Perhaps the most sensitive of all the personality types, INFJs take it hard when someone they trust lets them down. They tend to hold on to anger longer than they should and are capable of holding a grudge even when the other person has apologized, repeatedly, for their wrongdoing.
Under these conditions, forgiveness may seem impossible. Even if you want to forgive, you may go back and forth between accepting the reality of the situation and being consumed with thoughts of bitterness and revenge.
Mindfulness is the state of focusing your attention on the present moment in a purposeful and objective way. It is a conscious direction to "be in the moment;" to deliberately notice the sensations around you without forming any kind of judgment about those sensations. Proponents claim that it can shift your thoughts away from your usual preoccupations towards a calmer perspective on life.
There's no shortage of guidance about how to respond to negative feedback. Whether the criticism comes as a shock or is entirely expected, the same advice is consistently touted: Listen carefully, don't get defensive, and act on the feedback to improve your performance.
As the least common personality type, INFJs often have trouble finding their tribe. You know the ones - the people who share the same values that you do, or the same quirks and oddities. The friends you just seem to "sync" with, without you having to try too hard to be likeable. The ones who are as curious about you as you are about them, and warmly reciprocate your efforts to connect.
Inspired by a similar post about Extraverts, I'm here to talk about the mistakes that Introverts—myself very much included—may be making without realizing it. Some of them are more obvious than others, but these are some that I've only recently caught myself doing.
While all educators are susceptible to burnout, the introverted teacher is fighting a unique battle. They are willingly immersing themselves in an environment designed to exhaust themselves.
As an introverted teacher, I quickly realized I was in over my head. It wasn’t the teaching itself that really got to me; it was the constant external stimulation that accompanies the world of education. Between busy hallways, loud noises, and bright lights I would, inevitably, be left utterly exhausted by mid-week.
Ah, the open plan office. It's to the 21st century what the cubicle farm was to the 1980s - everywhere. Today's employers are tearing down walls as a business imperative and with them, the barriers to communication and idea flow. Even freelancers are leaving their solitary kitchens and coffee shops. Formal co-working spaces, which offer pay-per-desk access to a community of like-minded individuals, are a mega-trend among the self-employed.
Unpredictable as weather, INFJs are difficult characters to peg down. Intensely private, but with a strong desire to share themselves with the people they trust. Highly idealistic, but with a deep sense of justice that prevents them from using their energy for personal gain. These contradictions become especially apparent when an INFJ is facing conflict. Although they will do everything they can to keep the peace, if conflict is unavoidable, they can fight back in quarrelsome, irrational ways.
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