like their privacy but, for many introverted folks, opening up doesn’t come naturally – not even to those we trust and love. As a chatty INFJ who’s often mistaken for an Extravert, I, too, have wondered why it is so hard for me to share how I feel with those closest to me.
Do you find yourself holding a grudge for months or maybe even years? Well you’re not alone. Many of us hold grudges as a way of dealing with disappointment. This is a common trait for a whole range of personality types but especially for those with a Judging preference on the Myers and Briggs personality system.
If your job requires teamwork or supervision, you’ll inevitably be forced to deal with at least one ‘get-it-right’ personality. These people tend to be technically competent, well researched, and highly professional, which makes them hugely valuable in the workplace. They go absolutely in-depth into subjects, taking huge bites instead of small nibbles.
The holiday season is a time to connect with loved ones, but it can be a stressful time for Introverts who are trying to keep up. Getting enough alone time is important to introverted types, but if they’re skipping events to be alone, they often feel a major case of FOMO. So how do you balance the much-needed time to recharge with the demanding social calendar of the holidays?
Quiet, stylish, driven and yet “notorious” for her hard-hitting, impassioned dissents, the late Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg was one of the most complex and inspirational public figures of the last few decades. And if it feels like RBG-types are hard to find, you’re absolutely right.
It shames me to say this but: I was never in awe of my mother. When I was a child, she embarrassed me. I despaired at her lack of ambition, her loyal commitment to soulless, exploitative jobs that she was far too good for, her uncomplaining acceptance of her lot in life. We lived a life of duty and routines. There were no expectations of achievement; it was almost unthinkable for me to aspire to go to university, the first in my family to achieve this goal. My notions of what I would do with my life were so brutally segregated from hers, it was like being raised by wolves.
In my youth, I was friends with someone who I now believe — with the 20/20 vision of hindsight — to be an ESTP personality type. A classic entrepreneur, my friend was bold, direct, a fan of taking risks, box-defying and incredibly sociable. His superpower was turning every mundane gathering into a party.
Some other things I noticed about my friend:
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