Why Do INFJs Hate Feeling Vulnerable?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on March 24, 2019

Have you found yourself wondering why your INFJ friend, partner, or family member has trouble expressing their emotions? Does it feel like pulling teeth to get them to open up to you, despite your close relationship? It seems a little odd that the INFJ—one of the most sympathetic types of Myers-Briggs personality model—has such difficulty voicing their own emotions.

Top Ten Reasons why INFJs are Walking Paradoxes

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on March 10, 2019

INFJs often feel misunderstood. Perhaps it’s because they’re quiet and reserved and tend to share their deepest thoughts and feelings only with select people. Or maybe it’s because they are so rare—personality test research shows they make up less than 1% of the population.

More likely though, it’s because they are walking, talking contradictions. As Introverts who want to help people, and feelers who love logic, they can seem confusing, even to themselves.

Confidence for Introverts (Not Another Patronizing and Simplistic Guide)

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on February 25, 2019

Confidence is normally described as a belief in yourself and your abilities. I don't like this definition because it feels too static. In my mind, self-confidence is not a single belief or idea but a process; it's how you function despite all the challenges you face and the critics who will make you question yourself.

Wait, Am I the Problem? Six Signs of an Unhealthy Introvert and What You Can Do About It

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on January 27, 2019

Are you an Introvert? Do you ever have those moments where you start to feel overwhelmed by everything and everyone? For me personally, when someone comes in demanding my attention and energy -- especially while I’m barely surviving by a thread -- it can make me pretty upset. After having to repeatedly stand up for yourself and reinforce your boundaries, it’s not surprising that anger and resentment might build up over time.

How INFJs Cope With Grief

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on January 06, 2019

Are you grieving? That sounds like a simple question, right? This month marked the 10-year anniversary of my father's death, so I asked myself the following questions, "Are you still grieving?" and "Have you moved past this traumatic event yet?" Without hesitation, my first answer was, "Yes! Of course. It's been so long."

Back then, I didn’t realize how complicated grief could be.

How Do Feelers Feel Their Feelings? Fe Versus Fi Explained

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on December 16, 2018

If you find yourself here on Truity reading articles and dipping your toes into the wonderful world of personality theory, chances are you have at least a cursory understanding of the Myers-Briggs® personality model. I sometimes find myself reading social situations and attempting to understand others through the tenets of personality theory. I doubt I’m alone in this activity!

Why Stress Stops Creativity for INFJs - And How They Can Get It Flowing Again

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on November 18, 2018

INFJs are sensitive, creative people with a passion for helping others and expressing their ideas. They may seem quiet and reserved on the outside, but on the inside, these complex folks are a bubbling cauldron of insights, energy and enthusiasm. But there’s one thing that can stop an INFJ from expressing their creativity and that’s stress. Stress can stop creativity in its tracks, leaving the sensitive INFJ to feel like they’ve failed, they’ve lost their talent or maybe they never really had any creativity in the first place.

How Judgers Can Effectively Handle Requests for Last Minute Changes at Work

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on November 04, 2018

If the final letter of your Myers-Briggs personality type is a J, you are a Judger. You’re a planner, scheduler, and list maker. Your opposite is the Perceiver. They tend to make decisions as they go, and might change their plans at the last minute.

As a Judger, last minute changes can be a real challenge to your balance. They’re also unavoidable. When they happen at work, you’re expected to roll with it and remain productive. That requires some coping skills. Fortunately, there are some strategies to help you handle these situations.

Should an INFJ Accept a Management Position?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on September 16, 2018

You’re principled, organized and driven – so why, as an INFJ, are you not encouraged to pursue leadership roles?

The INFJ’s steady reputation often earns us positions of responsibility such as life coach, counselor, or employee relations officer; but positions of actual authority tend to evade us (or we avoid them). It’s an odd one, and it may have as much to do with the way our culture understands hierarchical structures as it does with our abilities.

Why INFJs Are Both Thinkers And Feelers (And How To Find a Balance Between the Two)

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on July 22, 2018

INFJs are sensitive, compassionate people who care about other people’s feelings and want to make the world a better place. But they are also deep thinkers with a clear sense of logic and, often, a love of science. This combination of artistic vision and fact-based reasoning can make INFJs appear to have two distinct personalities, and can confuse even INFJs themselves, especially when it comes to making career choices.

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