Years ago, I was chatting with another mom at a play group, who had daughters just a few months older than mine. She was talking about how much she adored her kids. Possibly, she loved them to the exclusion of everything else. She could not imagine how dull and pointless a person's life would be without them.
Most of us, whatever our personality type, have a lousy voice in the back of our heads telling us that we will never quite be good enough. It plagues us to the point that we may be unwilling to take risks or attempt certain activities, in case we fall on our behinds. When the voice looms large, performance suffers, and we're prevented from realizing our full potential. Virtually everyone hears the voice to a greater or lesser degree. It even has its own name - atychiphobia, the morbid fear of failure.
I live in a culture of people who deem themselves “nice”. Why else would the Nobel Prizes be given out each year in the “nice” utopia of Norway? In most respects, I concur with the “nice” label. But occasionally the niceness mutates into either avoidance of issues or passive-aggressiveness. Both of which I, as an INTJ, deplore.
Intuitives don't have trouble formulating thoughts and ideas, but often struggle to articulate the concepts that are so clearly defined in their mind. It's to do with the fact that you think in an abstract, seemingly random way. Intuition trains you to make sense of these thoughts without examining every detail. But details matter when you are trying to explain your ideas. Overlooking a word or feature can cause complete misunderstanding - as if you are speaking a different language.
I can count on one hand the number of times I've cried. The first was when a kid called Robert punched me in the teeth. I was nine years old and the crying completely rattled me. It's when I realized that emotions were not fragile but borne of righteous indignation.
In theory, the Judging (J) personality characteristic has nothing to do with being judgmental.
It’s true, those who carry the (J) banner are firm in their opinions and have clear ideas about how things should be done. And they normally pay more attention to details than their Perceiving (P) counterparts, noticing things that companions routinely overlook.
I would bet that every introvert has dreamt about taking a solo trip before. Once you decide to take the plunge and go on a solo vacation, however, where do you go? The ideal places for an introvert to travel alone would meet the following criteria:
Mindfulness is the state of focusing your attention on the present moment in a purposeful and objective way. It is a conscious direction to "be in the moment;" to deliberately notice the sensations around you without forming any kind of judgment about those sensations. Proponents claim that it can shift your thoughts away from your usual preoccupations towards a calmer perspective on life.
Do you have so many interests that you literally do not know what to do with your life? Or perhaps you have a woefully low boredom threshold and are sure that, whatever you are obsessed with now, you'll eventually lose interest and let it go—so that you can start something new and totally unrelated instead?
If so, you're not alone.
Inspired by a similar post about Extraverts, I'm here to talk about the mistakes that Introverts—myself very much included—may be making without realizing it. Some of them are more obvious than others, but these are some that I've only recently caught myself doing.