About the Author

Samantha is the Lead Trainer at Truity and will shortly be a certified Enneagram Coach. She believes our personality is the key to navigating life's strangest hurdles. Despite her best efforts Samantha is an ENTP and Enneagram 7, who is always surrounded by a pile of books, a steaming cup of tea and a block of her favourite chocolate. Samantha is currently studying with Beatrice Chestnut and Uranio Paes of CP Enneagram Academy undertaking their Professional Enneagram Certification. Currently located in Auckland, New Zealand. Find her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samanthamackay/. Check out her course "Unlocking the Power of Your Personality" at www.truity.com/training

What Do Enneagram Fours Secretly Want in Relationships?

Very few people in our lives truly see us or understand all that there is within us. Our close friendships and relationships are the place that is mostly likely to happen. For most people, this “seeing” and “allowing ourselves to be seen” requires a leap of faith, since you must trust that feeling uncomfortable comes with its own reward of intimacy and shared experience. But for Fours, things are a little different. 

Category: Type Four

Tips to Recover from Burnout, Using your Personality Type

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on September 16, 2021

My experience with burnout, not once but twice, shifted the trajectory of my career forever — although it affected me differently each time. The first time I was exposed to prolonged workplace stress, a career change was already overdue; I just didn’t know what the change should be. So, leaving wasn’t something I would regret. I simply gave my notice and picked up some temp work while I figured out my next steps. 

The second time was different, very different.

How Does Personality Develop in Childhood?

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on September 12, 2021

This blog post is part of our Fundamentals of the Enneagram series, which takes a deeper dive into all the Enneagram elements - wings, arrows, subtypes, centers of intelligence, growth pathways and more. For an overview of the series, start with our introductory post, then check out our story on defenses here.

 

What do Enneagram Twos Secretly Want in Relationships?

Our relationships are often a reflection of ourselves; of something within us that we can’t see clearly. Our friends and relationships often offer us something we can’t yet provide for ourselves. While that could be a recipe for codependency, it mostly is an opportunity to see a strength practiced in action and find a way to adopt it for ourselves, instead of relying on someone else to provide it for us. 

Understanding the Psychological Defense Mechanisms of the Enneagram

This blog post is part of our Fundamentals of the Enneagram series, which takes a deeper dive into all the Enneagram elements - wings, arrows, subtypes, centers of intelligence, growth pathways and more. For an overview of the series, start with our introductory post here. 

In the introductory blog post to Enneagram Fundamentals, I described defenses as being like band aids we have forgotten to take off. Covering up wounds that never quite healed. 

What do Enneagram Ones Secretly Want in Love?

Relationships are a wonderful place to help us grow and develop hidden parts of ourselves. It is easy to pretend that we are looking for someone just like us, who sees the world through the same lens or perspective that we do. While that might be what we ask for on the surface, all of us have a deeper want or need in our friendships or relationships—one we don’t often voice, or are even that aware of. 

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